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So Wildcat, he's everything good. He's in school and works two jobs so I don't see him much, but he's superfun and intelligent, thoughtful and generous, funny and sensitive. And he liked me for...

Wildcat...
I've been busy! That was the summer, this is the school year. And YAY I have a really wonderful great healthy thing going with a suitable young man. For almost 8 months. I hope you...

I didn't mention this happened in October. And now they are BFF. They met through me, they didn't even like each other before and they wouldn't even know each other if it weren't for me (one was a...

I had never had this feeling before, but last summer I felt like one of my friends was poaching another, as in they were going to be friends with each other INSTEAD of me, not in addition to me. A...

I always like to know, but at the same time take a hint. If you call someone 3 times and she never calls you back, she doesn't want to talk to you.

He said he didn't want a relationship and he's acting like he doesn't want a relationship, so he probably doesn't want a relationship. Don't waste your pretty on this guy.

That's cool, because I'm taking a break from real guys at the moment! Too much. (And whatshisname's not coming back until the end of October. I'm dying... )

Have a couple of drinks but that's it. Other people will probably drink too much and they'll come up to you to talk which will make things easier.

Bad news though, there is no magic formula. ...

Hey Will,
Yeah, cut down on the gaming. Be around people -- that should be easy enough at school. Maybe make like you're reading a book or something, but really pay attention to people's...

Hey, mine aren't the same! :p Okay how about advice on trying to work something out with a guy who seems inexperienced (in the love area) and whose friends say is shy?

Guys: DO NOT -- I repeat DO NOT -- approach a woman by telling her to smile or telling her she looks pissed off. I get that all the time and it makes me want to kill. If you want a lady to smile,...

He DID cheat on you. Do you want to stay with him now?

Yay Kingpin! I quit drinking too, for now, and life is better. For now.

Bad news. You can't really do anything because you can't make someone like you. But you can give her the space she's looking for and hope she misses you. But she can't miss you if you're always...

Get over it and be happy is a lot easier said than done, and even thought there are 'billions' of other people out there, you might only ever really click with 4 of them. So it's okay to have a pity...

Which is easy if you really don't care, but so impossible when you like someone.

It's gross that "women with baggage need to be treated mean." Tragic, really.

What about girls? The more I don't care the more the guys want to talk to me. The more I call them on their smooth lines the harder they try to outdo the last one. I guess, ladies, we have to act...

Oh, plus you should like the Red Sox. :p

1. Funny
2. intelligent
3. interesting
4. curious
5. paying attention

I think everything else filters off those things. Like you can't be sweet, thoughtful or generous if you haven't...

Way. (Except for the fat part, you can't help your hair or your height.)

That is gross. Is that really true?

Unless they're REALLY fat. Lol

So if you guys don't use feelings, what are you operating on?

And that's true: It's NOT about your money or your car, and personally smooth is a turnoff for me. It's your presence and how you make me feel. Charisma. Chemistry. Be a great version of...

Wildcat makes a great suggestion here. If you consider yourself shy, just start talking to EVERYONE. On the elevator, in line at the post office, whatever. You can work on conversation skills, so...

Pick whatever's more important to you, this boyfriend or a career taking off your clothes for money. It doesn't look like you can have both.

No we're not talking about no gift we're talking no acknowlegement, which is free. Notes are free. Nice walks are free. Flowers or pretty leaves are all around right now. Thoughts are free. And...

Be yourself. Compliment her sweater or ask how her weekend is going. Does she follow baseball. Find a way in but be yourself; you don't need a line. Guys who try to be all smooth I always want to...

SPARKS!! Not shallow lust sparks, but wow you are a supersmart funny well-traveled interesting person SPARKS!! I'm pining. It's good he went away because now I can't come on too strong. Happy...

Well, er, our mutual friend told me he was shy and if I wanted anything to happen I would have to say something. So I said I know you're leaving on Tuesday (he's going out of the country for a few...

Seriously. Don't call for at least a month. I don't know who broke up with who or how long you've been apart, but don't call and stay busy. For now that is the plan.

I met an awesome shy guy this weekend and he had no game and I LIKED that. He was just talkimg to his friends and he is really funny and smart, so I (who often consider myself shy) kept going over...

It means the person is a taker and you should high-tail it on out of there.

Consider why you're taking a step back and asking all these questions. Obviously we don't know you and don't have the answers, but these are problems that have been bubbling under for a while. If...

And abusive reationships start with overly jealous men who keep their girlfriends from seeing their friends and family so they have no support system and no one to talk to if they have negative...

This doesn't sound like a healthy equitable relationship. It sounds like he treats you like a child or a pet. That's not good for either of you. If it's not too late, break this pattern now. If...

I agree with Wildcat. Give it a few days and then light and easy, try for a specific meeting when you talk. Something light like ice cream or coffee, not a big deal date. Then you can start to get...

Well, think about it. If she's 19 and been in a relationship since she was 15, she's going to be curious about a lot of things she may feel she "missed out on." If you give her that space, she may...

You don't know who he is either. This is a stupid move. You have too much to lose. Cut off contact. Now.

Be well.

You ask "What do i do to not lose him forever?" Why are you afraid you are going to? Because you're afraid that he'll find out you broke his trust, or because you think if he's bi he won't be...

She sounds very confused and I don't see why you want to get caught up in all the confusion. This isn't a healthy situation for you.

Some friend you are, if you leave them when they need help. Perhaps you didn't read the whole thing -- one of my favorite people is having a crisis and I want advice on how to broach the subject...

I think you should break up with this guy. You seem very unsure about him and have a new problem every week. Hopefully when school goes back you'll meet someone new.

I agree with you. I'm not trying to diagnose her, though, I just want her to get help. How do I get her to see that she's not acting 'normal?' How do I approach it?

Personally if a guy became needy and clingy, I would break up with him, I wouldn't cheat. She didn't think very highly of you. As much as it hurts, you are better off without her.

One of my best friends is -- I think -- going through a manic episode or maybe a psychotic break. She's drinking a lot, can't really have a linear conversation, she's very distractable, isn't taking...

Amen to that!

And I don't know what leads men to cheat. Are you asking because you're thinking of cheating? Take a deep breath here. Focus on this woman -- do you actually care about her or...

It's not wrong to FEEL anything in particular. It's how you choose to act on it that could be wrong. If you've got a good thing going, why botch it up? If she's had more partners than you, so...

One of my best friends is -- I think -- going through a manic episode or maybe a psychotic break. She's drinking a lot, can't really have a linear conversation, she's very distractable, isn't taking...