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  1. Question: Ex Conflict

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    All of your responses make sense. Not to highjack...

    All of your responses make sense. Not to highjack your post Grayfox, but maybe you can give some input or get some info from what the people comment on this.
    So, It was a bad one (If you want to ...
  2. Question: Ex Conflict

    by holeinheart21
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    Tal, jmw and kctiger, why do you even respond to...

    Tal, jmw and kctiger, why do you even respond to the ex's? How long has it been since the end of the relationship? The reason I ask, is because in no contact you are supposed to disregard these...
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    You screwed up not jut once, but twice. You took...

    You screwed up not jut once, but twice. You took for granted what you had, and even said that the love you had, and spending the rest of your life with just him, wasn't enough for you. It really...
  4. Sounds like an excuse. These are all things that...

    Sounds like an excuse. These are all things that he could do with you there... instead of breaking up with you, he could talk to you about it and see if you were going to be supportive of him doing...
  5. OK, this is all too familiar to the way my last...

    OK, this is all too familiar to the way my last few weeks went. I fell in to the same trap as you did, but the thing is, thanks to some of the advice on here, it seems as though there is a way to get...
  6. She doesn't want you in her life, but she needs...

    She doesn't want you in her life, but she needs you? Sounds like you are just going to be filling a void.

    I had not read your initial post until after I read this most recent one, but after...
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    Speaking from personal experience, if you start...

    Speaking from personal experience, if you start doing that for her, then she will expect it rather than appreciate it. I am able to look back now and realize that, and that is something I will take...
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    So I guess it should be something short and...

    So I guess it should be something short and sweet, not necessarily sweet, but just to the point?
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    I'm not the expert here and have been asking many...

    I'm not the expert here and have been asking many questions myself and dealing with a similar situation... but over time I am learning to accept that even though I was great and claimed that I knew...
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    Well given all of that, how do I handle her now...

    Well given all of that, how do I handle her now contacting me wanting to know why I am not communicating with her anymore? She felt that our communication over the last two weeks was going well, not...
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    Honestly, this to me seems to be a bad situation...

    Honestly, this to me seems to be a bad situation for your friend. If she is even considering this, then there is some doubt in her mind about the relationship and that is not a good thing. Now that...
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    Thanks for the comments Tal. I think sometimes...

    Thanks for the comments Tal. I think sometimes we just need to hear it from someone, because it is difficult to successfully convince ourselves that we are doing the best thing for US. I spent the...
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    So, I was looking back at your response in this...

    So, I was looking back at your response in this post, and particularly the last part where you were saying that if I was going to give it another chance, to start as friends and Re-Court her. As you...
  14. Ok, I have to say that I am in the very same...

    Ok, I have to say that I am in the very same situation that you are in and actually up until just a few days ago, I spent much of my day sitting there contemplating how much I just wanted to tell her...
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    It is one thing if the man is buying gifts and...

    It is one thing if the man is buying gifts and paying for things, and not also contributing in other areas of the relationship (i.e. telling you they think you are beautiful, spending alone time with...
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    Well, my first question is: Why did you break up...

    Well, my first question is: Why did you break up with him? I understand he has grown distant and maybe you were thinking that if you broke up with him then he would open his eyes. Maybe that isn't...
  17. Well, many of my friends, have informed me that...

    Well, many of my friends, have informed me that this is the reason why many of my girlfriends left me. Generally they were all in their early 20's (I am 25) and were still in this "stage", I guess...
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    Well, the fact that she approached you and tried...

    Well, the fact that she approached you and tried to kiss you are good signs. This is showing that she is a t least taking some initiative to represent her interest in you. Seeing that she at least...
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    Well, sounds like she is either playing hard to...

    Well, sounds like she is either playing hard to get, is not wanting to write back to commit in anyway, or in all honesty, from personal experience, this could mean that she enjoys your company, but...
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    I will answer this question, as I can relate in a...

    I will answer this question, as I can relate in a similar way, although not so severe. He is in love with her, and honestly, love is the most powerful thing in the world, and unfortunately, it is...
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    Yes, I do get vacation time, thankfully! Not too...

    Yes, I do get vacation time, thankfully! Not too sure if I would survive if I didn't :) I like the idea of traveling inexpensively. I do drive to see friends a few hours away, and it doesn't cost too...
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    No Time to meet new people

    Well, much of the advice that is given, is to go out and do things and meet new people. I can completely understand how that definitely will make a difference in getting over a relationship,...
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    Well, I had a talk with my friend who had set me...

    Well, I had a talk with my friend who had set me up with my now- ex girlfriend(they have been friends for quite sometime). She was telling me that I was wasting my time even considering waiting...
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    If I don't respond, how do I handle the situation...

    If I don't respond, how do I handle the situation when I have to see her at the my doctor's office?
    At what point, or what should I expect from her that would warrant her deserving of another...
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    Honestly, I have been discussing this with a...

    Honestly, I have been discussing this with a female friend of mine, only in her situation the roles are rerversed... The situation however, slightly different, because she has come to realize that...
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    Well, first off, I will start by saying, that,...

    Well, first off, I will start by saying, that, there really is only me to blame for the position that I am in now. I am aware of that and accept that, but in all honesty, sometimes we have to give...
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    So I just thought I would give an update on how...

    So I just thought I would give an update on how the situation went. She never called me yesterday, but did send me a text message while I was at work saying, "Did you get off tomorrow or not?". This...
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    A light bulb turned on right above my head when I...

    A light bulb turned on right above my head when I read this. You are incredibly right that I need to stop worrying about teaching her a lesson and think more about taking care of myself. I do realize...
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    Okay, you have very vaild points and are 100%...

    Okay, you have very vaild points and are 100% correct. However, how should I go about cutting my losses. Considering that she is supposed to be calling me tonight to tell me what she has figured out,...
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    First time doing the "breaking up" part

    Well, it's been a few months since I have been on here, and its been almost a year since I have posted a question, rather than a response to someone else's concerns. However, as reliable as love is...
  31. You need to tell her that you have other plans...

    You need to tell her that you have other plans and you won't be able to make it. Remember she is the one that wanted the space. Now she has it. Make plans with some friends for that same night, that...
  32. The best way to handle it would be to take...

    The best way to handle it would be to take everything at arms length. Don't let anything get personal in any way, and if she is on the same train as you, a simple "hello" is all that needs to be...
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    Forget worrying about a way to find out if she...

    Forget worrying about a way to find out if she will come back. Be more concerned about no longer communicating with her and doing things just for yourself. If you look at the first time that you got...
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    Forget worrying about a way to find out if she...

    Forget worrying about a way to find out if she will come back. Be more concerned about no longer communicating with her and doing things just for yourself. If you look at the first time that you got...
  35. The reason for his so called "boredom" is because...

    The reason for his so called "boredom" is because he is 21 years old. It has nothing to do with whether it is a male or female. It has nothing to do with girls being sugar and spice and guys wanting...
  36. My thoughts are that if you were going to speak...

    My thoughts are that if you were going to speak to anyone about it, then it would need to be her... but at the same time, it is possible that her response would be simply that she didn't recall this...
  37. Take the time to learn from this. You said that...

    Take the time to learn from this. You said that you had that controlling type of behavior, so she wanted a break. You continued with that behavior, and so she broke it off. Then you continued with...
  38. Note: To put this out there before I begin to...

    Note: To put this out there before I begin to comment on this situation, I am in no way supportive of physical abuse

    I have to say that I cannot wholeheartedly agree with some of the posts on...
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    It doesn't matter whether he used drugs in your...

    It doesn't matter whether he used drugs in your home. The point is that he used drugs to feed his addiction, regardless of where he used them... and to even think for second that you should have told...
  40. You should tell your family to stop answering her...

    You should tell your family to stop answering her calls and tell your mutual friends that you don't want to know anything about what is going on with her or anything that she says. Or, you can just...
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    You need to stop all communication with her. If...

    You need to stop all communication with her. If she initiates the conversation, then fine, you can speak to her, but you need to get yourself to a point where you are totally confident in yourself...
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    Divorce is such a brutal process and even more...

    Divorce is such a brutal process and even more brutal for the kids. Your husband is obviously not holding his end of the deal, and that is wrong in all ways, especially since you already went to...
  43. You are learning at a younger age than many, and...

    You are learning at a younger age than many, and by your post, it sounds like you are more mature than many kids your age... actually, in a sense you remind me of myself at your age... it appeared ad...
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    It is good that you are feeling better about...

    It is good that you are feeling better about things and I can perhaps understand that you view it stubborn and selfish if you aren't there to support her... but think about that again... that is THE...
  45. Sometimes, you never know what you've got, until...

    Sometimes, you never know what you've got, until its gone right? This is very true and unbelievably realistic. But, unlike life, in love there are second chances, and in many cases, many more chances...
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    So realize, that what the people on here are...

    So realize, that what the people on here are telling you, is the real deal. The idea of No Contact is not to win her back... that is not likely... but rather to allow you to live normal again, and...
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    ... After a few weeks of keeping consistent, I...

    ... After a few weeks of keeping consistent, I rewarded myself. I took myself out and bought myself a few things that I wanted, such as clothes, electronics, shoes and a few other things. I took...
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    Bummed, first I will start by saying that I am 3...

    Bummed, first I will start by saying that I am 3 and a half months out of a relationship... ending the same way that yours did. If you feel like reading about it, here is the llink:...
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    Lol... I wasn't going to forward the message to...

    Lol... I wasn't going to forward the message to anybody... I don't bite in to the forwarding nonsense... but considering the circumstances, I was trying to figure out what it meant that she would...
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    So, just last night, I am just sitting in my...

    So, just last night, I am just sitting in my room, watching TV and then I get a text message... I was going to check it in a minute, but then forgot about it and started doing something else. About...
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