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I recently have been having lots of trouble saving a friendship that is falling apart. I will try to keep it short and simple. My friend and I have been best friends since the...

Great advice again.
I have been very fortunate to have had these opportunities come up. My hard work has paid off. I have worked for the college newspaper for 4 years. Afterwards I was offered a...

Wow! Thank you for sharing. I love how you involved yourself in various fields.

I am not a big city person. I love the outdoors way too much. I enjoy visiting big cities and just visiting new...

I am glad to read all of these answers. Currently I am very afraid to commit to anything (career, etc... ). I cannot make up my mind up at all. I do not know where I am suppose to live? What I should...

Thank you for your insight. I sure have had some fun with photography. It is the only thing that I look forward too when comparing to my other jobs. Maybe that should be telling me something. I just...

So, here I am, a recent graduate. I finished with a bachelors in psychology. Towards my senior year I decided that I wanted to take a year off to work in my field in order to make sure that I am...

Wow, beachloverjohn, that was a very thoughtful comment. Thank you very much.

So, I have been single for almost a year now. For those who remember, I dated my ex for roughly 2.5 years. Afterwards I rebounded with a girl and decided that I need to stay single for a while to...

Your addition is greatly appreciated. Thank you

There is a lot of great information on this site regarding relationships. There has been much ground covered and information shared. I just wanted to share some of my helpful tips to live a more...

Yes, look up Zig Ziglar. He is a great motivational speaker and has written "See You at the Top." He also has his own website and podcast. He is very old school and preaches some Christian values....

I am so busy with life that I rarely now have the opportunity to go online but I please do not hesitate to ask me questions regarding my experience and I will gladly help as much as I can. This place...

Hello everyone!!
Its been a few months since I last checked in so I thought I would stop by and let you all know how I am doing.

I am still single and I love it. I had a few opportunities for...

Something big and hurtful might be coming your way but you will not know until she tells you. I would acknowledge to her how you feel about her being distant but if she needs time to herself that you...

Yeah I have come to realize that too now.
Things have been good lately which I am very happy about. The only place I see her is web I go over to see some common friends. I was at a party this...

Well, she basically wants to have the cake and eat it too. She is unsure as to what she wants so she wants to keep you around while she makes up her mind.

Keep up the no contact that you have...

You start right away by saying that your 6.5 years is bumpy and just okay.

Right there you should have a good reason not to be in this relationship. If you constantly fight and even with some...

Whatever happpened, happened. Now it is time to focus on the recovery rather than the past. I suggest going No Contact. Start healing yourself by letting go of the past. Focus on your studies, hang...

I realize that I am only mad at one thing and one thing only. I am angry at the fact that she did it twice to me. How can a person do something like this twice when I clearly stated that I did not...

It's funny how things are. Today I went to my botany lab (I know botany, I need to fill my requirement) and talked to my lab partner. It turns out that my lab partner works in the same psychology lab...

I just need to keep telling myself the negative aspects of our relationship because I keep thinking that our relationship was a dream when in reality it wasn't. We did fight. We did compete with each...

Thank you tal and I completely agree. I am just wondering when these reactions will stop. They are so strong now, every time something happens with the ex. I know with time and NC they will calm down...

The things she told me were said at different times throughout the night and I was not expecting it at all.

But I am having a difficult time syncing my heart with my brain. I do not know why I am...

So you would think, you really would think that I would have at least moved on a bit from her. But no! I can't. Why?

Well, last night a friend of mine invited me to a party. I have not been to a...

So to continue this whole learning experience I will post what I have learned so far through making mistakes, having gone through this whole experience, and just by being in a relationship.

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Another important task that I need to do is take my ex off
This imaginary pedistole. Many of us glorify our first love or salient love because at some point in time they did make us feel like a...

I just wanted to post this to let everyone know how I process certain feelings. This thread has been seen plenty of times so I know plenty of people read it and gain some kind of knowledge from it....

That's the thing, I just want to take a baseball to my head and beat some sense into my head. All these stupid irrational fears go through my head. I feel like I will never find anyone whom I will...

I do not know what is wrong with me. Its been almost 5 months now and this still happens. Yesterday was a typical day. I went to class and went straight to work afterwards. At work I started to think...

Ha ha ha. Good luck to you too emo. A new semester begins and with that new opportunities come. I am glad that I can have friends around me to distract me from this situation.

We will get there...

Thanks Emo. I've been telling myself not to think to deep into this situation because she has a boyfriend and I am not letting her ever come back. Now, that is the logical and rational side of my...

So what? Come on! How can I just let her come in and out of my life like that? When someone hurts me this much I cannot just let them in my life again. I can't! Especially when I still have feelings...

I will have to be next time she pulls off something like that.

What bothers me the most is that she came to this event in front of all my close friends and family. They all know what happened and...

I know Tal. But even with the retreat, she is the one initiating conversations, etc... I have been very good at keeping NC and moving on with my life. Why does she make the effort to check in on me?...

Wow! Can we talk about a curveball please. Tonight was my second gallery exhibit. Everything was going well. I was surrounded by faculty, friends, family, etc... Nothing could have gone wrong. I was...

Yes I am. I am able to acknowledge how I feel, control/deal with the emotions, and still continue living my life. I know my feelings will never disappear for her. Right now they are still strong but...

Well, while we were talking I felt fine. We even ended up dancing together that night and it felt... well it felt like it was the norm. Holding her and feeling her body against mine felt amazing. It...

Well I must say the day ended up pretty well. Most of the day I spent my time involving myself with the social justice program. It was a heavy load and it distracted me very much from the ex. After...

Today is another day. I never dream but last night I had one. I dreamed that her an I are getting back together. I am taking 50 steps back in my recovery when it comes to my emotions. I have to stick...

So this is painful. We briefly said hi and that is basically the only contact we had. We were sitting all in a big group discussion and we made eye contact. We both gave each other an endearing look....

You broke up once for a reason. Like Clue said above she could have not learned a lesson this fast and probably realizes that you are a good guy. I was involved in a 2 year relationship. We broke up...

So I need some help. I have mentioned before that I am going to this social justice retreat this weekend. It is a great time and I really enjoy listening to others tell their story. But there is one...

Exactly, I think it is important to make sure you acknowledge your feelings and accept them. Yesterday, even though I was down, I still told myself that this was just a phase that will disappear. I...

To be honest, I trashed everything that even made me think of her the first week. I have nothing of hers. No letters, objects, presents, etc... This sweatshirt I got back yesterday and it was a bad...

I am just having a few bad days of the "ex withdrawals" that was caused by several little things. It will get better soon.

I put on my old sweatshirt and it still smells like her so I am about to...

Yeah, I am trying to stay as confident as possible but things have not been going well.

My taekwondo instructor called me tonight and tore me a new one because a certain situation (cannot go into...

Well tonight I went to hang out with my friend who is my ex's roommate. She asked me to pick her up since it was dark outside and she did not feel safe. While we were on the phone my ex told her for...

I always have been overanalytical and critical of my own self. I cannot just turn it off but I can ackowledge it and control it which is what I am choosing now. Yesterday was just one of those days.

In the last 5 years of my life I cried twice (when my parents divorced and when my first ex and I broke up).

It is not so much of a masculinity thing. I don't really know why I can't. I think its...