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a)"love the other like you love yourself"- like yourself:not more, not less

b)yes - we're all the same. We're all "in the same boat"
Animals too, by the way

c)love (unconditional&true)...

Hi talaniman!
It would have been enough to be able to give you my credit, but I couldn't. So I have to post this saying that you've said all I would have
:)
m.

I know a lot of people who bring God's name to their lips at all times, but God never gets deeper than their lips, and there's not even one single thing considered to go against God's spirit they...

Dear aqua,
I tried to read carefully, to read between the lines, and to make the most of your letter. The line which sounds worst of all is:
"He says that I have to take care of things or he will...

... and I thought this goes on "only in israel!"...
But you know, after all, it's a great workout - I should use them more!

I agree with chuck, don't build any fence between you.
He's controlling her, she got into this relationship because of her law sel esteem she has a problematic family history which will almost sure...

After reading the posts above, I might have something to add:
It regards especially your last question.
I think your mother got scared. The fact that you were considering another possibility...

my dear,
first of all, you state yourself that he has no respect for you. Beside this intolerable behavior, is he being disrespectful in any other ways?
my guess is, he is.
respect is something...

I'm so sad to hear about that.
I just wish to reinforce you, because you're going to need so much strength right now.
My warmest hug to you,
Millie

I'd like to mention first, that she is not your responsibility - she might have held your picture for different reasons, not necessarily as a cry for help from you specifically.
But it was...

I looked at the former thread. First of all, read again wildcat's GREAT answer. It says all there is to say.
Then, take a good look at yourself: have you learnt anything at all? What goes through...

You're right. The problem is people don't listen to each other, so how can they listen to god?

Hi James,
You're asking yourself:"Am I just being toyed with?"

Sorry, but I think you are.
You have a right to a closure, so that BOTH of you could move on peacefully.
And there's no more...

Hi Talaniman,
And thank you for your comment, because it makes me elaborate on my last phrase-assuming your question addressed it.
(at least, i feel that this phrase need some addition.)
I...

To tell you the truth, I don't like the way it sounds to me - he likes what he has with you, but feels free. As Talaniman said, at your age it might be great, no ties, but ONLY IF IT'S RIGHT FOR...

I'm sorry if I got something wrong along the line, but your last post sort of reverses everything (remember wildcat's recommendation to give as many details as possible?)
What I understand from this...

Dear aqua,
It will be healed, and when it is , you will feel better.
You never forget, but it's just another memory, it doesn't hurt anymore.
BUT- it takes time.
So be patient , it will come.
I...

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Dear "aqua"
I hope it's o.k. if I send you this post, otherwise you would have pm chava.
You say:"... I got myself into a situation that I knew was wrong. I knew that something...

Since I can't express my agreement with KRS unless writing a post, I might as well add the following:
We have to be VERY careful making general statements like these, "wrongful hurtings".
There...

Dear jayjay,
I think you're ALL very very young.
I agree with talaniman - broad your span of interests. Meet people in different life contexts.
I understand your concern about this friend. You've...

This is to save you some pain: she's still a child, sees life in a different manner than you, that's why she doesn't think she did anything wrong. I understand your pain and frustration, but I think...

Hi Starman!
I like this question. I find it deep and intriguing. I shall try to organize my thoughts so that my answer will make sense.
The avatar I use is meant to as a reminder of our real...

I can only talk about my husband: I'm practically a "walking map"
Millie

I don't have really much to add to the former very good posts, but this.
1st: you're NOT obsessive, but you begin to behave in a clingy manner - nobody likes that: boys or girls. I know that's...

It's not just the age gap, but, as KRS said, it the age each of you reached: you're at diff. life stages what interests you, might bore her, what she likes might seem, maybe amusing at the beginning,...

It very well could be stress but you must see a doctor.
Take really good care of yourself,
Millie
:)

No, it's not much - it's just about what it's all about...
But - keep looking, it's not SO easy to find this person, and CUT ALL the connection lines with your ex!
Good lick,
Millie
:)

My dear!
I would really postpone it, after all, you've lived with it for such a long time - bear this a little longer.
IN THE MEANTIME:
See if you can make an appointment with a counsellor, to try...

Well I must say, I'm lost in that matter.
I try to put myself in your position, and I feel like walking on thin ice, careful not to fall in the icy water and drawn!
(deep water is the thing I'm...

Dear Aqua,
As Chava has so beautifully pointed out, we might be tricked by our minds to frame issues as:"avoidable or preventable" - we can't prevent it, but, again as Chava said, we can reframe it...

Hi Bobby,
After reading all that's been said, I think that the key to your problem lies behind the phrase above: you need to address it carefully, to understand it properly, this might help you...

I agree with all the posts above.
Almost everyone had a broken heart - at least once.
Let's hope this will be you only time - just learn what you can from this experience - so that in the end, it...

Hello dear,
I think there are several keys to your specific situation:
One of them is:
[QUOTE=lovely mmt].' And my husband is the best thing any of you guys could ever imagine. He has me on a...

Hi dear!
The only advice I would give is that you cancel this meeting.
I chose to quote these specific lines you wrote because there's something very important here: you say that you want this...

I still think the advice in the former posts is very good.
You describe your activities, you "keep your head above the water"- it's not easy to lose all your friends.
But, every post advised you...

valinors_sorrow,
I wanted to give you credit for the support you gave Vicka, but couldn't.
In any case, I think your post is very helpful and I can only hope that Vicka fill take the advice we all...

I'm not allowed right now to give reputation to Talaniman, so I have to use this post to express how much I agree with his post
Millie

I'd like to add something to what valinors_sorrow just wrote:

I heard this from a very wise man ( who was my boss at the time), 30 years ago: wherever you "land", no matter who are the people...

First I must say that having problems during your 1st year of marriage, is absolutely normal - you have to fine the mutual fine tuning, you're two different persons, and even couples who've lived...

While everything might be exactly the way Phill says, I think you should still consider the following:
I'm not sure any of us can say why your husband hasn't moved out - we can only speculate; I...

Dear Kitten,
Just smile, and ask him, quietly, if he would like to have a coffee with you, since you would like to discuss with him matters which you feel were left open and unresolved.
Good luck,...

C o n g r a t u l a t I o n s !


And good luck!


Millie
:)

Dear Courtney,
I chose to open this post with this quotation, for two reasons:
I don't know if italians in the states are like italians in italy, but I must tell you, I'm absolutely in love with...

Hello Smackyglam,
While I agree with most of what was said by Cy (Poseidon), there are some points I view in a different way.
I, personally, don't like too much the story. It's hard enough for you...

Well dear!
I know exactly how you feel, and I guess there will be some moments of anxiety, but it will be behind you all, and all will be fine, you'll see.
Mazal tov , and a speedy, full recovery,...

You "salad bar" reminds me of my Friday supper salad:
One of my daughters in law doesn't eat fresh tomatoes - so there's a bowl with minced tomato, the other daughter in law won't have peas or...

Hi !
Millie is short for Emilia - the way my family shortened it before I could speak. When I did I made it even shorter: mia
C - reading all the above posts: it the most banal possible-
The...

There's nothing like kids with shining eyes, and having SO much to share with, they can hardly end one word before they start the other!
Wow!
Kiss them for me wiil you?
m.

Hi chava!
I'm sorry but I don't remember their age. My daughter wanted VERY much to play the piano, ever since...
But my husband kept saying it will turn into a piece of furniture.
When she was...