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  1. You will get better responses if you start your...

    You will get better responses if you start your own thread. Just click on the "Ask about Bereavement" button and tell your story. Be patient, as it may take a day or two for responses to come...
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    Don't worry, Jamie understands, I'm sure. Even a...

    Don't worry, Jamie understands, I'm sure. Even a kind and generous person such as yourself may occasionally be justifiably outraged at the failings of the body. You are loved unfailingly.
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    Every day you delay, you become less safe.

    Every day you delay, you become less safe.
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    If she thinks you're abusive and has already...

    If she thinks you're abusive and has already moved out, it may be a little late for salvage operations. Sooner or later she'll contact you, and when she does, your best bet is to apologize...
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    No, you don't have to, but there are some pretty...

    No, you don't have to, but there are some pretty compelling reasons it's usually a bad idea to stay married to an alcoholic that you're separated from. First and foremost is that you are legally...
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    Yeah Chery! You go, girl!

    Yeah Chery! You go, girl!
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    What a fine bunch of folks Chery has for friends....

    What a fine bunch of folks Chery has for friends. If the friends we attract is an indication of our character, I'd say Chery's a queen.
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    Yes, yes, me too! ordinaryguy, aka Cowboy

    Yes, yes, me too! ordinaryguy, aka Cowboy
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    It's a strange paradox, but it's your need to...

    It's a strange paradox, but it's your need to avoid conflict at all costs that keeps you in a situation where it's inevitable. To get out of this relationship, you DO have to go through it. If he...
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    What a bunch of arrogant crap. I find it...

    What a bunch of arrogant crap. I find it supremely ironic that even though Jesus attacked the very idea of a "chosen people", many of his supposed followers continue to embrace it fervently.
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    BwaHaHahahaha!!

    BwaHaHahahaha!!
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    The power of choice. Oh, wait! I already have...

    The power of choice. Oh, wait! I already have it!
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    So, do you have any new stuff? I noticed you...

    So, do you have any new stuff? I noticed you haven't posted anything for a couple of years. Are you on sabbatical from artmaking, or just not putting it up?
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    What I like most about it is the sky/clouds and...

    What I like most about it is the sky/clouds and the translucent color in the flowers.
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    Wow, it's been awhile. I just now went back and...

    Wow, it's been awhile. I just now went back and looked again. Your nudes are breathtaking. My faves are "Flora", "Flower girl", "Blue moon", and "Blossom". At least for now.
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    That is strange that he would try to disguise or...

    That is strange that he would try to disguise or camouflage it from the very people it was meant for. Why do you suppose he did that?
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    That is so sad, especially if you approach the...

    That is so sad, especially if you approach the scriptures of all non-Christian religious traditions in a similar way. You are much the poorer for your choice.
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    I hear you on that. Some of my best friends are...

    I hear you on that. Some of my best friends are dead people.
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    You need to consult a competent family law...

    You need to consult a competent family law attorney who practices in your area. Don't do anything based on something you "read somewhere", even here on AMHD. This is a serious legal matter that...
  20. Yeah, even if we both THINK and SAY that's what...

    Yeah, even if we both THINK and SAY that's what we're looking for, having found it, we often want more.

    Anyone who succeeds in definitively solving the problem of balancing long-run and short-run...
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    Kind of like police who violate the law to...

    Kind of like police who violate the law to enforce it, I guess.
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    He may have a urinary tract infection. Does he...

    He may have a urinary tract infection. Does he have stinging or pain when he pees? If it persists, he should see a doctor. It's definitely not "blue balls".
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    Yes, it definitely could be better, but maybe not...

    Yes, it definitely could be better, but maybe not with him. He may be capable of overcoming his insecurities, or he may not. Either way, you need to find out sooner rather than later. Life is too...
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    Made me chuckle!

    Made me chuckle!
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    Not that there's anything wrong with that...

    Not that there's anything wrong with that...
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    I find out that a lot of other people have my...

    I find out that a lot of other people have my same name, and most of them seem to have accomplished a lot more than I have.
  27. Laziness, mostly.

    Laziness, mostly.
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    I think there's a proper place and function for...

    I think there's a proper place and function for the primal emotion of anger, just as there is for fear. The proper function of these reactions is to propel us out of situations that are a serious...
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    I really don't know. It does make sense that if...

    I really don't know. It does make sense that if the fundamental issue was a deep-seated fear of intimacy and these periodic episodes of rage were a way of keeping me from getting too close, they...
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    I lived for almost 23 years with an angry woman,...

    I lived for almost 23 years with an angry woman, and if she did any self-examination, she kept it to herself. She refused any and all suggestions of counseling. She may really believe that she...
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    What to do with anger

    I ran across this today. When the Heart Pays the Price of Anger - Happy Days Blog - NYTimes.com The article is interesting enough, but the real gem for me was in the reader comments. Tara, whoever...
  32. Well, you say he's controlling, cruel and...

    Well, you say he's controlling, cruel and unpredictable, so I hope you DON'T ever find someone who cares for you like this again. Yes, something does have to be done, and you do know what it is.
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    This woman is toxic, a pathological liar. DO NOT...

    This woman is toxic, a pathological liar. DO NOT contact her any more for ANY REASON. If you're feeling generous, warn the guy about who he's dealing with. Then have no further contact with either...
  34. DO NOT move in with her.

    DO NOT move in with her.
  35. Question: My tummy

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    Exercise more, eat less.

    Exercise more, eat less.
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    Well, it sounds like you already know what to do....

    Well, it sounds like you already know what to do. Let it go.
  37. I LOVE this! Yes! YES!!

    I LOVE this! Yes! YES!!
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    I know, but where you going to go to spend it?

    I know, but where you going to go to spend it?
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    Thanks for your comments, Simone. This made me...

    Thanks for your comments, Simone.

    This made me laugh:
    I suppose it's true, but I can't decide whether I should be comforted or outraged by it.


    Yes, or who are ready to learn, but only from...
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    Yeah, monkey minds--can't live with 'em, can't...

    Yeah, monkey minds--can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em.
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    Just a comment... ED drugs help to get an...

    Just a comment... ED drugs help to get an erection IF a man is aroused, but they don't help at all in BECOMING aroused in the first place. Arousal is a brain thing, whereas an erection is a nerve...
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    Well, yes, if it came in the form of a straight...

    Well, yes, if it came in the form of a straight up-or-down ultimatum, the answer would be clear. But in my experience, it's usually a lot more subtle than that--the snide comment here, the offhand...
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    I ran across this article awhile back about the...

    I ran across this article awhile back about the health benefits of friendship:

    http://www.nytimes.com/2009/04/21/health/21well.html?em

    I found this particularly fascinating:


    And this...
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    As it turned out for me, the answer at 62 was the...

    As it turned out for me, the answer at 62 was the same as it was at 30--move on. But in both instances, the lack of sex was just one of the results of a complete loss of emotional trust, and not...
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    When is a sexless marriage OK?

    Here's a link (When Sex Leaves the Marriage) to an interview with Denise A. Donnelly, associate professor of sociology at Georgia State University about her research on sexless marriages.

    A couple...
  46. You're right, it was on the other thread. What...

    You're right, it was on the other thread. What threw me was the identical posts about the counseling session.

    Here's Jake2008's post from there, and here's mine.


    I'm sorry for the...
  47. I notice that Jake2008's post, and my post, which...

    I notice that Jake2008's post, and my post, which were both supportive, have been deleted. I wonder why.
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    What "drugs" are we talking about specifically? ...

    What "drugs" are we talking about specifically? There are huge differences in terms of addictive potential and health effects, if that's what you're concerned about. Alcohol is one of the worst in...
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    I had a friend once who was bipolar. One of her...

    I had a friend once who was bipolar. One of her manic episodes landed her in the mental hospital, and later she told me that to get out, she had to convince them she was "happy, but not TOO happy". ...
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    Back in the sixties there was a movement of women...

    Back in the sixties there was a movement of women to refuse to have sex with any man who went to war. Now women are in the military too, and fighting right alongside the men. Is that progress? I...
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