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Learn to let go. I know it's hard to hear but in your case, it is your only choice.

Don't dwell on the possibilities, just distance yourself enough for you to realize what you want in life.

Wow this post is old, but for future reference, if a girl keeps lying to you... the only way she'll ever learn is if you make her realize her consequences.

Unfortunately, the only way to do that...

I just found out that she was talking to her ex because I looked at her phone. I feel guilty for looking through her phone, and I feel bad, but I guess I know the truth.

Now I'm really confused...

Is it normal for me to feel jealous and hurt about her to talking to her ex?

Or am I just over-thinking things.

This kills me. Is there anything I can do without putting my friend in between...

I'm 100% sure she is because my friend is close with her and they pretty much talk about everything. I don't want to ask her because I would come across as a creep or stalker and truthfully I'm not....

Hey guys,

Me and my girlfriend have been going out for about a year now, we're both 21. I'm not the jealous type but I really hate being lied to. So about a month ago, I told my girlfriend that...

This girl has a lot of baggage that she is carrying into your relationship. The best thing right now is to let go and let her come back if she chooses. Nothing you can do now will make her want you...

TAL... THE MAVERICKS LOST LOL... I duno I just had to say that because it was in you're tag. MAVS SUCKKKKKKKKKKKKK. GO RAPTORS.

I think she came back, because of pity. No one deserves crumbs from anybody.

And LOL, my bad zero... didn't reply or post it here cause I'm too busy with this new girl :).

Hey MPort,

First off, I hope everything works with u. But yeah, if you check my latest post, my ex did come back after a month or so. I gave everything to this girl, I played hard to get, I...

I don't want to give you false hope, but I did no-contact/low-contact, and my ex did come back. The cirumstances might be different, but your only hope is, if she still has some sort of feelings for...

It's difficult when a girl loses interest in you over a period. Causing her to act on it.. out of the blue, as in your case. The only way I see this possibly working, is if you give her time by...

"Winning" someone back is just a phrase. If I felt like it, I would've used "getting" her back. I didn't mean for it to be a game or anything, its just a saying.

Tough times are ahead, I have...

Zero lol, I don't even how to say thank you!!

I have to admit though. Winning her back feels good, but not as great as I thought it'd be. I guess when you actually get what you want, your...

Haha, yeah it feels good to get her back. But it isn't as great as I thought it would feel. There's still something's we got to talk about, the issues we have to resolve. I just hope I don't come...

Hey,

Well, what else I can I say. After two months of anguish, pain and sorrow, my ex came back and decided that she wants to give us another chance. Everything I've worked hard for in the last...

The more you push for a relationship, the further she will run away. Give her time to think about things, let things cool down, and most importantly, let her initiate the contact. I understand its...

I see progress in the time that passes. Doing no contact is the course of action that I will take if this low contact approach doesn't work. Yes, there's some GREAT points there about me losing...

She doesn't want to be pressured to come back with me. And she doesn't want to rush into the relationship just yet. Hopefully, I'm not blinded. The way I see it, she just needs time to think about...

As of now, she admitted that she doesn't have any other options, and neither does she have interest in other options. She doesn't want to keep me close either. She wants me to go out with other...

Believe it or not, I followed that list and that's how I almost got her back :).

Could you elaborate on how I can "be the prize" or how to "play hard to get", or how to be a challenge. What...

Hey,

Its been a while since I posted my miserable situation, and now I find myself here again asking for an opinion.Oh, by the way... SPECIAL, SPECIAL thanks goes to foreverzero, I swear I...

I've been in your exact situation and I know exactly how you feel. There's a loss of trust, needing to know where she is, what she's doing, wanting her by your side almost every second, feeling of...

Hey,

Speaking from experience, you really need to give her space. I know its difficult with insecurity issues(where she is, what she's doing... etc.). But if you don't give her the space that...

Yeah.. I'm in a huge state of denial. Good news though, I am starting to feel better, however, remember that the thread started with "I want her back. but how?" IF I wanted to get over her, or...

Lol, I'm so screwed over.

Hey man,

I know exactly how you feel. I know that its eating up like crazy but if you honestly want this girl and want to better your chances of getting her back, then you got to let go for a...

Here's another great one: That's if you appreciate rap and hiphop lol,

Out of my system - Bow wow ft. T-Pain,

"I been running round wit other chicks
Im single and they loving it
Im likin it...

Hey guys,

I seriously apoligize for making this thread so friggin long. And I thank everybody for their patience and support. But here it goes:

Everybody is saying that, she is gone, leave...

Tal bro, I forgot to include that her dad called me the other day. He asked if I was alrite because he and my ex's mom were concerned about me. I calmly said "yeah, im cool, im doing alrite". I...

First off, I would like to thank everybody for helping me out, and trust me, it has helped to keep my head from exploding.

I understand what you've all said because you've been there and done...

Nicely said.. trying my best! Just forgive me.. because I didn't realize how much of a retard I was.

LBP, I'm sure she hasn't seen anybody or her friends wouldve called me by now (her friends are close with me)... and to be perfectly honest, its weird but her friends asked her to stay with me......

Yeahh ill accept it when its over... right now is too early to give up. I want her back, at the same time I'm working on myself. Shock, yes, denial, yes, depression, close, and acceptance, I have...

Hey cat,

It was a MISTAKE to do that I know... and I didn't realize how far I pushed her off by doing that. I didn't realize it was a bad thing. Yes I was a wussy, but you have to understand...

I just realized I made this post without noting some of my songs, lol sry, well here it is (some are sad... so bear with me)

Yesterday - Beatles or Boys II Men
End of the Road - Boys II men
Mr....

Lol.. she has low self-esteem. And as far as I know.. all girls have low self-esteem and think that their all fat. She just has a lot of confidence and self esteem OVER me in this situation.

Yes...

Isn't hope gone after weeks, let alone months? I know I'm impatient and I know I'm panic'ing right now but it seems reasonable that a week should do. Should it?

If she really cares shed call...

Hey, any advice would be great:

Me and my gilrfriend of 2.5 yrs broke up a couple of days ago. I heard and learnt about the No contact method (and yes, I know its suppose to be for SELF healing...

Im hurting like crazy because she said it was over. She ended it and doesn't want to see me for good. She never promised to come back(I didn't even get a goodbye!). But a good part of me feels like...

Hey tal, why would no contact do good? And the part where she almost cheated, a couple of months ago before I got all obsessive and jealous, I found out she gave her contacts to some guy and started...

Chuff, I couldn't agree more. But are you guys saying that its completely over? Because my ex is the type of girl to stay at home after a break up... and feel guilty about the things she did. She...

For most people, being alone during a break up is probably the worst thing you can do to yourself. It is advised that you go work-out, play basketball, go out with your friends, etc. But whenever...

Hey thanks for the replies, its honestly doing me some good rite now... and thankfully I have not done anything stupid (i.e. emailing, texting, stalking,) thanks to you guys.

I am still twisted...

I have already prepared for all outcomes and have realized that she probably won't come back (I always think of the worst case scenarios)... but how much better are my chances if I left her alone.
...

ForeverZero wrote:

"Or would you prefer it if she chose to come back without your involvement in any kind?"
"You want her to want to come back."

Those are STRONG words that I believe in, and I...

Those are both great points but(and I reallly appreciate it guys.. ):

Letting her go is so devastating because we had been through sooo much. I could enjoy life to the fullest but in the end I...

That's really true 'foreverzero', but what do you mean "for the time being..". Does that mean that there's still hope?

The thing is, she always leaves whenever she's not happy. She thinks by...

Ill try keeping this short so its easy to understand:

My girlfriend and I have been together for 2-3 yrs. We are both 19 yrs old. Everything was nothing short of perfect until the last couple of...