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Thanks for that response! I wish it would have been something I would have known a long time ago!! Fortunately for me he's been out of my life and out of my head for over a year now and I've been in...

Thank you Tal... That was what I had been thinking, I just needed to hear it from someone else... Kind of goes along the lines of you always want what someone else has, whether they actually have it...

In all honesty I'm not playing either of them (I've never been a player and am too old to start that high school crap now). I've ALWAYS had a very low self esteem and am really insecure at times....

First of all, hello everyone. Its been awhile since I've been here and hope all is well with those I used to talk to.

Ok, so I have a bit of a confusing situation going on. I finally got over my...

You are very wise to hold off sending that. Having been down that road myself I know how hard it can be to maintain no contact, but believe me that's the best thing for you to do. I made a mistake...

I definitely agree with that. My ex boyfriend said the same thing when he broke up with me. I think it was his way of trying not to look like a complete jerk... I haven't heard from him in over 6...

I felt the same way that you are feeling after my ex broke up with me a year ago. I was depressed, hurt, angry, and confused. I cried all the time, and tried to think of ways to try to get him back....

Well, if this man is no longer in love with his wife or whatever, then he needs to deal with that and not drag someone else into the mess... The way I look at it, he sees you as nothing more than a...

1. Honest, but not cocky, or a jerk
2. Affectionate, but not clingy.
3. Someone who will treat me like a lady and not their own personal plaything.
4. A sense of humor
5. Someone that I can...

I would honestly just wait. If he truly wants friendship then let him make the first move, and then what happens then will be up to you. Just don't do anything that could push him farther away, and...

Hey there... I'm going to tell you this from personal experience... PLEASE don't do it!! Maintain N/C. It's the only way you will ever be able to move on with your life. I made a huge mistake last...

Hey friend4u... I'm glad to be back... I have to spread some rep around so I couldn't rate you. I'm going to do just that. Go, but not expect, and take everything VERY SLOOWWLY, lol ;)

First of all... Hello everyone!! :p I haven't been around in awhile, and I hope that things are looking up for those that I used to see here.

OK, I need some opinions and advice. In Nov. I...

You know I've never like roller coasters either... I think from now on I'll try to stay on the merry go round where I belong ;)

Wow! I haven't been around for a few weeks, but I'm so surprised and glad to see that this thread is still around. It was a big help to me to do it and I'm so happy that others here have found it...

I'm with everyone else, don't break N/C. I used to be tempted sooo many times and that's what prompted me to start the "letters to our exes" thread back in Nov. I wrote what I wanted to say to him...

You're right, the emotional damage will catch up to you one day, I would come right out and tell her that you can't be just friends with her, and if that's what she wants then you're just going to...

I'm going to spend the evening with my 9 year old niece and 5 year old nephew. We're going to make popcorn and watch a Disney movie... Chocolate is too fattening anyway! :)

You ARE putting yourself in a vulnerable situation. I'm saying this as someone who knows from experience, PLEASE don't break N/C. You will just set yourself up to feel bad again. Believe me I had...

Oh my... Where do I start! Well, when I met my ex boyfriend I didn't want a relationship. I wasn't even interested in dating at that time. He, however, kept pursuing. He would come to the club I hung...

Well, it's been 9 months since mine broke up with me... I spent a lot of time the first few months crying nonstop. My job suffered, I gained 20 pounds and basically didn't care whether I lived or...

Well, I started at 320, and now I weigh around 150, and have been holding steady for a couple of years now.

I agree with everyone else, if you try to take things farther than friendship, then mark my words you are setting yourself up for a really big fall... been there, done it, won't ever do it again!

It sounds to me like he could be really shy. I have that same problem when I'm with someone that I really like or care for. I have trouble making eye contact, and just get really quiet... If I have a...

Wow!! I think just about says it all!. Just one question emopunk. Do you know this from watching bondage porn, or is it from personal experience?. hmmm... I think we should talk... PM me, I'll give...

Wow MissingHim, is it wrong that when I read that I got a big smile on my face and felt like jumping out of my chair and yelling YES!! What goes around comes around! :D

LOL, same here!! I would hate to think how much I would have spent over the last nine months if I had gone to see a therapist!

But anyway, Yeah Ihatewestseneca, try to keep busy so that you don't...

After 15 years of marriage we just found ourselves going in different directions. Too many things started to happen at one time that drove a wedge between us. He's still a big part of my life though...

I think there is a big difference between being vain and just feeling good about how you look. I wear makeup when I go out (I'm very pale and look horrible without it), I have what might be...

OMG! Please NO! I already have self esteem issues, and you guys are always so brutally honest, AAAHHHH!! :eek: , LOL

I'm with you. I'd like to see one myself! :)... Ok, sorry, I'm getting caught up in the smiley face madness. :)... ooops!

I only have one thing to say about the girl that you are with... She's way too good for you, and I hope that she will wake up one day soon and realize that, and then kick you to the curb where you...

If she's married, stay away from her. That will only cause you a bunch of problems!

Could be... mine obviously gets around! lol. Seems that before me, he and his wife had split up two times before and each time he ended up in a short term relationship with some unlucky woman... I...

The same thing happened to me. My ex boyfriend had separated from his wife. He met me, we fell in love. He talked of wanting to spend his life with me. After a year his now ex wife decided to file...

It's been two months for me. I still have times when sadness hits me out of the blue and I let myself have a good cry. I open my heart too easily. It's just always been so hard for me to say goodbye,...

Well, I wear one on my fourth finger if I want to give the impression that I'm taken so that I'll be left alone. Unfortunately it dosen't always work because some guys just don't seem to care.

I agree with Tal. This guy is acting like a controlling father. If he's told you he dosen't feel more than friendship for you and dosen't want to take things to another level then it shouldn't matter...

As pathetic as it is, and as much as I hate to bash my own gender, that statement is true a majority of the time.

I'm thinking of the old Disney tune... "A dream is a wish your heart makes, when you're fast asleep". Nothing more, nothing less. Your dreams are just projecting what your heart is wishing for...

All I know is if that's true then let me find a place to hide!! I'm feeling better than I have in a long time and I will be ****** (I censored myself so the moderators won't have to, hehe) if I'd let...

Just give yourself more time. It took me almost 9 months to get over my ex. I was In such a bad state of mind after my breakup and honestly thought I would never be happy again. The day that I...

Yeah, I can understand that point of view Ordinaryguy, and it's probablty true. The thing is though I have a couple of good female friends who are my age and single. They both hold down normal jobs,...

LOL, thanks George, I'll keep that tip in mind. :)

Ok, so I've finally (FINALLY!) decided to re-enter the dating worth after months and months of being a crying, hopeless, helpless, pathetic shell of a human being. There's just something that has me...

Well, you could hang out with friends, take up a new hobby, and start doing things to improve your mind and spirit. You could volunteer your time to help others (it always feels good to do good...

I can relate, I've been there. I know that I'm just now really starting to heal after almost 9 months, but I also know that if I would run into my ex and his girl I would be in the same boat you are...

My advice... Go out, hang with friends, live your life, concentrate on you. Give this girl the time she needs to think, and maybe by the time she figures it out you'll be past it and happy either...

She may not be an alcoholic per say, but she really does have a problem that needs to be dealt with, because from what she said to you, partying to her means getting very drunk. She can't have a good...

Hi Craig,
No, you shouldn't feel guilty about asking for help. Sometimes we all need other people to help us to make tough decisions in life.

First of all for your girlfriend to say that she...