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So, here's the story! At the end of last year I met a lady, very nice, we got on very well, went out 4 or 5 times, in quite a short period. It all seemed to be going well, kissing etc, though we...

People could learn from your communication skills!

You are right, I have not written it off yet. The ball is in her court. What happens will happen.

Once bitten, twice shy though.

Too much, ha ha.

I can't be bothered with people who psycho analyse everything and then make knee jerk decisions.

Communication is not that hard!!

Sounds like a plan. I'll leave it with her.

Not sure I will be able to contain my annoyance if I do meet her though, but we'll see!

I can see that if she freaked after the first meeting not the 3rd. Bear in mind we had the second date kissing, hand holding, and 3rd date kissing! That is not nervous!

I haven't heard the last of...

We met internet dating. We are both 32.

Up until this odd text from her it was incredibly normal, and going along at a good pace.

Exactly. I wanted to make sure I wasn't going totally mad and imagined that if she acted the way she had done, this type of behaviour is now odd.

I am thinking I probably haven't heard the last of...

No, I am from England. Same system!

I am not sure if I am OK with it or not. If I don't get an answer, then I don't. I will see what happens.

I did ask. But I am not begging or hanging around. There is a difference in my view.

Oh yeah, no way am I crawling for any woman. I have done that in the past, how needy! I texted in response, said it was no problem if that's what she wanted, but thought it weird considering how well...

She is 32. Been single for 6 months. She has been ultra keen. In fact tonight, it was her who initiated the kissing. Makes it seem weird.

True. Although what is the surprising bit is not her saying she is not now interested. If she wants to do that, no problem, it is early in the game as you say. What is the problem is that she...

I have been out 3 times with this girl. Pretty standard stuff. We met for a drink on the first date, got on pretty well, thena day or two later I rang her and we arranged to go out again.

The...

Things ended OK. She ended the relationship and ran the "lets stay friends line". At first I avoided that but then we saw a bit of each other. It became clear that just being friends wouldn't work,...

I posted a while ago on here about my ex. We broke up some 18 months ago, stayed in touch for a bit, then it wasn't right so I decided on No Contact, that was 14 months ago and I haven't contacted...

No, similar age, I am 33, she is 31.

That was perhaps my thought. I replied to her e-mail, and said that it was a shame, as we had a lot in common, but if that was what she wanted then no problem.

I don't think I can do much more...

I have been seeing this lady for 6 weeks or so. It has been going at exactly the right level, meet up once every few days, casual dates at first, drinks, dinner, comedy club etc. It was going at...

I have just realised that today is one year of no contact with my ex! It was my choice to initiate nc, I told her why I was doing it, and we haven't spoken since.

I would urge anyone in a similar...

I think that she is being smothered! We have all been in a situation where we have someone who sacrifices there own individuality for the good of their partner. That can't be exciting for her! I am...

I will be in between jobs in late October/Early November and have a total of 3 weeks for a trip to Oz.

3 weeks seems a long time but probably isn't, I have to get to and from Austalia from the UK...

I am doing that! I just was mildly confused by her mixed signals. Time will tell! No rush.

I need to slow it down a little bit. Whilst she is keen when we meet. It is, on the majority of occasions, me that does the chasing. She has suggested dinner at hers, it is now incumbent on her to...

I have been out with this girl a few times. We met through mutual friends 2 months ago. We are both quite hectic with work, social lives etc, so it has been quite a slow burner with us meeting for a...

Too right. I'll let her curiosity kill her own cat!

Fair point. I have already let it go. I have a date with a hot lady tomorrow night! Why worry?

I just come on here to get some perspective and keep me on the NC straight and narrow!

I certainly don't consider this breaking NC. I went on an internet dating site to see what ladies were on there, had a look to see who had viewed me, and randomly saw her. That is it. I probably will...

Well people. NC is definitely the way. I have no intention of contacting my ex, if she contacts me I may speak with her, I may not. She hasn't anyway so it is immaterial.

I have been on a few...

No way should you contact him. Firstly, the way he has behaved, why would you want to try and start a friendship with someone like that. Secondly, you need to ask your motivation for sending birthday...

The age old question of when to call a girl after the first date here! I don't want to do it too soon, but also don't want to hang around too long. People often say the 3 day rule is best but she has...

No, don't contact her. If you harbour any desire to get back together with her, then any contact must come from her.

Bear in mind that she dumped you by text. That is cowardly. Why would you want...

10 months NC! Seriously guys, stick with the NC. If you want proof that it works have a look back at some of my posts from 6 to 9 months ago, how I was convinced that NC wasn't the best idea, how I...

The more you try to re-attract her the more you will fail. The best thing to do is to move forward without her in your life. You will find then that you probably don't want to be with her anyway. If...

I would be interested in hearing from anyone who has any practical experience of living with cystic fibrosis, whether themselves or a relative/friend/partner.

The reason I ask is that one of my...

I have spent over a year getting over my ex. Plenty of posts on here!

Anyway, when we were together we sort of had "our song". I don't need to say what it was, but it was on the radio all the...

[QUOTE=DazT]It has been playing on my mind these past few days that I really want to contact her. I'm scared that she has moved on and doesn't think of me, even though it was a mutual agreement to...

Absolutely. She is not some teenager either. She is a grown woman who should have her own life in control.

I think you should take a step back. Does she see you as the sticking plaster for her...

Everyone is different. You will start to reach the ambivalence stage and know when you are getting there. There is no specific time for this, some get there in weeks, some take years. When you do get...

Too hastey! I am the one in control!

9 months to the day. Despite my resistance at the start, and 3 or 4 months of not being myself, I now know this is the best thing I have ever done. I am not the one in control. I am not really that...

So why take someone back who has done that? I think you are making excuses for her, and I don't think she comprehends the way she has behaved. The red flags Tal refers to are clearly there.

Even...

[QUOTE=SJB1701E] She jumped in bed with a guy two DAYS after we broke up like the two years we had together meant nothing to her. She took no time to grieve and wasn't upset at all. Like I meant...

[QUOTE=ISneezeFunny]Day 1: I love you.
Day 2:... I need time.
Day 3 - 20:... I found someone new.

... should be a t-shirt idea.

Ha ha, very funny. I think more accurate:

Day 1: I do love...

You being affected still is increased by these near meetings. If you have to avoid her, do it, stick to true NC. Whilst you are doing NC, you are sort of keeping her in your view by wanting to chat...

It sounds to me like you did exactly the right thing (whether it was caused by panic or not!). You saw your ex, you ignored her. That is sticking to NC!

Why care under what basis she left. It...

Thanks. I like to think that over 8 months of NC is paying off in some way. If not the fact that I am thinking of my ex less, and when I am thinking of her, it is in a "how could she act like that"...

I have been trying for such a long time to get over my ex. She ended things just over one year ago, I started NC 8 months ago. I have not been in touch with her since. I told her I was starting NC at...

If it still hurts bad, after 10 years, then seeing her will open up those old wounds. I think you should think long and hard before doing it.

Why would you want to be friends with someone like that? She is a manipulative liar!

In many resepects, the requirements for friendship are greater than those needed for a relationship. You have...