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Make a move, go for it, find out if he feels the same. If he doesn't end of story.

biggsie,

I'll pass that on. She is getting on much better with it but she might still find things here that help. Thanks.

Bottom line you're not ready for this type of sexual relationship and nor should you be. You are young, what you speak of is the type of things old married couples try as a way of livening things up....

If I may suggest not having sex for a week or so and then spend lots of time building up to the big event. A meal for two, bathing together, massaging each other, both dress sexy, smell nice, use...

You can gain presence of mind through relaxation and meditation and the use of affirmations. There are many good book on relaxation and meditation. The secret is to keep it simple.

What age is she? She may not be completely at fault, who we are is already in our genes. She may not be able to help what she is becoming. Do you know anything of her history, parents etc. Just...

Willow?

BiWiccanAndProud,

I take it Jamie was your first love? We never forget our first love, so what you are doing is understandable. But what we all learn and you will learn too is that it is better...

tammy49,

Sorry, but you may have to accept that he isn't the committing type. If you can accept that, you can still have a very nice relationship. But long distance? It's going to be tough. You...

Once you realise that you can't make Jamie understand anything - you can only communicate honestly with each other and hope you are making yourself clear and hope that the other person understands -...

I think he might be the type that needs a bit of a push. In the meantime you could work on trying to convince him that this is it for you and that you really would like to settle down with him. This...

Your worries and fear will upset this relationship. Take a step back, listen to yourself, and see how you are doing this to yourself. Change some of your internal dialogue for some more positive...

He's afraid of something. Maybe committing would be too much pressure and responsibility for him. Do you have children? He might be concerned about taking on a family. You have to talk things over...

No contact for three months that's the rule last time I checked. Hopefully after that time you will be clearer about what you want to do. Sounds like she wants to keep you around in case this other...

There is only one way I know of in a relationship to dispel fears and that is to talk. You really must sit down with Jamie and let him know how you feel about him and about your fears of losing him....

I'm no expert but I'm sure someone will be along to help. 14 days doesn't seem long enough, might be a bit soon to see a result.

ScottGem,

Sorry, I have only just found this. I think you were right. I think it was just a case of getting used to it. She's singing it's praises now. Lol

Thank you.

Clough,

Thanks for noticing. And thanks to tickle for giving me another chance. I really need to stop doing all-nighters on the computer. ;)

Thank you for getting back to me.
I will pay more attention next time.

Have a good one!


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Kayte,

WW. I'm pleased for you, if nothing else it makes you feel in control of your life. There is no need to try to explain anything. You have quite simply had your eyes opened. Now you just...

tickle,

I sincerely apologise. I went back and read it again like you said and I don't know what prompted me to reply like I did. I'm so sorry. I read some of your posts too and you are so...

15. I think Starhope made a very good point in that we don't feel anything especially special in the beginning. We agree to go out with someone we like but it takes time to get to know each other,...

Pain in the back of your head and shoulders, you may want to check that you are using a good firm but not too firm pillow. If you are using two pillows, you might only need one. If you're using one,...

tickle,

I disagree and I think that was rather mean.

reyak is a new member who is trying to help someone who is afraid of ghosts. And I agree with reyak. There is nothing to fear but fear...

I have a grandson living with me who has never saw his mum since he was a baby. Circumstances. I wish I could see her name on here one day soon wanting to see her son. My wedding anniversary is the...

Your heart is keeping you alive. It's your head that tells you who and who not to date. Trust your instincts. May I ask what age you are?

You answered your own post. Stop all contact. Either he will do the right thing and come clean to his wife, the mother of his child, and ask for a divorce or he will simply disappear into the...

I liked it. Jack Nicklson great actor.

Thank you. Blessings to you and yours at this wonderful time of year.

I think you should meet with him over coffee perhaps, just to see for yourself what is going on instead of spending all your time wondering and maybe regretting your decision. I would advice you to...

What kind of music does he like? Wallets and watches are cool. If he smokes a lighter with his initials on might make a nice gift. You need to look at him and his interests and then ask yourself what...

nothingness,

There is some good advice above. I would like to wish you well and say that I hope you'll stick around and let us know how things are going.

angel0772001,

Looks like I was writing my post when you posted again. I would look into the daycare thing make sure she isn't napping too long there.

angel0772001,

I'm no expert but I have brought up three kids and often look after grandchildren. First you need to be firm. Check that she isn't going to bed too early for her. If she doesn't...

Kayte,

Marriage is a partnership. In this day and age people have two or three TVs, two cars etc. He's treating you like a child.... If you don't behave he'll take away your TV, computer etc....

Kayte,

I'm very glad to hear that you had a talk with him and told him of your plans. If that doesn't shake him up to take notice of how thoughtless he is being nothing will. Homegirl made some...

Sounds to be like you have no purpose. You need to find a purpose. A purpose gives us hope. You wouldn't believe how many people feel as you do. I felt like that too once. The thing is if you feel...

Reckle and mortishka,

If I may, MayMsredrose seems to be taking a break, I'm sure she'll be back soon. I just wanted to acknowledge your posts as I'm sure MayMsredrose would if she could. So hang...

In my opinion, if he is doing well in all other areas and is not being disruptive at home, isn't staying out late etc, I say keep on doing what you have been doing. It's a sensitive time for kids,...

This is going to sound tough but I think you need to check if he is having an affair. He is obviously comparing you to someone, even if it isn't an affair, there might be someone he has his eye on,...

curlybenswife,

Sorry. You're right. No more music links.

Hi! Folks. I thought the virtual bar might enjoy some music.

Mine is a rum and coke with ice. Cheers!

YouTube - Jo Dee Messina & Tim McGraw - Bring On The Rain

Chris,

I know it sounds tough but most of the discomfort comes from the forced changes we have to put up with after a break-up. We miss the person, we miss the things we did together. This is why...

I’m sorry to say this but taking anything for granted is a mistake. Relationships are like fires, if you don’t work to keep them going they burn out. Sweet words and small surprise gifts help to fuel...

I would like to see more on this. My daughter has a new computer and doesn’t like Vista and complains about it. I would like to be able to offer her some suggestions. Ways to get used to it, or some...

tarapaige,

I agree with the others. You seem like a kind hearted soul but I know from experience that there are some people who do not understand kindness when all they have had is abuse. Instead...

thesnakedotcom,

I'm no expert but maybe I can offer a little comfort till one comes along. Your doctor would have taken your temperature and blood pressure and he can tell quite a bit from that....

It sounds to me like you didn’t get closure. You didn’t get the chance to discuss the end of the relationship, or why it broke up. After two months I don’t think that is possible now. I think you...

Sorry about that. I still think it is the best course of action. At least until you get some sign from her that she is interested in more than just friendship. :)