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Right, I understand that, but I think this is getting off topic a little bit. I DO have friends in New York City. I go out with various people almost every free night I have. There is rarely, if...

I think that might be exactly what I miss... a place where "everybody knows my name." Like I said, I have my fair share of friends here, but it's always going to meet one person at one isolated...

I've recently been doing a lot of thinking and thought I might turn here for advice (sorry in advance for the lengthy post). I feel very uncomfortable talking about this with people I know, because...

How true. And I think part of the problem is that so few people understand the difference. My ex wanted a "break," but she couldn't agree to staying faithful to me, she couldn't give me any sense of...

I don't think the amount of time matters at all. It's once you've reached that acceptance stage of grieving, that's when it's okay. It's impossible to pinpoint how long it will take, because that's...

It's so true. As much as this hurts like hell, I've already learned so much about myself and about relationships -- and never, ever again will I ever take a girlfriend that truly loves me for granted.

Here's a good bit about the no contact rule from the opening scene of the movie "Swingers"... for all of you out there hurting like me, I suggest you check out the film.

This scene is two buddies...

In my recent relationship I've been on both sides of it. There was a time when the fire burned out for me, but I stuck through it, and actually wound up getting that fire back through a completely...

The problem is it's all but impossible to "start over" with an ex. There's too much history there. You can pretend, but in the end all you're doing is hiding feelings, and that's never healthy.

I...

I hear you man, I'm pretty much going through the same thing right now with my girl. On the one hand, you want to leave her alone because you want to respect her need for space and deep down you know...

Yeah, I hear you. All I know is this is going to take a long time. I have my good days, and then I go to sleep and have dreams about her, and wake up in a bad mood all over again. It's brutal, but...

Geoff -- I read through your entire thread on your own situation and it made me feel a lot better. I'm 100% confident that my girl will look back on this someday and sincerely regret it. I still do...

Geoff -- I really appreciate all your advice, you definitely seem to know exactly what I'm going through. And yeah, I don't know if she really does love me. Well, let me rephrase that. I know that...

I'm trying, I really am. I've taken to writing letters that I'll never send because it makes me feel better to get it down on paper. Calling friends helps, too.

I just feel so cheated. She says...

I wish I knew what SHE wanted. I don't even think she really knows. But when I saw her Wednesday night I mean she took my hand and kept hugging me and giving me kisses on the cheek -- does that sound...

Thanks a lot Geoff, I really appreciate your advice.

I think my title for this post is a bit misleading. I'm not saying I want to manipulate her feelings or anything like that. But I do know...

I agree with you completely, and that's why I am trying to consider it over. I appealed to her last night when I said that honestly, if you took me back now and I made the same mistakes, then we'd...

I realize that talking isn't going to accomplish anything. We talked for a good two hours face to face last night and trust me, there was still something there. She's made it clear that she doesn't...

Okay, some of that stuff came out a little differently than I intended. No, I don't NEED someone to be happy. I know I can be perfectly happy on my own. But I'm at the point in my life where I want...

Hey guys,


Last week my girlfriend of 3.5 years broke up with me. I was completely blindsided by it. We're in a long-distance relationship, but would have been out of one soon. Her reasoning is...