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  1. Hi Adelinee21, I know you posted this a few weeks...

    Hi Adelinee21, I know you posted this a few weeks ago but I wanted to suggest that you begin to plan to have some child/parent time with your son. What concerns me about his behavior is that the way...
  2. Do you have pets? If you do, you may need to...

    Do you have pets? If you do, you may need to wash your sheets on a weekly basis (or more) and also think about bathing your pet and applying a flea treatment. The flea treatments are easy in this...
  3. I don't think you are overreacting. I think you...

    I don't think you are overreacting. I think you are concerned because these animals are not being treated with kindness. Cats are very attuned to people and their environment. These people should...
  4. Hello dear one and know that you are not alone. ...

    Hello dear one and know that you are not alone. Your issue is not about guys but about the way you feel about yourself. You are on a journey to find out about yourself and what happened in your...
  5. Man, if we all just knew we are good humans it...

    Man, if we all just knew we are good humans it would save us from so much suffering. I was an emotional child who was so hurt by all kinds of stuff that happened in my family and it left me so...
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    I agree with the post above that you need to talk...

    I agree with the post above that you need to talk to other people about what you are going through. What you are moving through is your grief - your thoughts about your boyfriend are part of that -...
  7. Question: Co-worker

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    Man, this is hard situation to be in. And I can...

    Man, this is hard situation to be in. And I can relate because I myself have had to deal with several bozos at work. I just recently had to write an e-mail to request that I be moved to another...
  8. I would try the shampoo first and see if that...

    I would try the shampoo first and see if that works. If not, then proceed with the pills per your vet's advice. One or the other will work - so long as you stick to it.
  9. I hope your vet has given you medication that he...

    I hope your vet has given you medication that he can take on a daily basis. He may need heartburn relief medication and something else - one of my pets takes the Famotidine tablet twice per day for...
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    Could be he is spraying; cats spray for any...

    Could be he is spraying; cats spray for any number of reasons. First I would make sure he is OK and get him checked out with a vet exam. Sometimes when male cats are getting a bladder infection -...
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    It sounds like your physical suffering - not...

    It sounds like your physical suffering - not sleeping - is a part of your grief and sadness. And the thing is - that grief takes us completely - it asks of us our full attention and that is why it...
  12. I agree you have some good recommendations here. ...

    I agree you have some good recommendations here. Depression is real and it hurts. I would make sure to take a woman's vitamin every day and get enough sleep. You have been through some hard times...
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    This is not about being strong Flower. It is...

    This is not about being strong Flower. It is about choosing the right people in your life to help you do what is right. Addiction is a hard issue to resolve by yourself. You need help and you need...
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    If you can move on to another company - do it. ...

    If you can move on to another company - do it. This guy thinks it is OK to treat you badly and then make it look like you did something wrong. Start looking for another job - it is not worth it to...
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    You and your partner need help. You are...

    You and your partner need help. You are recognizing your pain - the guilt and that it is hurting you in many ways. You may need to separate from your partner if he or she is providing the drugs. ...
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    By what you wrote, you sound like you are very...

    By what you wrote, you sound like you are very unhappy. Everyone has good days and bad days - but to be depressed can be very painful. You don't say how old you are - or if you are a girl - but...
  17. Your cat is scared of you - that is certain. You...

    Your cat is scared of you - that is certain. You may be scaring him if your tone of voice is angry - or if you are really getting angry with him because of something. Cats can sense how we are...
  18. Question: Depression help

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    A couple of things come to mind. Whoever was...

    A couple of things come to mind. Whoever was giving you advice was not very understanding of you. To tell someone to "suck it up" when you feel upset - is just not right. If you feel hurt and you...
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    You like or are attracted to this girl. She did...

    You like or are attracted to this girl. She did not want to be more than friends. Let it go and move on with your life. No matter how much you think you like her - you need to go out with other...
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    One thing I can say - you are not alone in...

    One thing I can say - you are not alone in feeling discouraged. So many people are hurting these days. I do not think you are weak - I think you are emotionally hurt and you just want the pain to...
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    Your situation reminds me very much of me. I was...

    Your situation reminds me very much of me. I was a young girl like you - and I was going out with this guy - and like you I broke up with him and then regretted it. In my case, several months went...
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    I think Judy is right - it would best if you went...

    I think Judy is right - it would best if you went to the Court where your case was heard and get copies of the Court orders. I recently went to one Courthouse to get copies and I did not have to pay...
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    All right. From a legal standpoint you are...

    All right. From a legal standpoint you are absolutely right. But the writer stated she could not understand why the adopted child wanted contact with her mother beyond medical information. I just...
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    This is a heartbreaking situation. This child...

    This is a heartbreaking situation. This child that was adopted by a family now wants to have contact with her birth mother and her family. No matter how wonderful her adoptive family was or is -...
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    Foster care is the not answer to resolving family...

    Foster care is the not answer to resolving family conflict. Your parents are making mistakes - they should not be calling you names. Can you move in with another relative? Would it be OK with your...
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    Find out if there is free legal advice -...

    Find out if there is free legal advice - something like "Legal Aid" - so that you consult with a family law attorney. You have not lost your parental rights - so that is good. Stay calm and do not...
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    I'm glad to hear you found a place. I hope it...

    I'm glad to hear you found a place. I hope it works out for you. Take care.
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    I hope he feels better soon too. Working closely...

    I hope he feels better soon too. Working closely with your vet will continue to be really important. I know how stressful it can be to have a sick kitty. He is a lucky kitty to have someone who...
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    It sounds like you are doing everything you can...

    It sounds like you are doing everything you can for him. I would take him back to the vet and explain everything like you wrote here. Can you consider the surgery? And if he has the surgery are...
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    You just feel really hurt that you didn't get...

    You just feel really hurt that you didn't get picked. It hurts to be rejected - but it doesn't mean your life is over. You tried and that is what counts - not that you didn't get picked. You...
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    The best thing you can do right now is to go to...

    The best thing you can do right now is to go to any M.D. and ask if they can re-fill your meds if you are taking them - until you find a Psychiatrist that can start working with you. It is such a...
  32. If you are concerned that they may become upset...

    If you are concerned that they may become upset and stay away - then do keep them inside. Cats do well with re-assurance - and they may need to know how much you love them - especially if you are...
  33. It depends. Cats are creatures of habit and...

    It depends. Cats are creatures of habit and introducing another pet can be stressful for them. Don't force anything. If Leo does not like the puppy then it might be best to keep them apart. Even...
  34. I hope you made it to the vet because it sounds...

    I hope you made it to the vet because it sounds like your pet is not well - he needs medical care. Write back on how he is doing.
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    Can you call the vet office and find out what is...

    Can you call the vet office and find out what is the best way to give her the medicine? I am so glad you got to hear from people who know about hamsters.
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    You are so sweet. I think your worry is because...

    You are so sweet. I think your worry is because you love them so much you just want to do all that is right for them. Your concern takes over and then you worry that you did something wrong. ...
  37. I would suggest that you first speak with your...

    I would suggest that you first speak with your Doctor about your plans to not take prescription meds - get her advice before you decide to move forward with a new plan to try herbal supplements. ...
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    It is right to take action with the school - I...

    It is right to take action with the school - I agree with that. Redhed said it right that it is never OK to allow anyone to bully your child. Some parents just do not know - or care - to teach...
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    Everyone here has given you such kind suggestions...

    Everyone here has given you such kind suggestions and their own experience on how death has touched their lives. You sound like you are still in shock over the loss of your boyfriend. It is really...
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    I am glad you wrote. Losing a pet that you love...

    I am glad you wrote. Losing a pet that you love is a loss and it hurts. Grief is one of the hardest emotions that we experience. It is especially hard - when death happens so suddenly. You may...
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    I would suggest that you buy a shampoo for dogs &...

    I would suggest that you buy a shampoo for dogs & cats that is from brand name "Vet Solutions". Try the "Aloe & Oatmeal Shampoo" with a little bit of "Universal Medicated Shampoo".

    What I have...
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    When you say intrusive thoughts - I gather that...

    When you say intrusive thoughts - I gather that you mean that you have thoughts that are upsetting to you. I would say - first, are you upset about something right now - or when you have the...
  43. I agree with Sunny - the baby means having to...

    I agree with Sunny - the baby means having to change around a few plans and making new ones. But in no way does it mean you cannot be happy and well and have the life you want. For right now, you...
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    Your feelings are normal because you have been...

    Your feelings are normal because you have been through a shock - losing your wife and the life you had with her - not to mention, your separation from your children. This is a lot for you - it is...
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    Just for information - the reason that the Court...

    Just for information - the reason that the Court can award a legal guardianship and/or adoption without the parent's consent is that the Court first obtains "care, custody and control" from the...
  46. Do you have any family that you could go and stay...

    Do you have any family that you could go and stay with? To be 17 years old and to be the one to keep everyone in check - no wonder you feel overwhelmed. These feelings that feel overwhelming may be...
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    Excellent questions by Scott to clarify the...

    Excellent questions by Scott to clarify the situation.

    The person who is taking care of the child could have either a legal guardianship or adoption of the child. Either one could be done...
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    It sounds like you did the right thing - she...

    It sounds like you did the right thing - she should be responsible for her own cell phone and auto insurance. She is too old to be counting on you to do that for her. I mean, if she could not pay...
  49. Question: Mean cats

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    Dear Bear - Yeah for people who love cats! Who...

    Dear Bear - Yeah for people who love cats! Who are the boys and are there any girls?

    One of my cats, Mouse (all 20 pounds of him) is aggressive and likes to charge my other cats. I have...
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    I think you have gotten some good ideas here from...

    I think you have gotten some good ideas here from everyone. You are right to be concerned about this situation. I do not agree with this idea that your son should see you when he turns 18 - if in...
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