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Hi, sorry to hear about what you are going through. I have been there and was just over a year ago. I was so broken hearted it knocked me for six. I came here for help and advice and I got so much...

No...

I disagree. That's not loser mentality, that is false hope mentality and unrealistic mentality. The false hope does not make you a loser, it makes you a human being with emotions. You've...

Someone breaking your heart doesn't make you a loser.

You won't get her back, she's gone and most likely will never be coming back. I would imagine she is quite scared of you given the abuse you dished out to her for all that time. If you love...

That was an incredibly deep and interesting response and this has my thumbs up.. Unfortunately I can't rate you because I need to spread the rep.

Yes I agree, also I do believe in the saying 'love is blind'.

Of course it is.

I was denying my motives when I was doing it but deep down, I knew what I was doing, reaching out, not looking for closure, quite the opposite. It took me some time before I...

Well, I'm not sure (for sure) why she said what she said. It was just my opinion, right or wrong. It just sounds as if she is not interested to me but I may be wrong. I just think it is perhaps...

My honest opinion is that she is not interested. She gave you her number in a night club when she was likely a bit drunk, happens all the time. Forget it and stop calling her now, if she was...

I did this. I sent an e-mail a month after the breakup (which is now a year ago). I expressed myself, how I felt, e.t.c... e.t.c...

It gave me no closure at all and in the end I looked back and...

Absolutely fantastic post, one of the best I have seen on here for a long time. I and many, many others on here are proof that this is all true and that there is light at the tunnel at the end. I...

Agree with tal, this guy is using you.

Leave him alone in this way and I bet he doesn't hang around.

You could do better for yourself than this.

I would say to you Marcus, move on, stick to NC (No Contact) but make sure you know that you are doing it (NC) for the right reasons. Only you know that...

I am grateful for having experienced real love and even though it was lost, at least I experienced it and I can't be happier at having that experience. It has a place in the chapters of my life and...

My ex did the same thing, I was told (and I believe it to some extent) and there is one answer...

Guilt.

Hurting someone is bound to be hard to do unless you are insensitive and basically a...

Usually the dumper has spent quite some time emotionally cutting the dumpee slowly out of their life. It is a process the dumpee often does not see until they are actually left and then the shock...

Good point..

Every situation is different and I want to emphasise the importance of not making generalisations. Not all young women want to go wild and not ready to be with someone older, it...

Perhaps you are looking in the wrong places or perhaps you are attracted to the young ones. I understand that, I am the same age as you but I have come to the realisation that the young just are not...

I don't think you are necessarily immature because you are dwelling on it but I agree with you when you say that your ego is bruised and it is nothing to be ashamed of because it is to be expected. ...

Maybe its not about what you can or can't do, maybe she just wanted to experiment, explore something different. Like tal says or I'm sure he has said, relationships are hard work and it takes good,...

She sounds almost identical to my ex. Why do you feel that way? Probably because she left you and being the one left behind really hurts, especially when you love her. Ask yourself, if she came...

I read your thread and then read this response by Krs.

Absolutely perfect response and you should read it over again as it is so very true.

Here are the facts:

1.) She did not care for you,...

Well... If they let me in, I would bring spicy pappadoms.

Yuuuuuuuuummmmmmmmmmmmmm!! :rolleyes:

Interesting advice which takes account of the dumper's standpoint.

Whatever floats your boat.

Well, I think you would do just fine! :)

Its all vicious circle mate..

People can see you are still hung up on her even though you are trying not to be and thereby instigating conversation about her. They can see what you are feeling...

Looking back at your past can be a good thing but dwelling on mistakes and misfortunes too much is a misfortune in itself.

I think (from what you write) that you are far from where you feel you should be. I sense that you are still hurting and albeit after 6 months, there is nothing to be ashamed of.

The answer to...

Good point tal, I think mac will be on the other side in time and will be the one who does the walking and then he will understand how this kind of thing works. It doesn't mean you will treat the...

And just keep ranting on here about how you feel, that's good. Before you know it, you will be banging on about stuff like I always do.

Of course she did and yes you have a right to feel angry. I certainly don't think you should not be feeling angry, it is very natural to have these feelings especially early on after a breakup. I...

Exactly.

I think you mckenzie, are confusing games and tactics with having a healthy and balanced life, something we should all do. The reason I think you are confusing the two is because you...

It's been 11 months since my breakup and 9 months since I first visited AMHD for advice. Seems like a long time really. When I think back to how I was feeling when it happened and when I first...

He shouldn't need to wait until after you get a job to see if he has feelings there because real love is when you support each other through the good times and the bad times. Evidently you are going...

For some strange reason I read this backwards but was interested more and more by the theory you have posted 4answers. As in backwards, I was going from the bottom of the page and reading each...

Don't judge all books by their cover. Don't compare one person to everyone else. Otherwise you fall into a pattern of negative and rather cynical way of thinking. No matter how many times you are...

I don't want to sound like I am undermining your feelings and ability to understand them. You are old enough to develop feelings for another person. You are a bit young however to be worrying about...

"Those who live by the sword shall die by the sword"

So, So true.

Very true. Patterns are common in people and I still have not quite worked out why they/we follow them. Perhaps a learned response to life situations. To respond to a similar situation by acting...

You should have walked away when you first sensed he was the player type. Unfortunately, it often doesn't quite work like that but I guess with experience it can do. Learning to judge and compare...

He is a bad egg.

You say you love him, but do you realise what you think you love. Maybe you do love him, but he will cause you more misery and heartache. You let him do it to you once and that...

I think the female must be angry at her ex or something.

Male Tiger:

http://www.perlgurl.org/archives/images/IMG_3542_TceE.JPG


Female Tiger:

http://laelaps.files.wordpress.com/2007/02/rawr.jpg

That tiger is a female, she nust have been on about the other one. Its hard to tell Gender with tigers.

:rolleyes: :rolleyes: :)

I'm off for some tea (as in food) and a nice cup of coffee.

He just sent me a picture of his angry wife.

This is when she saw a text message from another tiger and suspected he may be cheating.
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He just told me he can't, he's too shy and besides, he said he is married and his wife will get Jealous.

Not sure, I think you should ask him. :p