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Why are you still curious on why she did what she did? Who will know for sure why? You don't even do an NC or try to ignore whatever messages you get from her. You said yourself you don't want to get...

Another long one Guest 321, I hope you will read it :)

I think maybe we have a bit different understanding on how to do NC. You think that just not contact her is how to do NC. It's also very much...

This is going to be a long one, I hope that it will help you in some ways.

Of course obviously that you still have feelings for her. If not, you won't even care or won't even notice whether she...

It's maybe really who he actually is (hating to make a phone call) or maybe just an excuse he made... I don't know.

The thing is never or rarely calling a girlfriend in my book is not the bahavior...

My advices are: I think you should,

1) Accept the truth that you two are already broke up and focus on trying to move on rather than keep begging him to get back together. This can happen only...

I used to take a guy who badly hurt me back and give him one more chance just to find out two things:

1) I didn't trust him like before and I just kept doubting and rarely be happy having him...

When you think about good moments, you feel sad, you cry and you want him back. And when you think about bad moments, you blame him and point out how bad he treated you or what a bad person he is....

tmtrotminor, I just couldn't agree more with you! I spent years after years said to everybody that I wanted a good guy but what I always did in the past was running after a bad one or someone who's...

Yes, you're right. This latest comment of you shows that you understand some important points. Relationship that work always require the willingness of two people to make it work and you just can't...

Can you stop asking the "why" questions and accept the fact that he broke up with you already? You shouldn't come up with a lot of questions that you or us will never know for sure because it will...

My first thought after reading your post is that this guy doesn't truly into you or want to be in a serious relationship with you, no matter what he said.

You seem want to know why keeping...

Please consider what I write here before sending what you plan to send. My big regret in the past that I hope I never did all those things. If I can take them back, I would:

1) I begged my ex...

To answer to your question is "Yes, they think they can", which is so horrible most of them think that way. But it's all up to you to make your ex see that he/she can have NOTHING. You know what? My...

I just don't understand and it's the same question that you have. I mean if he's racist and have such a bad opinion about black people, why did he choose to be with you in the first place? And you...

Reading your story reminded me the old "feeling like crap" feeling that I promise to myself every single day -- I won't let it happen again... EVER.

Before my ex dumped me by vanishing into the...

I believe that you truly BELIEVE that if you get closure from her in the way that you post here, it will help you move on easier... but I'm sorry I have to tell you I don't believe that it will.
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I don't think it's a good idea if you will continue just being there and wait for him when he seems to still confuse with his own life or also your condition. Even he talks to you on the phone and...

Are you mostly happy or mostly unhappy with the relationship? Only you can tell what's it that you want in the relationship and again it's you who knows best whether he can reciprocate your love and...

Nah... not here for a while and your situation right now is not what I expect you to be in at all...

It's only a matter of choice you make. I told you before you can choose to do whatever you...

Acceptance is so important. This is not about you have to do something wrong or she has to be a bad person. You might, in actual, care for her a lot, treat her right, always be by her side, and...

I also don't understand and like to ask you about this rule as well. Anyway, after seeing your answer, I guess you mean when someone dumps or wants a break up with us, there's no need to make it...

When I asked “Why do you still care anyway?” I really wish you can just don't care about it as if it never really affects you, so there's no more feelings of hurt, pain, lost, and doubts.

As...

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Good rules! But I just wonder why never say "can't be friend" with someone who dumping you?

I agreed with Jheep. What's the cause of the breakup? Did he tell you...

You keep hoping that she should let you know, she should talk to you, she should at least try to work things out with you before making final decision to end it. You feel it's totally unfair to you....

All those things you feel are normal after breaking up with someone you really care about. You feel lost, fear, upset, anxious, lonely, worthless. You want to call her and contact her most of the...

I love all your rules... two thump ups!

I don't know if that girl is a rebound but you should move on. He made it clear enough that he no longer wants you or wants to works things out. I think it's not fair nor sensible to put a blame only...

Quote: "No matter what, she brings out the worse in me, and every guy she dates for that matter"

Quote: I really began to feel she was a victim of my actions and of other circumstances"
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It can be hard to trust him when he keeps doing this on/off and on/off to you on regular basis. This of course makes you painful the way he plays with your heart and your mind.

Can you find some...

Have heard someone said that, when you have doubts, especially anything regarding his feelings and his sincerity to you, mostly it means "Don't" almost every time. I have to agree on that.

My advice is to first calm down, try to relax your mind, and step back a bit. Then find some peaceful time with yourself and set aside all your feelings both positive and negative (anger, upset,...

Bill, regardless of what you will do, I think as long as you still have her in your life and still be with her, it will be very difficult to have a clear mind of what's going on. I don't say that you...

From what you told here, you and him didn't have a bonding or serious relationship before, and your pregnancy was accidental, which mean you two didn't expect this. Anyway, it's really nice that you...

I'm sorry but your latest post makes me feel like at this stage you just still don't think about breaking up with her. I say I'm sorry because I seriously think, after reading your posts, that "This...

Surely, it's so hard after all those awful things that happened. I have done a lot of things I think will help me feel better from my heart breaking situation just like you (I was used, I was lied to...

Please ask yourself these quesitons. If one day she says she wants to get back together with you, you will agree on that? And if it doesn't happen, what are you going to do? You still care for her,...

NC is hard... Breaking up is always painful, especially for the one who has been dumped. All the pain and hurt seems to be endless and sometimes you might even ask yourself if you will finally get...

You know what I witnessed some common behaviors of a jerk, cheater, and liar type of guys? They alll have their ways to make everything seems to be not a big deal or even not their faults. Do they...

No... you shouldn't let him pay for that machine.

I really agree with kaka67. I used to successfully get the ex back once. The first month, only the first month, everything seems to be really great with such a bright future and promises. After that...

This shouldn't be a big deal. If you two really love and care for each other, he will surely get over this. When both of you calm down a bit, you can talk to him about how you feel and also listen to...

You are welcome Baskingonthesun :) This whole nightmare was the past and it's years ago, so I know you will be fine. Please just focus on present and don't dwell with the past, OK?

Believe me I...

My first feeling when reading this post is that everything seems to be all about her. You allow her to judge you for who you are and I feel like you believe it! How can you possible think that most...

This is because you don't meet with the right one yet and there's nothing wrong with it or with you. Just an idea, I think you may take this time to think or write down what are you looking for in a...

I feel your pain and I really wish that you will feel better soon. You said here yourself that you have a good life and a nice boyfriend now. Isn't it something worthwhile and worth taken good care...

After reading your post, I think this is far from a healthy caring and happy relationship, isn't it? You have to spend lot of energy arguing with her about almost everything. You don't get why she...

I really hope everything is going well for you. I am doing NC for 4 months now and I start doing it since the first day my ex told me when I called him after he totally disappeared for several weeks....

Could it be? Should I really give her another chance again? Have I not given here enough chances already?

No, you shouldn't believe that people can change that easy, especially when they always...

Seemed nobody has yet given in to euro salary and bright cove. I am asking the same thing because I was offered a job in Ireland as store manager. I don't have an idea at first as how they get my...

I really like this article a lot. I think it is crucial that people learn to love in a healthy positive way. This acrticle definitely helps us avoid some bad or incompatible persons and be able to...