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It's been a while since I've posted here. My girlfriend of nearly 6 years broke up with me last summer and I've struggled with it every day since. At first, it was unbearable, but time does heal you...

You cheated on him? He's lucky to be rid of you then. He made the right decision. And yes, I'm a guy. There's no reason you should ever cheat on someone. If you don't want to be with them, break up....

This girl is playing you man. Playing you like a video game and you don't even see it because you're so heartbroken. She gets to have sex with two different guys, none of which gets a straight answer...

I know. And women all say they want a nice guy. Well, here I am.

Nice guys get crapped on and turn into s. No wonder why there aren't any nice guys left, right?

Doesn't that come off as smothering? I had an experience with a girl like that not so long ago who would make plans with me for the following weekend while we were still out on a date in the present...

Sorry for being a jerk.. lol.

Only reason why I did the whole "well hey if you change your mind give me a call" thing was because I had wanted to take her dancing and then meet up with my friends...

Hey guys, just wanted to update this thread.

So I called this girl and left her a message on Thursday asking if she wanted to do something again this weekend and she didn't call me back. I Imed...

I've done what you described there with the whole I'm cold thing- just without the line... haha. She said she was cold so I put my arm around her waist but only for a few seconds because it's awkward...

Oh I wasn't sweating it while ignoring her... I was listening. The thing is she's kind of shy and quiet and won't talk too much. For example, if I asked an open ended questiuon, she'll answer, but...

Well, this all shows how much experience I've had. :(

Every girl is different I've found. I always thought the same thing would work across the board. My ex was very different from the girl I met...

Hmm interesting. Now that you say that, she did kind of do that. On our first date, we'd talk but not look at each others eyes for long... we'd kind of look away at the table or behind one another.
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Ruby, what kind of signs do/did you give off to the guy that you wanted him to initiate affection? Maybe I'm just not reading this girl right or any girl for that matter... lol. Like, sometimes when...

How do you initiate affection when you are in a neutral environment? Like how I was walking down the street... what do you smooth guys and girls recommend? Lol.

I'm pretty good if I'm at a bar...

Yeah, I am your textbook nice guy... lol. I guess I could stand to be a tad more aggressive but only unless the opportunity presents itself. It'd be weird to do something out of context of the...

Yeah that helped a lot actually! I think I'm right on track then. I've pretty much done exactly what you just wrote, and I didn't even try to kiss her or whatever. Just hugs and holding her waist a...

... and what should he expect from you?

I'm asking this question in relation to a thread I posted in the Relationship Section, but I'm just curious from a female's perspective as to what you all...

Nah, I don't just want sex. I don't know if I even want that at all... lol. What I want is just to experience the natural process of dating someone, because I missed out on that in college.

I...

That's awesome man, but I'm not really looking for a relationship or anything really deep right now. Just a few dates, maybe hook up and see where it goes, etc. Just some light fun and nothing...

It's just so hard when all my guy friends are telling me to put the moves on her, etc.

Yeah, I know what happened last time with my little rebound mistake but I'm not looking for that now. I'm...

Being her "friend" is a bad thing though isn't it? Like, falling into the "friend zone" where the woman likes you, but she doesn't LIKE you like you, you know?

But yeah, the situation today simply...

Well I just don't want to make her think that I'm not into her. I like her, and I'm still getting to know her but I want her to know this too. I just don't want her to think I'm asexual or...

I've been seeing this girl I met on Match.com for a few weeks now. We talked a few times, met up in person for the first time last weekend, and today I saw her for the second time. The first time we...

Well it's defitely a lot better nowadays, but it's still frustrating when the girl does nothing but say "yes" when asked. It'd be a little more comforting to have "her" ask because you won't have to...

How often do women ask guys out on dates? Seems like guys always have to ask/make the move and do the follow ups... lol. Not complaining... just wondering.

Maybe back in middle school and high school these definitions were more clear. You'd pass a note to a girl which said, "Will you be my gf? Check Y for yes, or N for no...please?"

Haha.

College...

Haha thanks everyone! Well, I wouldn't be doing so well now without the support of this community. Lots of good advice here!!

I did tell her to give me a text when she got home if she wanted but...

I was going to just sit back and wait for her to thank me... haha... no but seriously, I wasn't going to contact her again until she contacted me.

But since you guys urge me to do so, I'll give...

IM = instant messaging on AOL

Yeah, I'm loving the single life now. Remember when I was dumped by my girlfriend 7 months ago? I'm feeling A lot better now!!

:)

A thank you note? What do you mean? Lol. I send thank you notes after job interviews...

Do you mean IM her and say "i had a great time"? That sort of thing? Because I was going to do it anyway.
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THE DATE WAS AWESOME!!

All right guys, here's what went down last night:

I basically fell asleep when I got home from work and woke up to my cell phone ringing... it was her... lol... already...

YES. YES.

... and did I mention, yes?

That's my number 1 concern.

Oh no! You just put a horrible image in my head! LOL!!

We did exchange numerous pictures, so it's very clear to me what she looks at. Not just pictures at decieiving angles, but plain photos with...

Thanks Allheart.

Is/Are there any things I need to be careful/aware of? I mean, as long as the girl I meet doesn't turn out to be a hulking 6'7 400 pound man I should be OK, right? LOL... you know...

I've been talking to this girl from Match.com for a few weeks now on AIM and on the phone, and tomorrow night we're meeting for the first time in real life.

I'm keeping it to a short and casual...

This may or may not be a self-pity thread (I'm feeling pretty good right now), but I just wanted to ask the women on this board if they've ever dumped a boyfriend or divorced a husband only to regret...

I never really understood how the holidays could be so hard on some people until tonight. I've been doing well since my girlfriend of 6 years dumped me back in July, but man, I've been having all...

What is different about it? Can you give me a heads up?

Ok, first of all, stop it with the psychic crap and the whole asking God for signs and interpretting your dreams. Hate to be so brutally honest, but all of that means nothing. It's just a bunch of...

At first, I thought the no-contact thing was detrimental. My line of reasoning was that you had to fight to preserve what's left of the relationship, or fight, aka "force" a friendship. But the truth...

Nah, no hidden agendas or intentions here. Just wanted to start a discussion on this since I noticed a few threads about getting back with ex's and ex's wanting them back, etc.

But yeah, my 2...

This doesn't have anything to do with me specifically, but with all these threads about ex's wanting you back, or you wanting your ex back, is it ever a good idea to get back with an ex?

I mean,...

Skell, that was a great post! I think we need to make an official/sticky post with the "rules of disengagement", or basically how to get over your ex!!

The real question is, why not go out and meet women in bars/clubs, etc? Real women... right in front of you... that you can talk to? Why do the whole long-distance e-relationship thing? Just doesn't...

Thanks everyone. I'm not going to call her or contact her in anyway. I just needed a little support to keep going. And yes, thanks to all of you I've made a lot of progress since the break-up!

Are you for real? She's probably a 54-year old MAN who is just tugging you along for a fun ride in which he gets his giggles off to at work and tells his co-workers about. You've been in an imaginary...

Wow man, just wow. It's pretty much the same story over here...

My girlfriend of SIX years broke up with me about 5 months ago. She too said that she needed to do things for herself, and make...

No, no, I'm taking all of your advice this time. I didn't listen with that rebound thing, and it blew up in my face. I'm not going to contact my ex (havn't done so in 2 months) so no worries there.
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Oh, I see it all right.

To the original poster, I couldn't help but notice your question because it's almost as if my own ex-girlfriend posted it!! I didn't leave my ex, she left me because of...

Yeah man, if course it would. I may be in denial, but I doubt she's that cold. When I was with her, she'd occasionally tell me stories of how she's been hurt or insulted (not by past boyfriends, but...

No, she NEVER responds to any of my e-mails, texts, or calls. I stopped trying 2 months ago. At first, I wrote her 3 long-winded e-mails begging for forgiveness, second chances, etc. She did write me...