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Wow again what another thoughtful and insightful post. To answer some of your questions; the reason she thinks she lost attraction for me after the birth of our first child is because in the...

Thank you so much for your kind response. I guess the reason it is so hard is because she says this has nothing to do with me. She says I did nothing wrong or to push her to this. She says I have...

Sorry if I am missing your humor or point but what the hell are you talking about. Me and my wife already have children four to be exact. I am not doing a contract or anything like that. We are...

Thanks for your responses. We are in counseling and trying to work things out. That proves tougher as times goes on. I have wrote about my feelings the counselor suggested that and I have done it. ...

I recently found out my wife has been having an affair. I had expected it for quite a while. It has been two months now sense I found out and I can't cry. I am very depressed; scared; hurt; mad;...

QUOTE=Fr_Chuck;2105456] what does happen people are sending texts and hits a wrong name and sends it to someone they did not want to receive it[/QUOTE]

This is what I think happened. She was...

The other day I recieced a text from my wife's cell phone. The text contained peoples names we know and some plans she had been making for that night. She says she did not send the text and has no...

Thanks for the kind words.

All good points Jake. I can't say for sure that she is not sorry for having the affair, she says she is. Its just a gut feeling I get. As to the reasons it happened we are working on getting to...

Very true Smoothy, but I know in this case that he was the aggressor. My sister worked with them as well and he flirts with all the good looking girls. He is known as the player, or dog. For lack...

Wow Synnen I hope your kidding lol. I really don't need to know that bad. Like I said it was just a question because I happened upon doing the laundry. I am not willing to send her underwear to a...

As far as the smell thing I was just trying to answer your question. If I missed what you were trying to say sorry for that.

No I am not more mad at him than her, I am very mad at her as well. ...

Humm very very interesting questions. Things are pretty good with us. We never fight much. We have had a few blow ups sense I found out. Mostly me blowing up. Nothing to bad. I never called her...

Okay speaking for a guys point of view you see your wife in a different light when she is "with child". Me and my wife have had four children and I can say that when she was pregnant with our first...

Ya I know this is a borderline subject and may not be any right answers. I don't think she has had any infections. She has not said anything about it if she has had one and she has not been taking...

Well no things are not good in my head at all. But honestly I was not checking her underwear at all. Like I said I was doing the laundry and her underwear were kind of turned inside out. A true...

Okay Many of you know my past posts. My wife has been having a long term affair, you can go back and read my previous posts.

The question I have know is I was doing the laundry tonight and ran...

Sorry should have answered this question earlier, we are going to counseling. We have a appointment set up. There is no way we can do this without any help. Our problems are to deep. Because she...

You know I guess the problem is every time we talk something else is reveled. The night I found out she said it only happened twice, come to find out it happened for 5 months. She said she was not...

And why is that?

She says she has no clue why she lost her desire for me. It all started when she lost her sex drive after the birth our first daughter. She has gotten it back just not for me.

Its just that she...

Okay I know I may take a bit of griff from some on this board for this question and my past posts. All I have to say is that I never fully believed my wife and knew we had some things to work on.
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Okay let me apologies if this sounds harsh or if I have any of what I am about to say wrong. But I have to say stop playing the victim here. Listen by what you are telling us you married a good man...

Listen, I have always told my wife "a bad set of real ones are better than good set of fake ones".

Before my wife had our kids she had the most picture perfect playboy rack you could imagine. ...

If he tells you there is nothing wrong with you sex life and he refuses to believe you then you have to make him understand that there is something wrong. If he won't listen or talk to you then stop...

Hey Chuff no hard feelings hear. And once again thanks for taking the time to go so in depth in my situation. I guess we just have different styles of how we answer questions. Not that one is right...

I don't mind opinions at all. After all that is what I am doing is asking people for their opinions in an answer form. Its just the way people state their opinion. Yours was well thought out, you...

Simoneaugie, I agree Chuff did a great job breaking down my post. I thanked him for the time and effort he put into doing so. He did not have to do that and I am grateful he did.

The only thing...

Thanks Survivor for your thoughts.

Yes this was a one time event. She has never disappeared before. If she did cheat on me I would stay. If anything like this happens again I am gone. I can...

I understand how it may look for my post. But I am the leader of my household. I am the man of the house and she is fully aware of that. Now with that being said I am not the kind of man that...

What's the deal Chuff did I do something to piss you off.

Not that I need to answer your smart remark but has it ever crossed your mind that it is possible for a couple not to have a lot of sex...

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Okay I originally posted this back in January in the Marriage section. I now see I should have posted this here. The relationship section seems to get more traffic and better...

Try changing positions when you think you are almost there. Also if you feel like you are about to , stop and focus on her. Give her oral, kissing, stuff like that. Stop the stimulation on you...

Like always communication, communication, communication. Be brutally honest with him. Let him know the lack of a sexual connection is effecting your relationship, and if does not change it would be...

The best break up song IMO is...

Goodbye Time by Conway Twitty.

I have to say I have a soft spot in my heart for those old country songs. Look it up on you tube it is well worth the time.
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Wow, I am so sorry to hear about your situation. This is the last thing you need on your mind while you are away from your family fighting for us and our country. I don't have any suggestions to...

Okay I have to ask why do you choose to participate in this action. If I am reading your post correctly you said she likes to be spanked. And when she really displeases you this is what you do, not...

No sorry not me. Its not a turn off but not a turn on as well.

I agree, most guys would say no just out of response rather than even thinking about it. If my wife came to me and it was something she really wanted to try I would consider it. I trust her...

Have you asked him why he is looking at porn. There can be many reasons he is doing so. How is your sex life. Are you guys having sex as often as he would like. I can't speak for him but before...

You have come to far to break NC now. Think of it like this. Have you ever listned as one of your friends have told you a story of something very stupid they have done while drunk. You know like...

I agree with what everyone has said. It is true that if you are feeling strong or secure in your relationship that the movie or song will not get to you as much.

I have the same feelings as all...

Hang in there man it will get better in time. Listen you do not want to do anything to harm yourself. No woman is worth that. It is not easy getting over someone and I know you have heard all this...

Come on man are you telling me that not once, not one little time ever in your relationship the thought of another woman has ever turned you on. Please don't try to sell that here. Just calm down,...

Have you told him you want him to take you all the way to orgasm with oral. From what your saying I don't see where he would have a problem with it. You say he is self conscious about it but if you...

Well it sounds like you have a good start going here. You guys are communicating about it which is the most important thing. Just keep giving him the positive feed back and let him know even though...

I did not explain my whole situation because I wanted to keep the focus on her post. I did not want to go into the long story of all that is going on with me.

However to answer some of your...

It sounds like there a lot of issues going on here. As a man I will never understand guys that prefer porn over the real thing, just don't make sense. As far as the "is love enough question" in my...

I don't want to turn this thread into what job is the hardest. Hard is a relative term, there is hard physically, mentally, and so on. To me it is the hardest and most important because at the end...

I am answering this question as a man that is married and also has four children. I am sure there is many different reasons your wife is doing this. But just from reading your post I get the...