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I guess the one thing stopping me from breaking up with her was the fact that she told me everything first, even though she could have easily hidden it. Also, this week, she confided to a mutual...

I met a girl in November and we fell for each other thoroughly. We spent a month together before she had to go interstate for 10 months due to her work. Since then we've had a strong long distance...

She got back and told me she met someone else while over there. She feels an attachment to him because they've been through so much in the past 4 weeks while vacationing.

I told her '-yeh I kind...

You guys are all right. I even told her not to 'think about home or do anything home related' the whole time she was overseas.

12 weeks isn't a very long time when you put it that way, and...

Cheers for the story fireguy. Holidays do flash past for the person away, but they're treacle to the person at home.

At what point should a rational person become concerned about the lack of...

Yeh, agreed on the disparity in terms of affection in early relationships. At the same time, she has always been very thoughtful and considerate, so it's almost out of character for her.

I can't...

I've been seeing a girl for 3 months but she has recently left for Europe (4 weeks) all by her lonesome.

She's independent, stable and very smart, so I found myself quickly falling for her. The...

Uh...

Was the last thing you said to him - 'go do what you need to do and I'll talk to you later?'

If so, it's plainly evident that you 'dismissed' him. He asked you 'how are you' to open a...

Everything seemed to be on a high note when she left, but since then, it seems things have deteriorated.

Not wanting to crowd her out with emails from home, I waited for her to contact me while...

One (maybe last?) more update.

She ended up contacting me on Sunday morning and I decided to take her to explore my high school, a place I hadn't been to since my graduation 5 years ago.

It...

This is a very serious question and without knowing more, it would be irresponsible for me to attempt to answer you definitively.

However, violence in a relationship should not be...

Another Update: And thank you for those who have been reading my long narratives. I sometimes feel like I can't open up to my friends because within my social circle, I'm expected to be the problem...

She teases me and I tease her back. In fact, she's one of those girls who'll try to make you laugh 50% of the time as opposed to letting the guy spend all his wit. So yes, we both laugh and we're...

This was a very unusual date. Everything didn't happen as expected and it's a longish read, but I haven't quite had another date like it before.

Went out yesterday to a coffee festival and asked...

I'm not saying she's confused. But I sure am.

For the past couple of weeks, I've been playing cat and mouse with a particular girl.

So far we’ve been on 3 spontaneous ‘mini-dates’ and one proper date.
The mini-dates may not even be counted...

UPDATE:

I didn't end up calling her or messaging at all.

My logic was that, since I called her once Friday and already confirmed that I would see her Sunday - the onus was on her to get in...

Should I text her tonight with a short -

"1 pm, geology building?"

Or just go to the library tomorrow (I live close to campus and would study there either way) and see if she calls?

While...

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A few weeks ago I asked a question about an encounter with a girl -

We had a mid-semester break and didn't have uni until last...

Mandy, don't worry.

I'm also 24. I ended a 4 year relationship in July 2008. It took me until January of 2009 before I was truly over it.

At the time, I really missed the 'routine' of being...

To the guys, don't fret, I'm just as lost as you are. I appreciate your perspectives either way.

Gemini54 - I've only created threads on this site 3 times. Once for advice after a break up in...

A shame if she did think I was checking up on her. I don't even know her full name or anything about her.

I should clarify that her exact words were something like - 'How did you know I did...

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Can anyone tell me if this is a good thing, or a bad thing?

For the past month, there's been this girl in my art history class at uni. She's by far one of the most intelligent...

I feel like I should call her, just so she doesn't feel like I've 'bailed' on her.

On the other hand, we never call or message each other usually, and I don't want to mislead her into thinking...

I’ve been friends with this girl for about a year and we both go to the same college and study the same degree. She, however, has a boyfriend and I have a girl who I’m in an open relationship with. ...

Thanks for the advice.

I could tell her outright to stop hanging around me. The problem is she considers herself 'good friends' with everyone. I can't just say 'I'm not interested in you that...

Lately I've found myself in an odd and rather uncomfortable situation.

I'm a 24 year old guy who has recently returned to university after spending 3 years in the navy. It's a new environment and...

Nothing's changed my suspiscions about her. The more I think about it, the more I start to think it would be better if she remains a distant acquaintance.

I don't want to be rude, but I think...

Update: Having neither called her msged her since our chat Monday, she Facebook poked me today.

I don't want to be completely rude by ignoring her, on the off chance she does just want to be...

Without knowing more about this guy, it's hard to tell.

But you have to remember as a high school boy, there usually one thing on their minds and that is bedding you (regardless of if he says...

Crazychick, that's very insightful of you. Thanks. The only thing I'd say is that I was never head-over heels for her.

As I said before I had a girlfriend at the time. She knew I was interested,...

Makes fine sense. I'm already wary of her flirtatious manner.

What strikes me as odd, is that it has pretty much come to a point where we might as well be strangers. She obviously has plenty of...

Hey guys, I've returned seeking advice on a strange friendship I've had with a certain girl. It's long, but details are needed to put my situation in context. I will try to keep it interesting. Here...

Talinaman, sage advice as usual. I'm being brash and a little too impulsive. Having said that, I still think her 'I'm too busy indefinitely' message was giving me the hint.

I'll go about life as...

No common friends. She doesn't know me ex. She hasn't been in a relationship for awhile. She was very stable and intelligent. I have no idea what happened, as I've never experienced anything like...

I tend to agree with truefaith, in that it's not so much what the thread starter did, but it's her attitude after the fact.

Well I think from the events of the original post through to the text updates, I'm going no contact. That's established.

But can someone give me some insights on the 360 shift?

I still find...

Uh huh. The hint is evident. What I still don't get is,

How can a girl go from insinuating that you go over to her house on Friday night.

Call you to see how you're doing on Saturday.
...

Update:

This is the text I got back after my preceding one:

'um I'm choc a bloc. My friend already booked me this Tuesday night. He has harassed me all last week so I acquiesced to beer on...

I must concede that I'm not thinking rationally at all. Which is why I'm here having you level-headed people talk me back down to earth!

The only thing I know right now, is that for whatever...

Hey guys,

For those regulars on this board, some may remember the book-store girl I’ve been seeing for the past few weeks/month or so. Things had progressing along and there was a fair bit of...

Well history-girl had always said that she wanted to get back with me, 'hopefully one day'. She just never said when, and we discussed the possibility that we may lose each other if we were to meet...

Hey all,

Ever since I came out of a 4 year relationship I've been coming to this board with all sorts of questions, ranging from post-break up dramas, to my tentative first steps back on the...

I have a conundrum. Does the girl I’m seeing like me, since she never calls me?

When I see her in personal, it seems like she does. We kiss, we cuddle, we lock fingers. But she never calls me...

No it didn't bother me that it was a guy. I guess the date had been coming along so nicely, a hairy drunkard at the end seemed... odd.

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Evening,

I've been seeing this girl recently (I made a post about the girl I met in a bookstore several weeks ago) and so far it's been going well.

Our first date was brisk...

UPDATE:

So today was the day I went back to the bookstore.

I went a-browsing, but find her I did not. I then ran into a friend at the bookstore and decided to go for lunch. As we're heading...

I'll be sure to update next Saturday.

Yes I'm also sure I think far too much.

For all I know, she could already have a boyfriend and just likes to be chatty at work.

Hey, thanks for all the replies- guess I haven't sunk yet, so I'm still in with a chance.

I'll be going back there next Saturday to get her to order that book for me. I'll ask her to do something...

I’m such an idiot. For those of you willing to read through this long post, feel free to slander me at the end.

It’s been 3 months since my 4 year relationship abruptly ended and I haven’t dated...