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Hey all,


Let's face it. Relationships put probably the biggest strain on you're whole well being and mental state. Whether the relationship is going well or not, your mind is constantly racing...

That article is top notch advice.

This whole story proves that both of you are way to immature to be in relationships. It may be better for you to find yourself then be in this "rut" your in.
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Your giving him what he wants- and he is taking full advantage of it and acting careless. You need to withdraw, not only for you, but to make him realize what he has lost. This, in most cases will...

Took the words right out of my mouth. I will never forget this quote in the move Swingers... which you should watch. It goes "There is nothing you can do to make her come back, there are only...

Yes! Thank you!

See nobody really misses anything until it's truly gone.

As I stated, I haven't done NC to get an ex back... I failed in the beginning with calls to her at her request.

And as I have said, yes, there are exception to every rule (even a broken clock is...

Generally it works. Like I said, if the person is left in the dust with you appearing to have moved on without them... then that generally will make them want to cmoe back to you.


Does this...

Put him on ice- give him the time he needs. Make him miss you, and I assure you most likely he will come back.

But for real, put him on ice.

Romefalls,

NC IS in fact the only way to get back someone that has dumped you cause they fell out of love with you. This distance between you two will make the other person see what is missing,...

Well you made one last try. Any more then this and you can kiss any dignity you have left goodbye.

Did he break up with you?

Remember, if they broke up with you cause they fell out of love...

Hey,

If you have NO desire to get back to her- then simply stop with the replies. That just gives her power and makes you look smaller.

If you want closure, and that's it, then get it... and...

There is no guaruntee... BUT


When you see him make sure you look absolutley fabulous, have a really positive attitude (not to to positive or he'll see right through you), and make it seem like...

That's tough- do you know any of her family or friends?


She is either really really busy, or she is "walking away" from you. Did you receive any indicators of her being displeased with the...

Oh , I was like this too! Even the mention of her on birth control would turn my stomach cause the thought of her doing another guy just didn't settle. Combat this as much as possible or it will...

Hmmm... tough boat.

Sometime pulling away will make them come running back, as cruel as it sounds, jealousy and a little doubt in the relationship can strengthen it's base a lot! It's proven too....

Well,

If he has any ounce of dignity he would leave you, regardless of his amount of love for you.

The best thing you can do is to sit down and talk with him. Tell him some of the voids in the...

Yes yes yes yes do it.

The fact is unless she is absolutley confident (which most women are not confident in this area) she will not ask you out. You have to make the move. A none threatening...

I wouldn't contact her.

Want to know if she wants to be with you? Drop off the face of the earth (go elusive, put her one ice, don't contact her, or... if she contacts you then tell her your...

First off, I didn't break her heart. Read my previous posts on how the relationship ended. I think you think I broke her heart in a million pieces, which if that was the case then yes she does have...

Makes sense, it's just a ty way of dealing with things. Almost immature too. Considering our break up wasn't wanted from both of us.

I just got out of a relationship (a month ago today)

I talked to her friend on the phone today and her friend told me that my ex actually is starting to hate me. Mind you, we broke up in really...

I just asked cause I was the reboundee...

I just got out of a relationship where my ex was on the rebound. Even thou we both had tremendous feelings for each other one day she just got really...

Anyone know why these relationships don't work? Even if there was seriously a connection between the two (reboundee and rebounder)

Anyone have experience being a rebounder and have a failed...

This is ridiculous... so unless you want to stay with him forever then you need to let him go.

Also too, make sure you look absolutley incredible when you go out. If you run into her you want her to see you happy and "ok" with not being with her. Be a social chatter box, seriously... meet...

It's weird, but I checked out more chicks and looked at more 'skin' pics when I was with a girl...

I never cheated on her, and had a few chances..

Wow. This sucks.

The good thing is is that she was a jealous obsessive controlling b*tch; and to me, that would be easier getting over someone who was quite elegant and didn't stress over stuff...

So, I was at borders tonight and was skimming through the best selling book "It's called a break up cause it's broken"... while this book is for women, I however found it useful and I recommend it to...

All you can do is try... but try once or twice (you already texted him so give it a day or two)


DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT! Chase him... you will only burn your dignity and any self esteem you...

First, you have to take a long hard look at how you react to situations and plan accordingly. Don't do anything until you do this... cause the last thing you want is to be back with him and get into...

Save what dignity you have left and walk away...



Why would you want to stay with her after all of this?

She will try and contact you and what you should do is to just ignore her... don't...

I was in a rebound relationship... things went amazingly well with us. We both loved each other faithfully.

She didn't have enough time to "heal" her mind when she got out of her last...

Just curious if anyone has broked the no contact and it has either worked for them or brought them back to square one (feeling like hell) if so, how long did you wait... what were the circumstances...

Well, right now you have the power and I think being in the "driver's seat" makes it too easy... thus making you aloof on giving her what she wants. That is to bad (for her) that it turned out this...

definatley move on- in terms of meet other girls. Don't be afraid if she knows about it too. You have to make her realize what she is missing out on; make her realize your value by you moving on...

How long have you been nc?

Wow, this explains what I went through to a "T"... she all of a sudden got insecure about everything which in turn led to her questioning herself and the relationship... then ultimatley her love for...

Well said, I totally understand and agree. Do you have first hand experience on this?

Thanks for the time

I broke up with my girlfriend 3 weeks ago. We told each other we would stay in contact, but it didn't work cause every time we talked emotions would rise. We decided to go no contact about 10 days...

Everywhere you look everyone says no contact...

What if both people are to stubborn and follow this no contact thing hoping the other will turn around? It's like a lose/lose situation. Unless...

After these few weeks of no contact; did you break the cycle or did she? Can you explain this cause I am in this same boat. Been NC for 2 weeks now.

Is it a women thing to wonder if he is thinking about her, or when he will contact her? That is a question I just have been wondering since I read that a lot.

The best thing to do is to simply...

I haven't read what anyone else has posted... but...

What if you did stay with him? Would you actually want to deal with this stuff all the time? Cause honestly, he won't change (unless he...

So,

After a day or two of no contact with her I felt great, like literally great. I thought it was just a passing "high"... but it led to feeling better and better. Mind you this is a girl...

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So it's been 12 days since the break up.

Honestly, I have gotten over her quite well. We broke up cause we met at the wrong time in life (two weeks after she got out of a long term relationship)...

Anyone?

Good points

And I did read your article after I wrote all this

To answer your questions:
We were together for a month and a half. I met her 2 months prior, but didn't make the commitment to...

So...

I broke up with my girlfriend about a week ago. It wasn't a nasty break up; we both didn't want it to happen at all. We really were perfect for each other we just met at the wrong time (I...

I agree. At the same token I may lay a little low. I don't want to be in her hair, I want to keep a non needy presence.

Cause, in reality I am somewhat over her. One day I do want to get back...