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Honey, HE needs to repair the damage of breaking up. If he hasn't said it straight out to you, it's because you are so eager and keen for it to happen, he thinks you'll just forgive him.

Make him...

Run!
Change your name, contact details.
You are both toxic for each other.
You are both spiraling into ablivion.
Does this seem like Ozzie and Harriet? Nope not to me either.
Neither of you have...

I'd say he's looking for reconcilliation with his ex, and you are just convenient.

Definitely, if your always there, than your always there.

Feel the hurt yourself and deal with it once.

NO CONTACT

You may find like me, that you may win him back and find out when you win...

Yes Me,
Me Ex left me 14 times in 18 Years. I begged her back 12 times. The 13th time I moved on and met somebody very special. She panicked and flew 1000 km's to beg me to take her and my 3 girls...

As I am in Australia, have no idea what graigslist is. Will Google it later

You'd need to call "Dial A Pyschopath" for that service

It's a bit of shock and aw. I estimate it would take about 5 minues and before he or she knows what just happened I'd be long gone.
More importantly, I am 44. FOr some reason and I think it's...

Few Break up because they Love there Partner.
Thanks Distantlove.
Nutcases, yes all the more reason for someone else to do the dirty work.

Sokay: Think about it a little bit, by the time you introduced yourself, told him/her why you talking to them, warned them of the legal remifications of contacting the departed, they would be so...

Ok,
Now don't shoot me for this, JUST YET.

I was sitting this morning with my love of my life and we were talking about starting a business to deliver Break Up Messages. It was so simple it's...

Stable?? Are you kidding me.

I agree, dump him and move on. He will be so much better off.

Yep porn is addictive, So is Television, Chocalate, and the list goes on.

I could understand if it...

Date a man of god or a unich.
Look I am sorry, The issue isn't him watching porn it's your own insecurities.
As long as he isn't into bestiality or kiddie stuff (and if you were sitting beside him...

Sorry, One more thing.
My Girlfriend says she doesn't like TV in the bedroom. Absolutely Hates It.
But on a cold Sunday, snuggled up with nibblies and me she doesn't mind a good Girlie Movie to...

Thus starts the game of hide and snoop.
Him: He will get sneakier, and hide it a lot better.
You: Will need to dig deeper to find it.
Better he is at home, under the same roof, rather than out at...

Mate, le me tell you. She is making you pay and she hasn't forgiven you for the pain and anguish she felt by the break up. Add to the fact she has found a new person, she needs you even less. She...

What it's suppose to do and what it does is 2 different things.
I got my ex back through NC. When I did, I realised I was remembering the 5% that was fantastic and not the 95% that was crap. Iwas...

Alex,
Would you prefer her to find someone better, and reject you cause you're a loser compared to her newby? I think not.
What are the right reasons??
Who cares? You shouldn't if you love this...

Reply after a few days:
Hey. Nice to here from you. No need to be concerned. Moved on fine.
Keeping busy. New interests. Thanks anyway.

I think before you expect things from him how about you clean your own act up.

Yep I Agree with madaman.
I had an ex who told me she cheated. I was crushed. I would lay beside her every night knowing she had been with someone else. It was unbearable. EVERY NIGHT.

To rub...

Every relationship has BOUNDARIES.
Generally the first boudary is THOU Shalt not Cheat. You did. You not only did, you did it with a friend of his. Man that is a double slap in the face.
It is not...

On reflection, All my previous ex'x and my current GF I met at Work.
Now I manage a Jewellery Store, it's like having a key to a candy store. LOL

All my close friends are Female. None of them I would sleep with or even kiss passionately never mind have a relationship with. Some are my Ex's who I would never go back to however think I am just...

Oh my gosh. Is there a correct answer here.

Only you can decide what you will except and what is exceptable to the normal.

What is in your heart?

And What is in your head?

Yep 14 times. It's called Emotional Blackmail. You see, it took the 14th time for me to realise what an abuser she was. She wasn't just a small blackmailer she was chronic. She once drove from...

Hate me Hell Yes this is why:
1. I did NC from day one and NEVER iniated any Contact
2. I rejeced all attemps for her to "reach out".
3. I never chased, begged, pined (openly) or made any attempt...

I have to say NO Thank you,
This last time 6 months ago was the 14th time in 18 years. I actually embrassed it. The mental weight off my shoulder hit at he 3 month mark. I realised so much abuse...

Mate, I am 44 and it still happens. Learn from this and remember.
The guys who have posted are correct.
Never go backwards.

Yes Tickle, still have feelings (I think it's called co-dependant). I was severely abused mentally over the years. Always tried to be the strong male, but when you up against a control freak to a...

OK, The Antichrist Ex Broke up with me 6 months ago. Left me and gutted the house and took my 3 girls ino hiding. Didn't matter, I went off the face of the earth so to speak.

OK, My youngest (13...

Raggablue that would have been bearable.
No she packed the house and kids and left. Always while I am at a work meeting or event. She actually emties the house. I have bought about 5 houses of...

6 Months ago my Female Ex of 18 years did a midnight flite while I was away. Nothing new it was only the 14th time.
Well I went off the planet with NC, changing my Email, Mobile, Address, almost...

I am sorry simone, yes I still have feelings for her. I'd say she may too, although in her case it is a power or control issue. She wants me to suffer beyond belief. ENough is enough and now because...

Well, Great news. My youngest Daughter has come to live with me (her chose as she is 13) Ex is absolutely livid.
I actually issued her with a DOmestic Violence Order yesterday which means she can...

Thanks Shy.

Gadday,
I've read a lot on these posts about relationships and you need to have someone who HAS YOUR BACK.
Sorry for my ignorance. What does this mean?

Mami, Your emotional hell hasn't even begun yet, Your husband, family and friends don't know. I forsee the worst is yet to come. BIGTIME.
You got yourself in it get yourself out NOW! Before the...

Oh but hse can stop me being a good father.
Because all comunication with my girls is through her. Catch 22.

I think not. When she left I did immediate NC, for my own healing. Enough was enough.
Love her Yep, but definitely not in love with her. She is toxic. I have had enough. She may have skipped but I...

Here are the answers to the items above.
1. When she left me last time, (drove 1800kms) I met and started a relationship with my boss (Female) who was 10 years younger. We had split, I moved states...

Mate what about your GF. What action s is she doing to push him away and give him the message or is she just revelling in his attention.
Why hasn't she changed her mobile number??
Seems she may be...

5 Months ago my Ex did a midnight flite took most of my belongings and my 3 daughters. She accuses me of cheating. She does have BPD and has left me for various other reasons (14 Times). Non where...

What's more important, one posible night of fun with a life time of mental agony or one night of fun with to be wife with a better result and a life time of happiness.

Turn the tables around buddy. Seems she has control.

Who do you chase Simone??

Mate, no kids no problem, say goodbye. I stayed with my ex for 18 years with her issues and hated 17 of them. The last day was the worst. Stop being needy and klingy. Grab your gonads and end it. A...

Dumping is a Power Play.
They want you to know they have there life and are in charge of it. That sometimes means that by dumping you they want to jolt you into realising what you have lost....

Say no thanks, you have enough friends. Have a nice life.
:-)
Simple really.

Your right talaniman. 200%.