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What dose he mean?

My ex boyfriend and I were together for almost a year and a half. He left me for someone else while I just started college. 6 months go by, he calls me seeing how I was doing. He wanted to go out for coffee. After the conversation he text message me saying "I think about what did i did to us all the time" What dose he mean by that? Is he regreting everything he did to me?

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Is he regreting everything he did to me?

Of course he is, and I hope you are too busy to listen. His new g/f must have given him the boot.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Of course he is, and I hope you are too busy to listen. His new g/f must have given him the boot.

Spot on Tal..

Totally agree, things did not work out after all..

The grass was not greener on the other side after all.

Would you let this guy back into your life now after he threw you to the wolves?

That is only for you to answer though and depends on 3 things:

1.) Are you willing to be second best? The second option.

2.) Do you want to be a doormat or revolving door for him?

3.) How forgiving are you?

Hope you make the right decision for you, and YOU alone...

Yes, whenever somebody has regrets about moving on to somebody else. This person he is with must not be the person for him or as Tal said has given him the boot and now he wants back with you. I hope you do not fall for it.

Joe

Thanks for the rating on approving my advice jesushelper76,

I took this info and copy and pasted it from the website below becasue I believe that it has some useful information with regards to what we are discussing here and may help provide some insight.

http://sidtheory.wordpress.com/2006/...he-other-side/

All text below, copy and pasted from article in website link above (not written by myself)

***'Why are we never satisfied with what we have? And why, oh why does the grass always seem greener on the other side?

The answer is simple. When we observe other people's lives, it is usually only for a little while. And in that little while, we will probably see these people acting on their best behaviours, and we immediately form a good impression of them. All we usually get is a tiny inkling of how they really are, and most of the times, we like it. But, as you get to know someone better, you realise - hey, this person is messed up. They have all these problems and issues, small issues, but they have issues. WE ALL HAVE ISSUES! We are not perfect, we all say things we shouldn't, we all do things we shouldn't and we all make mistakes. We all fight, we all get pissed off at each other and we all sometimes want to leave. But, we should try to remember, your next relationship or marriage will also have problems, in fact you will have new problems and you will have to find new ways of dealing with them. Don't get me wrong, if your relationship or marriage is just bad, then by all means - move on, but if it is mostly good, then try to ignore the small stuff - it will be beneficial.

While it always does seem like the grass is greener on the other side, just remember - when you get to the other side, you just may want to come back….'***

Geoffersonairplane: Now does this not now give you a reasonable explanation as to why he now decides he wants you to know he has regrets?

It's hard to say. If you want to know what he means, your best bet is to just ask him yourself.

I wouldn't ask him.

I wouldn't let him back in your life.

Don't jump because he says jump.

You have moved on and have grown into a person that is better then to let some old news back into your life just because something is missing in his life.

Do you want to let him do the same thing to you all over again?

Continue to move forward, not backwards.

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Originally Posted by Geoffersonairplane

Spot on Tal..

Totally agree, things did not work out after all..

The grass was not greener on the other side after all.

Would you let this guy back into your life now after he threw you to the wolves?

That is only for you to answer though and depends on 3 things:

1.) Are you willing to be second best? The second option.

2.) Do you want to be a doormat or revolving door for him?

3.) How forgiving are you?

Hope you make the right decision for you, and YOU alone...

Well I tried to rate you Geoff, but I had to spread it. Instead I'm taking the lazy way out for my response and saying to Mandy, Re-read everything Geoff posted. It's very inciteful.

We have a saying here, “The grass may be greener on the other side - but it's just as hard to cut.” And when the adventurer discovers that, they usually try to backtrack. It will be your choice and your choice alone as to whether you give him a second chance or not.

My rule is that I will hold my hand out to you once and if you hit it away, I will hold it out again, if you hit it away again - that's it, end of the story - right or wrong I don't hold my hand out a third time. In other words everyone deserve a second chance - but that's all. Mess with me once shame on you, mess with me twice shame on me.