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    #41

    Oct 17, 2009, 09:15 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by benson1 View Post
    Ok no contact! I just wish I really knew how he feels
    God! Remind me never to get involved with a boy!

    I can hazzard a guess,he's getting dolled up for a good night out on the town and not worring about how your feeling!

    But you,and sitting wondering what is he thinking,is he sad, does he miss me?

    All these questions are just making you feel worse.

    Get busy planning your night,and put a ban on talk of him and what he is doing,its not your problem,nor really your business now... hes single and so are you.

    Enjoy your life!

    Stop wasting time worriyng over something that is done and dusted,and you have no control over.
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    Oct 17, 2009, 09:40 AM
    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...lk-303157.html
    I know your right he is prob just looking forward to a night out and that's it!
    And that's exactly what I need to do tonight and don't think about what he is doing!
    I think I just need an ego or confidence boost because it has been shot to sh*t this week!
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    Oct 17, 2009, 11:23 AM
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    Do uz think going out drinking helps or can it make things worse?
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    #44

    Oct 17, 2009, 11:34 AM

    Hangovers always make things worse. How about some good clean adult fun, like bowling.
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    #45

    Oct 17, 2009, 11:36 AM

    My friend is coming over for some drinks and we might go out!
    I'm just scared I get upset and do something silly! Knowing he is out!
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    #46

    Oct 17, 2009, 01:58 PM

    Drinking when your already upset will only make you feel worse.

    A night out is OK,take it very easy on what your drinking,so you stay in control of what your doing.
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    #47

    Oct 18, 2009, 02:28 AM

    I went out lastnight and had fun! Didn't get too drunk
    I got my friend to hide my phone so I couldn't txt him.
    I started to feel a little low and the end of the night and this morning
    I just keep thinking why didn't he txt me when he was out!
    So silly I know!
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    #48

    Oct 18, 2009, 03:03 AM

    Good on you for having a fun night out! As time goes by you ll stop worrying about his actions-stay NC.
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    #49

    Oct 18, 2009, 03:07 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by benson1 View Post
    I went out lastnight and had fun! Didn't get too drunk
    I got my friend to hide my phone so I couldn't txt him.
    I started to feel a little low and the end of the night and this morning
    I just keep thinking why didn't he txt me when he was out!
    So silly I know!
    Either 1. cause he was having a good time and never thought about you.

    Or 2. if he did think about you,he didn't want to talk to you.

    Its harsh,but most likely true.

    You doing great by the way!
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    Oct 18, 2009, 03:48 AM
    Thanks guys me and my mate have been talking and she says she thinks we will get back
    But that I should just stop thinking. Stop thinking about getting over him or getting back just keep busy!
    She said that there is nothing I can do for him and that I need to accept that
    She thought that the month was a good thing she just hopes he thinks seriously about what he wants!
    She said seeing us togther she thinks we will work it out but the now I need to keep busy

    Do you think this is sound advice?
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    #51

    Oct 18, 2009, 04:02 AM
    She s your mate and she wants you to be happy-its her opinion but nobody knows what the future holds.
    As you said keep busy and don't worry about him.
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    #52

    Oct 18, 2009, 04:12 AM

    She may be right, she may be wrong.
    The best thing to do is, don't get your hopes up.
    If you get your hopes up and nothing happens, you'll be back to square one. But if you start the healing process and concentrate on u, you'll be ready for anything.

    Best of luck.
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    #53

    Oct 18, 2009, 04:19 AM

    Thank you! How are u getting on jayjay? Feeling any better?
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    #54

    Oct 18, 2009, 04:25 AM

    Not that great to be honest :(
    Just confused and hurt - and I think anger is setting in.
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    Oct 18, 2009, 04:51 AM
    Benson, you have to go no contact, it's the only way to go. Don't question yourself, whether it's the right thing to do, for now it is. The more you talk to him, the worse off it will be. We all have been through it sometime during our relationships. I didn't talk to my ex boyfriend for over a year, and always tried to make it right. Usually they always circle back and mine did. You know what's really funny, I have no desire to see him. He would go out with me, right now, but I don't care. You snooze you loose. I remain friends with him. You don't know the future and only time will tell. Concentrate on you as hard as it is, for now. Let him miss you and do everything possible to keep yourself busy. Remember NC.


    We are all here for you. Vent to us, instead of picking up the phone..
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    #56

    Oct 18, 2009, 06:26 AM

    I know nc is the only way every time I feel like I want to ill post here instead.
    I know the more I text the more I will push him away.
    Ur right let see if he misses me and let me see if I miss him.

    I have been thro break ups before and got over it! But every time it was about to end I knew things were not right
    I would either agrue with them and not see them. This time it feels different! Everything was fine!
    I know what your saying when breaking up with someone is not s snap decision. But I feel like he has just hit this wall and can't think about anything other than his failures!

    But I know what you are all saying I need to just leave him to get over it himself.
    Sigh
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    #57

    Oct 18, 2009, 06:56 AM

    Sometimes relationships break up out of the blue. You question yourself and blame yourself. It's not you, it's not him, it just happens. Guys want challenges!
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    #58

    Oct 18, 2009, 07:03 AM

    So have I been too available by staying in contact?
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    #59

    Oct 18, 2009, 07:13 AM

    Yes, and he knows that. You must remain NC.In his mind you are still there. You are inside of all this confusion. WE are looking in, and we have all made foolish mistakes, by chasing and just wanting to make the relationship back where it use to be. For now, its not going to be like that. He knows your available, and that's your first mistake. You are not giving him the chance to even miss you, if there was any kind of questioning in his mind that he made a mistake. He will not see that, till you disappear. That will tell you if this man really cares for you. If not, then you have your answer. Believe me, I have been down that road, and I look back, and wow was I wrong. It took me a long time to realize that. But you know something in the long run, it was his lost. Since then, I have met someone nice, who means more to me now.
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    #60

    Oct 18, 2009, 07:16 AM
    You shouldn't be available at all.
    He broke up with you.
    You need time to heal from this.
    Act as if he s not on the planet.
    It doesn't matter what he thinks or feels.
    Your life is about you now.
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