Drop the text stuff and have a bit more class. Formality is the way to go as you two have already shared tongues. Call her, chat with her, keep it short and be done.

Too much texting can lead to ambiguous expectations.

Chat/text

No more chat speak, it's against the rules.

Besides, it's just as easy to type "you" instead of "yew".

There's not limit of space here, you can type as much as you want, use as many letters as you want, so go crazy, type complete words and complete sentences.

Keep up the chat speak and all your posts will be deleted.

Call her when you want to talk to her. Don't play mind games. That crap is so out dated. Show her how you feel, don't be pushy, just let her know that you like her. Calling her is the best way. Even texting, everyone texts now. Just send a text saying " How is your day going?" Or something along those lines. But definitely don't wait a certain amount of days, that's just playing games, no one likes games.

Give her a call, and if she is busy, wait until she calls you back.

Good point kctiger! Yeah man definitely NO TEXTING, and keep phone conversations down to a minimum (mostly the phone is used to set up the next date but a little conversation is okay), because you want to do most of your interacting face to face with this girl preferbly while you two are on a date. Space is definitely valuable. Use it.

Ok, followed the advice and gave her a call yesterday morning, unfortunately she didn't answer. Later on, she called back and left a voicemail since I missed her call, briefly told me how her week was going and that hopefully she'll talk to me soon. I called back a few hours later, she didn't answer again. So unless she calls back, I'll just wait until she is back in town this weekend, call her up then and see if we can hang out. Sounds like a good plan?

Thanks for the great advice everyone.

K well you should call her or text her whenever you want. But don't do it everyday, she will get annoyed and it won't be great but don't seem to eager.

So I've been out on three dates with a girl that I like, all 3 have been absolutely amazing and the last one was probably the best, I know for a fact that she enjoyed it very much, we had an amazing time. Well, I live 2 hours away from her and for the following week we kept texting each other all the time and such. She would often start the conversations. She told me what a great time she had with me and kept being cute and joking around, so I was very happy. Then she didn't respond to my text one day a couple weeks later, then I texted her a few days later, she responded but then didn't respond again after a conversation. I also posted a little inside joke on her fb wall and she didn't respond to that. So as a last strand of hope, I texted her last weekend to see what she is up to. She responded and asked me how I was doing, but then again, she didn't respond to my second text back.

So, here I am, very confused as to what went wrong, since when we talked after our last date 4 weeks ago and she really appeared to like me, would text me rather often to see how I am doing for the whole week after and now all of a sudden she is cutting me off for no apparent reason. She is somewhat older than me, almost 27, I am 21. I would have thought girls of that age would be more interested to moving into something serious rather then messing around, but she only has had 2 bfs in the past. You guys think there's no more hope on this one? Why would a girl be doing that?

Maybe when she sat back she decided it was not for her?

There could be something going on in her life that your not privy too and its taking up her time and head space.

She just lost interest.. has this not happened to you?

You meet a girl,have a few great dates and suddenly for no reson you can put your finger on it just fizzles out.

Perhaps she was just not that into you.

I'm only guessing here,really you would have to ask her...

If it was me in your shoes,I would stop trying to contact her and see if she contacts you.

I hate to say it but I don't think she's too interested in you.. I would count this as a loss and quit sending her messages. If she contacts you, great, if she doesn't, oh well. Don't hang on to her.

Yeah, I wasn't planning on contacting her anymore, it was just bothering me a bit where it went wrong, but I guess I'll never know for sure. I've been hanging out with other girls in the meanwhile, just that this one I actually saw myself being with. Thanks for the responses.

That's the idea of dating,getting to know someone before the relationship...

So this one didn't work out,bet she dos'ent know what she's missing!

Enjoy dating,get to know the person,and hold on to your heart until you know the other person feels the same.

Good luck.

Sounds like her interest level in you has really declined. She might have been flirty with you at the beginning because it was all fun and games. Just to see if there's some possibilities with you or she was just having fun. But then eventually she has to decide whether she's interested in you or not. This is way of saying she's not interested. Furthermore, at least she's not leading you on and giving you false hope. She's letting you down easy by ignoring you. Would you rather her directly tell you that she's not interested?

Be glad that you had some good times, but now it's time to move on.

It may be that she is not sure about how she really feels about you. I would say let go. You will only hurt yourself more by trying to hold on or try to keep this relationship going.

Yeah guys, just in case anybody was wondering how this thread went, I wanted to let you know that I broke it off with her and now I can't be happier that she is out of my life. We will see each other once a month or so, we've had sex a couple times since I broke off. She has a new boyfriend now, but behind his back, keeps flirting with other guys (including me) and even kissing. I know she would have done the same thing if it was me dating her instead of her new boyfriend, who by the way treats her very well. Poor guy does not know yet who she is, but at least he gets laid I guess.
Only a week before she started dating him (back in August), she was sleeping with me and begging me to get back with her, saying how much she changed and that I do not understand and blaming me for not seeing how much she changed. She cried too. Now that I look at it, her tears were so worthless. She did not change a bit and it comforts me greatly to know that it is not me experiencing her bs this time around.
I have not found the right girl thus far, but went on some dates with very nice and interesting girls and experienced things that I never would have if I was still with her. Quite frankly, physical attraction may be the only thing I miss about her. That's the only thing that remained. For one reason or another, she still thinks that down the road me and her will get married.
I just want to thank you guys, some of the advice given in this thread really opened my eyes. I tried so hard to believe in her, I tried so hard to think that people in this thread are somehow wrong or not understanding my situation because they don't know the whole story. Well, pretty much everyone here was right. So, I really appreciate you guys guiding me in the right direction.

Glad to see you are happier now. That's what healing and concentrating on yourself is all about.

That girl was full of bull! Let nobody mess with you like that again.

Hey jake I too had an issue like yours. She would ignore my calls and then when I did it she would blow up my phone even ask my parents if they knew where I was... she would also tell me "she loved me to death" well at the end I finally told her not to call me until she figured out what it was that she wanted.. well it's been 5yrs.
I think she doesn't want to do the dirty work to not feel bad because of the way you feel for her.. and she wants you there to have a back up. So if you don't want to suffer more than you have to. Then do it, but know that she might not ever hear from her again.. "if you let them go.. you know the rest.