Thank you so much! I am 19 turning 20 and she is 17 tunring 18 lol I don't know if that's how you can tell she is a little immature lol... should I text her and tell her all of this or wait until she contacts me?

Im still going to get the book and take your advice as well and see what happens from here =] I have faith and believe in myself so we will just have to see.

WOW, you are both so very young. Think of all the years ahead of you before you even think of being with someone permanently.
Especially her. No wonder she is so immature. She is supposed to be at that age.

When I speak of your age, PLEASE don't think I am not taking your
Level of heartache seriously. Heartache is heartache, and I would never tell you that you are wrong to feel the way you feel. I will tell you that at your age, and hers, that this is nowhere NEAR the end of the line. This sounds corny but, "you will love again" Several times probably. VERY FEW of us get it right until we have several heart breaks under our belt. My advice is to watch yourself and when the next one comes along, don't invest so much emotion. Keep it light and just have good times. I'm going to sound just like my mother but here goes... "You've got plenty of time." Just enjoy your youth. Try to shake it off and go forward.

LOL! Yea she is worth is and all I want is a second chance just to take things slow to see if its what we both truly want she is just scared and confused and acts like she knows what she wants when she doesn't because she always comes back but I always screw it up when we start talking I just want to know what to do and what to say to her to get it through her head lol

I just want to say thank you to everyone!
I read that Ebook that was sent to me and let me say I have a different outlook on everything now and feel really good about it I think it was something I just needed to read.

Hey I'm going through exactly the same thing as you mate. Im 18 and me and my girlfriend just split up after 4 years. It really does hurt when you love someone so much and you don't get it back in return.
It is hard to let go of them I know. I'm finding it really hard. You wonder what they are up too all the time, you check your phone more often to see if she has called.
But you just have to think there are more fish in the sea :)
Im still suffering over my break up because I love her to bits but there is always that peace of hope in my mind that one day she will come back :). But in the mean time you have to get out more with friends to take your mind of things
Good luck

Hey everyone I know I haven't been on here in a while I've been busy with school and everything. I'm doing really well its been 8 months since we have been broken up, the only one thing that gets to me is me and her made a promise when we were going out we wouldn't tell anyone anything we did (sexually) and I have always kept it but her I just found out from one of my friends that she was telling everyone lie's about everything when me and her were together and I have been fine up until now. It really pissed me off when I heard that and I really feel like having a talk with her in person and ask her about that would it be OK if I did this?

Thanks!

No-dont dignify her childish gossipy behaviour with a reaction.ignore it even though I can understand that you are upset.you ve come a long way and continue walking along this path you ve chosen. Happy life!

Just another example of why you don't need her in your life. Don't let her push your buttons, and evoke a reaction from you. Ignore her.

I don't care what my ex says about me... won't stop me from enjoying myself. Clearly her immature behavior is only serving to feed her lack of self esteem.

Carry on good sir! :cool:

We both talked about it and resolved it.

Update: For some reason I feel like I can move on I just don't want to its because I really care about her and love her so much and now she is making some stupid decisions and I can't stand to see her get hurt. She is talking to this guy who has a reputation for playing girls and using them, by dating 2 or even 3 at a time and cheat and leave them. I really can't stand to see that happen and inside of me it hurts so much because I know who she is and I know she is not like that at all! She is just making stupid decisions for herself. I know deep down inside of her she misses me and loves me because she mentioned it while we talked about the other subject a few posts up. The reason why I'm writing this to all of you is because I really need advice I have written a long letter that I want to give to her I have spent days writing it and putting my heart into it. I really want to give it to her, part of me wants to see her learn a lesson but doesn't want to see her get hurt, and the other part of me is telling me to give it to her and try the best I can to show her how everything we had and shared together will be worth it if we got back together. Please everyone I need some advice its to the point where I can't sleep and it keeps coming into my head all the time =[

Thanks!
Jason

She must make her own choices in life. You can't let her push your buttons forever.its time to let this go jason.you need to start healing for YOU .dont stay stuck in the past.

Burn the letter. Leave her alone to find herself in her own way, and time. Find yourself now, and be better for this experience. No matter how much you try, you can't save her from herself, nor control; how she feels about you, or anything else.

One question, why haven't you changed your phone number yet?

Update: So I have been very happy with my life and have moved on finally without her lol Im doing a lot better going out, meeting new people, and just having a good time. I get a text today from my ex saying "So you were in my dream last night....& I figured id at least text you hello & I hope you and your family are doing well!!" Now I have no intention of texting her back and starting this whole process over again. First off I have nothing more to say to her I already got everything out I needed to say lol. But what I want to know is why would she text after about 4 months completely out of nowhere.


By the way how was everyone's Halloween! =]

Everyone wants to know why an ex texts them out of the blue. Unfortunately whatever motives they have, only they know, but what's a fact, those unexpected texts bring you curiosity, and confusion. Let it go and don't dwell on her motives. You have been doing fine so far without her, so why mess that up?

She wants to make sure that there is even the slightest heart string still attached to you to feed her ego. It's all about her.

You.. don't be a sucker like me.. I got the "out of the blue text" but I responded.. kind of, just let it go otherwise you will be in a spot like mine and wonder if you should text her or something more...

Yea I agree with all of you! I wasn't planning on texting back anyway because there is no need for me too. It seems like she just wants to know if I'm still there as cozyk said. I've been done playing games with her because I feel so much better about myself!

Thank you all! =]

That's awesome... Stay strong... You know how many girls try that crap? All!! Don't fall for it. Your lifeis better and next year you will be flaunting all of your hard work and you will love yourself so much and you will be glad you went through this! Good luck. I'm here anytime for advice... Its hard but I've actually used my own advice this time around and its not easy but I know it will be soon.

You made the right choice. The only thing you would get by responding would be more confusion, pain, and feelings that seem to surface out of nowhere. It is best to take time for yourself and start fresh with someone new, when you're ready.