No sexual attraction with my girlfriend
I met a girl about 2 years ago. From the instant I met her I knew she was a really nice girl and someone I would like to get to know. We started dating right away but not a whole lot.
I'm a male by the way. My history is basically that I suppose I am an attractive guy and I have had quite a few partners. I don't/didn't sleep with everyone I met but maybe a few ayear. Anyway my point is I've gotten used to some wild women and so forth.
This new girl however was pretty green/innocent.. I am her 3rd partner.
For whatever reasons at the time I was not quite ready for a commitment and I told her this. She liked me enough she said fine but she didn't want me sleeping with others. Well we continued to date though I did sleep around a little.
After 6 months or so I finally realized I really liked her and did not want her to get away so I asked her to be my girlfriend and we have been together since.
We are pretty close now. I care about her and love her very much. I think she would be a great wife and I think we would be happy together. Everyone in my family LOVES her too, and her family likes me.
It all seems perfect, but there is a problem, she just doesn't excite me.
I guess I am used to girls being "slutty" in the sack. They don't necessarily have to be "slutty" in reality but I am guessing that is what gets me going.
With my girlfriend, it is too late. She is so sweet and so innocent even if she tries to be bad it just doesn't work. Ok, she has tried. She's done a lot. It didn't work.
Now, I am in my 30s and my body is not the same anymore. I am not as easily aroused as I was and it takes a bit more to get me going. Some girls do still arouse me though, but my girlfriend doesn't, ever. We have sex perhaps once or twice a month, and I usually have to force myself or pop a viagra or more to get aroused and do it. I would not need this kind of help with many other women though. I've had a few do their best to take me home and such and let's just say I was very very aroused, though I did not oblige.
So basically this and this alone is really keeping me in a slatemate with my decisions. On the one hand I think she'd be a great wife(and she would marry me btw). On the other hand I am afraid I'll never be sexually stimulated and maybe cheat on her. Ok I pretty much know at some point I would if I never enjoyed the sex. I will always have opportunities thrown in my face and I would probably crumble eventually if I didn't enjoy my sex life at home.
As a result of a lot of this I have been thinking of leaving her, but then I spend time with her and realize I want to be together with her, but then I realize that it wouldn't work if I wasn't attracted sexually.
Any advice people?
Thanks