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BattleAngel14745 · Jul 12, 2005, 08:53 AM

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Wildcat21 · Jul 12, 2005, 08:57 AM

Ok - Battle - that's enough - these are people you don't KNOW!

Your being judgmental and have ZERO facts. This is advice.

What's you problem? Just because you're misserable doesn't mean you take it on others.

If these people knew about you - they would rip into you way more. So quit it.

Wildcat21 · Jul 12, 2005, 09:07 AM

AND - you post here to HELP people - not hurt them. It's advice.

Quit judging people and making up stuff you know nothing about.

You have more problems than any of them combined - so don't throw rocks when you live in a glass house.

Just because you feel bad doesn't mean you take it out on others.

BattleAngel14745 · Jul 12, 2005, 09:36 AM

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Autoexec · Jul 12, 2005, 09:59 AM

Originally Posted by BattleAngel14745

I feel like such a coward because I want to take the cowards way out.

I think you need professional help...

turtlegirl · Jul 12, 2005, 11:16 AM

Seriously, are you working with anyone besides just being on meds? A lot of us have been there; it takes work to bring yourself back and it's usually not something you can do totally alone.

Wildcat21 · Jul 12, 2005, 11:48 AM

She is reall a nice gal - just been through more than any of us could imagine. She knows what's going on. She actually has a nice stable life right now that she should be enjoying.

Squonk · Jul 12, 2005, 02:16 PM

I guess that's the end of this thread then!
:eek:

Squonk · Jul 12, 2005, 11:50 PM

That's nice of you to say packer115.

Im definitely no Wuss.

I have been intrigued by why I have been hung up on this girl but throughout this year I have learnt many things about her and her condition. From what I believe she has a personality dissorder as a result of some bad stuff that went on when she was younger. The net effect is that she can't handle "love". She craves it but can't handle it and apperently that is why she rejects it. The push/pull approach is a form of manipulation that is instinctive - in other words she can't help it and what's worse I didn't see it.
It is very complex stuff but she has been working on it and is trying to help herself.

My issue is with myself for not undertanding my own feelings. Of course I should walk but as a fixer I want it to work and I think the common name for that is "Wuss" ! I come on here for help not abuse.

Wildcat21 · Jul 13, 2005, 08:16 AM

You never try and be a fixer with a woman - she will RUN. The best you can do is listen and use listening skills - let HER work through her problems.

"She craves it but can't handle it and apperently that is why
she rejects it." - I know what you mean - I've been there before - a woman I deeply loved - couldn't love back because of issues as a child and young adult.

I heardthe only real way for her to 'fix' it is through therapy.

You could wait this one out and wait for her to come to you, BUT it could take months and months of 'space' OR even years.

I seriously think you should read every article at www.lovetactics.com - there is good advice there is you wish to pursue this, but again, it may take a long time.

In the mean time - fix yourself, date other woman etc.

Squonk · Jul 13, 2005, 10:50 AM

Thx Wildcat

I guess at the end of the day it is all about "me". I think much of the difficulty is in trying to second guess what she is thinking or wanting because of her manipulation. To be left hanging there is not on. On the other hand maybe I have a control problem of my own I can't handle not knowing!

Onwards and upwards!

karil-05 · Apr 28, 2007, 11:44 PM

Originally Posted by Wildcat21

Also - follow the rules and you wont have problem with any woman and they will love you for it. Love you.

Make sure not to be too available - work comes first always - get that job.

What's the rules? Hehe:D