Me and boyfriend from 3 yr broke up 3 months back because he was cheating on me. We broke up and haven't had contact for some days than he contacted me to meet we met he told me that he still having feelings for me and our relationship can still have a shot but he was not sure he wants his feelings to resurface after that we met a lot of times and he use to behave the same way as before and eventually ended up being physical till that time he was with his current girlfriend later when I asked him about us and about him giving a shot for our relationship so he told that no we should be just friends. After that I didn't contacted him for a month than again he started started missing me and telling me he misses me so much and he was more happier with me and he our frequency matched better and all but at the same time he is with his current girlfriend we met again and same he being cozy and all we ended up being physical again. He know very well that I am very still very serious for him and love him a lot... he says all this but doesn't want to come back to me? His current gal friend is in some other place and he is also going to leave the city in 2 months and will go back to his girl friend again. I don't know now what to do? Is he just using me because his girlfriend is not here? Or he genuinely loves me or want to come back to me? I don't know I am really confused I love him a lot and really want him to come back to me and all his talks is not helping me he doesn't want to come back and having a girl friend he talks all this with me? Don't know what's going in his mind? Please help me guys I really need your help all this is really troubling me and not helping me to walk ahead in life with out him. Please help

There are a lot of people that will tell you "once a cheater, always a cheater", but I don't believe this. In your case though, I honestly wouldn't trust him. His actions seem suspicious. He cheated on you and now he's with someone else and he cheated on her with you. He is definitely just using you because he can't be caught with his current girlfriend is elsewhere. He knows he can take advantage of you because you still have feelings for him. You need to stand up for yourself and let him know he can't use you. If he honestly cared about you and wanted to be with you, he wouldn't still be with his girlfriend and wouldn't be giving you the "just friends" answer when you ask for more. He's not worth your time.

He is using you. Geez do you think my ex-fiance and our ex-boyfriend are father and son!!
My ex-fiance is older, and way pulling same stuff on me, he wants to play, but lives with another woman. No more, I am done.. Now he is trying to use excuse didn't have closure and wants to meet, yet then he cancelled now what's to set up another date. I don't think so...

Don't do what I did, and let him drag it out, it is so painful.

Thanks a lot people... I think you guys are saying correct. Today also I meet him and same story again he tried to make physical contacts with me. I just love him too much too let him go. Don't know now what to do? Can I still get him back? Do you think its worth all the effort? And can you please tell me what stands to take? Please I know it's a lame question to ask but when he calls or messages I can`t help myself can't ignore him or his calls or messages... but still guys thanks a ton for your help.. :)

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Thanks a lot.you are saying correct he is just using me.but the thing is love him too much to let him go like this.can you please suggest what stands to take?I know its too lame to ask this question.if I get a call/msg from him I am not able to avoid.

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Thanks a ton... really appreciate your help... I am not able to ignore his calls or messages I love him too much to let him go out of my life like this... I really love him a lot can you suggest sometips of how to get him back? Is it worth the my love?

If you're willing to be a part time booty call.. then go right ahead.

But your love for him is completely wasted.. he doesn't love you.. he's using you. So anyone.. ANYONE.. who uses you for anything.. is not worth your time of day.

Seriously, don't you deserve better?

Thanks a lot... I know I love him a lot and he have no emotional attachment towards me... I know now now what to do I know I deserve a lot more than just being a booty call to this bastard... thanks once again