She's begging me not to delete her from social networking websites.
I have deleted all pictures, sms, mms, emails, tel numbers etc out of my life.
I think I shouldn't give in, and remain as hard and as cold as possible?

Exactly. Ignore her one hundred percent-dont reply to any of her messages.
Stay strong.

Amicon is absolutely right.

Fight the temptation to slide back to that place where your feelings are hurt, and you begin to question whether you are doing the right thing.

There is no getting around the fact that you will get stronger, you will be less and less affected by her actions to the point of having to remember the last time you thought about her.

In the meanwhile, when it all hits you, have a plan in place to minimize the hurt and confusion. Force yourself to get away from that space you are in. Go for a walk, call a friend for coffee, hit the gym, anything to skip the depressing thoughts.

Stay strong from me too.

Good stuff all I have to say... bravo!!

I wouldn't be that strong without you guys telling me what to do and keep answering my posts.
Coz god I miss her, but I know you people are right about this.
Even if deep in my heart I still love her, but it's a feeling I have to make go away.
And the beauty of all this is that I don't know any of you but you help me like no other.

Come back whenever you need to.
Take care.

So here I am again.
Exams finished, and I think I passed them all.
Now to get back to the subject.

She told it to one of our friends who is doing like a messengertask now :s.
She is really really down now; she's crying all day long that she doesn't hear me anymore. The friend told me she's so depressed she's considering SUICIDE!!
So this is the part where I panic, so I wrote her a mail to explain that it's the best for us that we stay apart from each other, that I don't want her to feel pain or anything. That I love her, but that she has chosen and that this are the consequences. I can't be friends with you after what happened etc.
Where she says she needs me and still loves me..
I didn't reply her reply to my mail. My mail was just to explain how I felt about it. It was not aggressive or mean, just ferm.
She says that I'm not hard but heartless by ignoring her totally.

I miss her for crazy, she's really really down from it.
I don't want to succomb to her will and be friends with her, cause that's not what I want. I either want to be lovers or nothing, I know it's a bit radical but it's the only way I feel OK.

So guys what to do?

You carry on the NC and DO NOT contact her again, the suicide theat is called emotional blackmail and is down right bad. My ex did the same to me, saying if I left that he would cut himself etc etc. Its all for attention, just completely block her, that means NO EMAIL, NO TEXT, NO SOCIAL NETWORKING SITES. She has a boyfriend so let him deal with her. She is having her cake and eating it for sure and making you look like a fool. You were doing so well with the NC!! Pick yourself up and get on with your life without her xxx

Don't fall into the trap of responding to emotional blackmail-that's not helping you and it draws you back into her little dramas.

You've said your piece,now stay No Contact and let her sort out her life without you.

I hope you passed all your exams-that's what you should concentrate on now,your education.

Emotional blackmail indeed... as much as we might care about them, there's one thing I keep in mind when I hear stuff like this.

How dare they put the burden of their life and happiness on ME?

You're not being cruel or heartless. You're doing what YOU have to do to survive, get through this, and move on with your life. Stay the course and resume NC.

You guys are broken up. She's going to have to find her own way of dealing with the break up. It's not your responsibility.

Give her more credit that she will find a way to take care of herself.

Just focus on your own life now.

I heard she doesn't care anymore and that her relationship with the guy is working fine. I'm happy for her. Though I feel anger she didn't pick me.
I'm angry for what she've done but still I miss her.

The NC is going very good now. Didn't speak to her for a couple of weeks now.
But can't help it, I see her face everywhere!
I was at the gym and I saw the reflection of a girl in the window, my heart stood still I tought it was her. I turned around but it wasn't. I was in the bus and I tought I saw her at the busstation. But she wasn't.. etc
At night I can't sleep, I can't help thinking about her.

But like I said I'm acting tough and hard towards her.
So she doesn't know all of this.

All those feelings are normal and will fade with time.
Well done for sticking with NC.
Plenty of physical exercise would be a good thing to help you get your sleeping pattern back to normal.

You have done well so far and if you get busy with things you enjoy, those feelings will pass in time. Stay with it.

I told it to my best friend,

Who told me to get in contact with her again but to be as cold as ice.
And make her jalous as hell, spend a very very short amount of time giving her attention etc.. Basically drive her crazy that she realises what she's missing.

What do you guys think about it?

Very bad idea! Keep reading through the posts here and you will learn why.

Why would you want someone, who clearly does not want you?

I very strongly advise you not to lower yourself to the level of playing games.

Breaking up with her is a good thing. She wants to use you as her reserve meaning her sparewheel for in case her 5yr boyfriend dissappoint her. Dump her and your feelings for her will fade away, you don't deserve treatment she is giving you

Dear internet friends, I do realize I am not as often on this forum as you guys are and only turn here when I'm in exams and thus am more fragile than regularly.

It has been over a year that I posted on this forum but yes, it is still about the same girl I can't forget.
I am obliging myself not to think about her but when there is nothing to do than study I can't help it.

I haven't talked to her in that while. Even though she TRIED to contact me via Facebook.

I ignored everything she said. She came over to my birthday in the local nightclub where she said happy birthday and I replied 'I told you I don't want you in my life, get out please' which gave me such a great feeling at that moment.

But I can't help missing that girl even though I am not allowing myself to do so.

I have been dating a pretty large amount of girls this past year, but I can't help thinking about her.

The reason why I am posting here is because last week I went on a date which was a nice evening but nothing more and the girl asked me "What on earth has happened to you to become like this"

I am not very proud of that 'cold hearted' stuff but it's THE thing that made it possible for me to overwin this situation.

I know there lies no future for me with that girl, but it is seeming like there is no future at all for me in "love".

During the year I don't really care because I work 60h a week and have my courses 10h a week plus going out with my friends.
This as a result from reading the forums with "start a new bank account and save as much as you can" I saved 6000€ "start going to the gym" benching nearly 100kg now. I am trying to do these things but I can't eradicate that girl from my mind even though I eradicated her from my life. It is easier to be hard straight at her face than really forget her.

How long longer is this situation going to torture me?

And I have this strange feeling that all the girls that are single around me are single for a reason.. Either freaks, pretty but stupid, intelligent but ugly..

I really feel like I missed the shot

Only for as long as you allow yourself to feel tortured.

You're doing most things right-what remains is to let go of this notion that she holds your heart in the palm of her hand-she doesnt-it's beating away in your body-so make the choice once and for all-forget her.