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    #41

    Nov 30, 2008, 03:04 PM

    Just leave him alone for awhile. No cantact whatsoever! Then after a few months, he'll come crawling back!
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    #42

    Nov 30, 2008, 05:49 PM
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    Should I let my ex know that I've have moved on.
    NO

    Be honest with yourself , you are just wanting some contact.

    Stay No Contact!!
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    #43

    Nov 30, 2008, 07:55 PM

    Don't tell him!
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    #44

    Dec 12, 2008, 01:12 PM
    Should I contact my ex.
    It has been exactly 5 weeks of no contact, although I’m feeling less pain now, but I still keep thinking of him and miss him, always wonder what’s he doing, whether he would be thinking about me, etc. There are times that I have the urge to send him email or text message to ‘say hello’, but I’m afraid to do it cause I’m not sure if I should or not. I tried very hard to not to think of him, but the thought just come so nature. I still love him and I know that he still love me, and our breakup was through mutual agreement, it wasn’t a nasty breakup. Any advice ?
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    #45

    Dec 12, 2008, 01:25 PM

    What would you hope to get out of contact with him?
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    #46

    Dec 12, 2008, 01:27 PM

    Hi

    I think that depends why you split up?

    Its natural to wonder what your ex is doing and how they are as you shared something special. Those thoughts would always be there to a certain extent but would pass in time. You could always wait abit longer to see how you feel. 5 weeks isn't that long although I'm sure it feels like it.

    On the other hand if you really think you could make a go of things again and really love him then I would consider making some sort of contact. Just think seriously if that is what would be best for you in the long run.

    Maybe send him a text asking how he is. Don't talk about the relationship though. Keep it light hearted and let him know your doing well.

    Hope it turns out good. Let me know how it goes.

    Xx
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    #47

    Dec 12, 2008, 01:54 PM

    Keep No Contact!
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    #48

    Dec 16, 2008, 01:43 PM
    Not sure if it's a good idea
    It has been almost 6 weeks since no contact with my ex. Since Christmas is coming, I want to send him a email or text to wish him Merry Christmas and see how is he doing, but I won't talk about the relationship. I'm not sure if it's a good idea to do that, and not really sure what to say in the email other than 'Merry Christmas'. Any advice ?
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    #49

    Dec 16, 2008, 01:47 PM

    What do you hope to get out of contact?

    Why did you break up in the first place? Did you initiate it or did he?
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    Dec 16, 2008, 01:53 PM

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    Bad Bad Bad idea!! Its tough but you honestly aren't fooling any one but yourself.

    You are just trying to get him to contact you again. Stay on tract, as this time of year is rough on broken up couples, with a history of sharing holidays together. In your case many.
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    #51

    Dec 16, 2008, 01:55 PM

    You should not contact your ex-boyfriend, unless you think he is still interested in getting back together.

    Depends on who broke the relationship. If u broke it. Then you may send a frendly, Xmas greeting but not too emotional. If he misses you he will jump back a reply.

    If he broke it off. Then don't contact him, no Xmas greetings, nothing.

    Every time you contact a guy after breakup, even if it is simply a holiday wish, it gives them power, a chance to hurt or abuse you again.

    It seems to me like you want him back and the Xmas greeting is just a way to reconnect with him. Don't do it.

    In the holiday time people miss their loved ones, that is natural, I have been there.

    But if he has hurt you in the past, it is better to move on. Send the greeting to a friends or cousin. Help out the needy during the holidays, homeless, orphans... u will feel better and maybe you will meet someone special while voluteering.

    Holidays are also a time when new love happens. Let it.
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    #52

    Dec 16, 2008, 02:21 PM

    Nope, it's the holiday season, don't waste it by sending e-mails to people who will only bring you down if he doesn't respond. This just another way to try and contact him.

    It's the holidays, I am more than prepared for all of the recent break up victims to be on asking if they should send a card or e-mail to "be nice"
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    Dec 16, 2008, 02:29 PM

    I would say do not text him. It will be hard for me not to text mine as well. We can pinky swear on it.

    However I was thinking of sending him this...

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    #54

    Dec 16, 2008, 07:10 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by loveyouall View Post
    It has been almost 6 weeks since no contact with my ex. Since Christmas is coming, I want to send him a email or text to wish him Merry Christmas and see how is he doing, but I wont talk about the relationship. I'm not sure if it's a good idea to do that, and not really sure what to say in the email other than 'Merry Christmas'. Any advice ?
    If you do contact her, 6 weeks of healing is going to go down the drain.I contacted my ex after a month of nc, after talking to her it felt I was starting all over again,Couldnot go to sleep etc etc.I am sure you don't want that
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    #55

    Dec 16, 2008, 08:02 PM
    Well you more then likely don't need too contact him.Cause if you do it's not going to turn out well at all.If he was the one that left you then contacting him even just too say merry x-mas is not a good idea.He'll write back and then without a warning the conversation. Will turn too why you too broke up.And that talk never turns out well.But if you were the one too leave him then I really don't see anything wrong with sending him a little hi saying merry x-mas but then again he might not like it too much.Just be careful and choose wisely.
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    #56

    Dec 16, 2008, 08:31 PM
    Let it be he'll contact you if he cares, and then keep it simple stupid and protect your heart.
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    #57

    Dec 17, 2008, 06:45 AM

    Never worth it... I am sure he knows it is Christmas or the holidays, so he doesn't need a warm wish from you. Holidays are about happiness, not feeling down or depressed because you made the same mistake again. Don't use this as an excuse to start all over. Keep moving forward and NEVER look back.
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    #58

    Dec 17, 2008, 12:59 PM
    Did he break up with you? If he did, then leave it alone
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    #59

    Dec 17, 2008, 01:04 PM
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    Did he break up with you? If he did, then leave it alone
    The break up was mutual according to the OP. I would not contact him. You are trying hard to get over it (naturally), and contacting him would set your 5 weeks of healing back to square one most likely. Keep moving forward. Carry on...
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    #60

    Dec 17, 2008, 01:34 PM

    I just think until you are over that person it is best to not contact them. If don't care how they act, that's one thing but if your heart is still in it... I would stay away.
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