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    dudeneedsadvice Posts: 10, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 22, 2006, 10:02 AM
    Need help understanding my Ex-Girlfriend's actions
    My ex girlfriend left me a voicemail asking me how I was about a week ago.

    Then she talked to me early on Valentine's Day but her cousin was on the phone with her and the call was short like 5-10 mintues.

    Her cousin then called me a few days later with her on HIS phone and the call was short and she barely said anything to me at all-- just listened basically.

    I left her a voicemail this past weekend asking her how she was
    And she ignored it.

    2 days ago I called her phone and she pushed ignore on me and her cousin confirmed this.

    (We've been broke up for a 1/2 year now)
    How come she can ask me questions/talk to me but she ignores me when I try to call?
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    Feb 22, 2006, 10:17 AM
    I am not making any judgments here, just need a little more info, that's all. If she is prone to drinking now and then, or having a smoke, then she probably was bored and was playing around with you.
    If she is 'straight', then she still is playing a game with you, and gets encouragement from her cousin.
    If you are over this relationship (which I hope you are) then maintain a steady life, getting to meet new people and enjoying life in general.
    Don't worry about her or give her any second thoughts, as it's difficult enough trying to figure someone out. Plus, I'm sure that after six months, you are on the road to heal and I suggest you stay on that road and let her live her life with her games. Don't try to figure her out, it's not rational for her to act this way and I would avoid her if at all possible.
    Life is too short to re-hash pain and rejection so go and find someone who appreciates you for yourself and will not play stupid games. She needs to grow up, and you need to realize that you can't help her in that - it's on her.
    The right gal will show up for you and you will have fun, enjoy being together without trying to figure her out first. A serious relationship should not be based on what this gal is doing.

    Wishing you lots of luck and stamina - and please keep us posted.

    Games are for Kindergarten kids - you don't need them anymore.
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    Feb 22, 2006, 11:03 AM
    She can talk to you and ask you questions when she wants to and not talk to you when you want to talk to her because she will only deal with you on HER terms. I don't know exactly what it is that you are wanting from her, either a friendship or to rekindle the fire that once burned between you, but whatever the case may be, you have to let her make the first move. She obviously will not accept being pressured in any way, shape, form, or fashion, she has demonstrated that. So, be cool, sit back, and watch for her next move. Please please please don't jump the gun, she will run like she's on fire. Just play it cool.
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    Feb 22, 2006, 11:04 AM
    Yes - she's looking for attention. WHY do you keep calling her?? Ughhhhhhh

    Even if there was a chance you showed your neediness immediately. You chased her away again immediately.

    Why can't people just show patience and let things unfold.

    You didn't play cool on this one. Leave her alone.

    She is trying to see if she still has you, and she does.
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    Feb 22, 2006, 11:13 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wildcat21
    Yes - she's looking for attention. WHY do you keep calling her??? Ughhhhhhh

    Even if there was a chance you showed your neediness immediately. You chased her away again immediately.

    Why can't people just show patience and let things unfold.

    You didn't play cool on this one. Leave her alone.

    She is trying to see if she still has you, and she does.
    She called first, and just wants to play with him. Again, I would not give her any second thought - too much wasted energy. Go on and enjoy your life - there is better out there.
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    Jun 23, 2007, 09:42 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by dudeneedsadvice
    My ex girlfriend left me a voicemail asking me how I was about a week ago.

    Then she talked to me early on Valentine's Day but her cousin was on the phone with her and the call was short like 5-10 mintues.

    Her cousin then called me a few days later with her on HIS phone and the call was short and she barely said anything to me at all-- just listened basically.

    I left her a voicemail this past weekend asking her how she was
    and she ignored it.

    2 days ago I called her phone and she pushed ignore on me and her cousin confirmed this.

    (We've been broke up for a 1/2 year now)
    How come she can ask me questions/talk to me but she ignores me when I try to call?
    Dude, I'll bump a thread that's almost five months old. ^&
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    Apr 2, 2009, 12:50 AM
    My ex-girlfriend did that same thing to me one year ago. Now, another year has passed, she really does want to re-union with me back to the way we were. However, I am now married and happy. Yet, I find myself still having feelings for my ex. Both of them are very good persons and there is no way to compare the both of them. They are both great. Just that my first one waited too long to want our relationship back. Yours may be the same situation. Good luck. Life is too short for guessing... don't you think? It will weight you down. Trust me. I have been there.
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    Apr 2, 2009, 02:20 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by raywong01 View Post
    My ex-girlfriend did that same thing to me one year ago. Now, another year has passed, she really does want to re-union with me back to the way we were. However, I am now married and happy. Yet, I find myself still having feelings for my ex. Both of them are very good persons and there is no way to compare the both of them. They are both great. Just that my first one waited too long to want our relationship back. Yours may be the same situation. Good luck. Life is too short for guessing.... don't you think? It will weight you down. Trust me. I have been there.
    This thread is 2 years old.I am pretty sure he has moved on by now

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