I get the impression that being exclusive in this relationship is not high on your list, but would settle for being #2, or #3. You seem to settle for whatever you can get to keep him around.

I have been through something kind of similar my boyfriend left one night when I was six months pregnant and never came back home a few weeks later I found out he moved in with another woman and he left his clothes and everything he just up and left while I was pregnant with my first child and his 3rd child.

I was devastated. Lets just say I found out the address where he was and he was wanted by the police and I had him put in jail and called his phone after he got locked up and spoke to the other woman she told me he told her about me and that I was trying to pin a baby on him and that he loved her and she loved him.


He is still in jail gets out christmas 2011 He went to jail the same week I found out were he was I sent him a letter when he went to the first jail and told him how pissed I was and that's when he started claiming he made a mistake and he didn't plan on staying with the girl and he still loved me and loved his son and wants to be a family.

And you wouldn't believe the crap I went threw with the other woman, while he was still locked I was working at walmart and she either found out were I work or he told her but he told me he did not tell her Im like how does she even no what I look like and where I work?

Any way this woman came up to my job constantly, called my phone constantly, threatened to hurt my unborn child over him and to be honest he isn't even worth fighting over he is a 3 time felon addicted to PCP can't get a job doesn't have a car a pot to piss in or nothing he is a true bum and I fell in love with that bum.

And now I look back and think man I don't know what the hell I was even thinking he should have been privileged to be with me I have car house work school everything!

The girl he cheated with didn't have a car nor a job and she had two kids that aren't his and she was a hot mess as far as looks, so what was the reason for leaving any way?

And now the tables have turned and he wants me back and he is begging me to take him back I thought about it and still do but to let you no if I do he is going to work his way back into my life.

And his son's life it won't be easy. You'll get your time when he is begging for you but let him beg don't call him seek him out or nothing become untouchable and let him beg and wait for you and when your ready! Good luck

@talaniman: Thank you for your words... I don't know what to say... One year has passed and I'm still in love with him. What he's saying to me now is like "what will come will come." I've read many stories about cheating, infidelity... and I just don't want anything any more. I just want to be loyal to the love I have for him...

@Mievans: I'm so sorry to hear about what you've been through... You're really strong. But I can imagine your nights full of tears with all questions "why" in your head, being alone and pregnant... I'll pray for you too, as you said he'd have to work his way back to you.

You feed your own misery, and confusion just by being in contact with him. Any contact, however small is poison to you.