If you hadn't had the strength to move on and gotten your head together you would not of appreciated the fact that this girl is a nut you don't need! Can't wait to see what she comes up with next! Keep us posted and keep growing!:cool:

Well to keep you posted, today she called 4 times like within a half hour. I called her back like an hour later, and apparently she wanted to come see me before she went to school (we live 5 min apart)... neway, that's what's up so far... hows that for you?

You need to get a girl to do the voice on your voicemail and home phone.

When it gets this nuts, why not.

Buy some panties and leave a few around the house for when she comes over.

Maybe a lipstick sitting on the bathroom counter.

I know. Its wrong. But whiny, sorry ex's pi$$ me off.

Lol, I like your response kp; tried to rep you but was not allowed. I don't think any other "method" would quite get the message across, save ignoring her completely - which isn't really that easy to do since they live so close to each other.

Well, she came over today... she called me crying her eyes out about her problems and her ****ty feelings, I saw this as an opertunity since she was vulnerable, so I told her to come over since she was suppose to the other day but I didn't pick up her calls (please don't get mad at me) I really wanted to see her. Anyway, it felt weird at first, but then things just went into place like they use to. We talked, she cryed then went into our old ways of flirting, touching, then we kissed. When she had to leave she didn't want too... anyway, she called me on the way to work too. Well I guess her wanting attention is making me happy as well so its all good. I don't know what's going on from here but all worried. So, just when you guys thought you heard it all, I come along with these events... hahahah. What you think now

Matt - she had her chance and she TOTALLY blew it.

JUST ignore her... eventuially it WILL stop.

This gal is WAY too imature for any type of relationship. You know what a wack job she. If you went back to her she would just check on you and poop on you after things got comfortable.

Stop giving her any attention.

You'll find the right gal - as we have documented here, she isn't that gal.
People want what they can't have.

I don't know if any of you regulars remember me from last year but I'm back with stories of the same girl. I've learned a lot since the break up. Took all your advise, read a lot of stuff and learned about women more, but seriously I'm still confused about this one... so, it's a yr we broke up. When we broke up, I found out she was seeing someone else. But I still find myself thinking of her a lot and still have feelings after all this time and the crap she did to me. During the past yr, we spend a lot of time together, and slept together on and off. We live really close so we would run into each other at the bus stop or metro. And since our schools are also really close it made it easy to go for lunch and stuff and hang out. She would call every day for like 2 months at a time, and then from one day to the next she would disappear. This cycle has happen 2 times already. I don't hear from her for 3 to 4 months, and then all of a sudden she pops back and calls and wants to meet up, this would go on for 2 months, and then she's goes into hiding. But before you guys start getting made at me, I wouldn't answer her calls and egnor her, but this just made her call more and be more aggressive. It got to the point she was calling 10 times a day. So after her running after me I finally give in because I still feel something for her but I don't understand her. I think its because she just wants to have sex. But I don't know, its so weird. And also during all this, she says she's not with anyone but I know this isn't true. She is still with the guy she cheated on me with. So I conclude she bounces from me and him from time to time to get her little thrills I'm assuming? Seriously what the hell

WHY on eath go through this drama??

Lose her phone #, e-mail, etc.

Get her out of your life.

Sharing a gal = STDs - and misery.

Go find a gal who wants a real relationship.

Ok first of all i'm a girl and I know exactly what she's doing.She wants to be able to have her cake and eat it too.All she's doing is using you and you know she is but you still have feelings for her and don't wanna think that.She thinks that it's ok to fu*k around then go back to you.That's her idea of some twisted game she has in her head and doesn't care if it means hurting someone in the process.And now since your ignoring her it's killing her inside because she's used to you being their with a snap of her finger.Don't give in nomatter how much she calls.Just change your number I know that will not completely get rid of her but u won't get the calls 10 times a day so that would help a little.

There was a day when the girls wrote stuff complaining like this about the "romeo" and "cassanova" types. LOL I am dating myself I realise but there is a point. Now the shoe is on the other foot. What did you think of the guys who did this with the girls, Mattvit? I would advise you think the same about your female friend and take the appropriate action with that thought. This is not her doing it to you. Its YOU letting her do it to you.

Hi Matt, Yes I do remember your other post and Val is correct in that you should take back control and leave this female alone. I mean cut off all contact and make yourself unavailable. You are letting her play you like a yoyo and only you can stop it. She is a nut who thinks she can do as she pleases, and she can, but you must show her not with you!

Well said Tal. That's it!!

I'll give a bit about my past, then I'll tell about my present. I had a girl that I was totally in love w/ she had a body of a goddess, but we clashed in our views so we fought. We broke up 6 months later. Her friend told me she moved on right after we broke up, so that was that. The no contact part was easy, not on my part, but I literally had no way to contact her. Another 6 months later she pages me (this was back in 98) and said she needed me to kick some guys out of her dorm room for her. We hooked back up after that, and ended almost a yr later.

Now, I was dating a girl who was my friend for 3yrs before we started dating. Just about 2 weeks ago, after 2 yrs of dating she's asking for space. I'm 32 and she's 21. I have no choice but to give her that, and I'm pretty sure from what I can see on her social webpage that there appears to be 1 maybe a few guys she's considering. It's really hard, going from once where she told me "You're my best friend, you're the one I'm always suppose to go to" to someone saying "I'm no longer attracted to you". I know experience is the best teacher, but it's always hard. I don't know what's in store for me in the upcoming weeks, months. All I know is I have to keep working, working out, and making new friends.

I know this may be an older post and some of you folks may not be following it anymore. Im not claiming to be an expert so please take this with a grain of salt. I too am going through this right now and I was with my woman for 3 years. I think I can relate because this was my first true love and I thought I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. She completed me. I had material things and she was everything that was missing in my life. She moved out, with all of her stuff about 7 weeks ago, out of our house (which we own together) to live with her parents in Georgia and find herself, she did not say we were broken up but she said she needed time to get her life together as she had been unemployed for 6 months and was getting depressed with life in general(at least that's what she said, I find out later she was cheating). We lived in Florida. For anyone that reads this I can honestly say the NO CONTACT RULE IS A MUST!! If you want any hope of working things out. I failed in this aspect and pushed her farther away and eventually out of my life completely I found out she had been messing around with someone on Facebook (logged into her profile because she left the password on my computer) Im not proud of that but I needed closure and peace of mind. Did I cross the jealosy line? Maybe I did but I felt it needed to be done. It was hard to come to that reality and it is still hard because it has only been about 7 weeks. I do not regret what I did because in the back of my mind I was sometimes thinking the relationship would fail eventually anyway because she wasn't giving 100% She was a lazy persn but I loved her because she made me happy, or so I thought. Everything happens for a reason and I guess what I am really trying to say is that if you love something, let it go. If it comes back, BLAH BLAH BLAH... Its true though! The pain is deep and anyone on here will tell you that but it helps us to grow as individuals and find ways to improve ourselves. Life is a learning process, EVERY DAY! The way we handle ourselves todayreflects how we end up tomorrow. I thank God for all of the advice that everyone has given on here, it has definitely made my situation a little more peaceful.


People are right, don't be a stalker. Speaking from experience I can say it will fail every time! Be a man and move on. I am working on that myself and every day it gets a little easier. Time brother. It heals... What will be will be. Humans should not force anything to the extreme.

Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans. -- John Lennon

If she wants space give her space... give her a couple of weeks.. if no contact move and tell here you are going to move on after that 2 weeks.

If you really like/loves you she will come back to you, take it slow when u get back together and try to find out what it was why she wanted the space...

Cheers
Ro