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    Apr 25, 2009, 05:07 AM
    My girlfriend says she needs space and says she's not in love with me but still wants
    Hi I've been going out with my girlfriend for only 2 and a half months she split up with her boyfriend who she was going out with for two years in November and we started going out in early February at the beginning of our relationship up until a couple of weeks ago she was so affectionate to me sending me texts all the time and always so she loved me and we always spoke about our future and we were getting serious and we were happy, she said I was the one. The last couple of weeks she's changed she's become less affectionate and really moody towards me we spoke about it and she said that "i will never be happy because I'll never love as much as I did my first love however she also she didn't want to get back with him, she then said she needed space and hates me calling her and its as if she would prefer to see her friends than me I never controlled her to say never go and see friends. She then said that she loved me but didn't think she was in love with me but she still wants to be with me however she has said that she didn't know whether she was ready for a relationship and said we were going to fast. During the easter holidays I saw her a lot nearly everyday and she said she feels its like a schedule and she has hinted at having a break from me but I'm not sure if she wants that, she's sending mixed signals I love this girl and I want to make this relationship work please help!
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    Apr 25, 2009, 05:31 AM

    I suggest you back off, way off. She was in a long term relationship and it didn't work, so she rebounded to you, before she had a chance to heal, and get over her ex.

    To make it worse, the two of you have really rushed ahead to fast, as really your still strangers getting to know each other.

    What you need to realize is the initial attraction is wearing off, and reality is setting in. She still needs to heal, and she can't do that with you wanting more time with her.

    She isn't sending mixed signals, she clearly wants a break, so give it to her. Sorry guy, wrong place at the wrong time, and for as deep as you are falling, she is not. It happens.
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    Apr 25, 2009, 01:06 PM

    Your supposed girlfriend is using you to be her emtional tampon. She's dumping her problems on you and then setting the ground work for a break up down the line. Might as well beat her to it and dump her now before she leaves you for the next guy.
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    Apr 25, 2009, 02:25 PM

    Hi Cyprus... I'm afraid it's a case of, too much to soon.

    It's going to take a while for her to get over her previous boyfriend, although she may have thought that she had, quite clearly it's not so.

    She is actually using you as a temporary crutch until she is strong enough to go it alone once more... and it seems that she is.

    Make a clean break, if there is anything there, then fate will bring you both back together again on level ground.
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    Apr 26, 2009, 11:34 PM
    Realistically, 2 1/2 months is not a long time to be in a relationship. Your girlfriend said she will never love as much as she did her first love. She doesn't want him back, and since she hinted about a break, she might not want a relationship with you either. She said she needed space, so I think you should respect that.
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    May 1, 2009, 04:22 PM
    Girlfriend going to party without me but her ex will be there
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    She then said that she loved me but didn't think she was in love with me but she still wants to be with me however she has said that she didn't know whether she was ready for a relationship and said we were going to fast. During the easter holidays I saw her a lot nearly everyday and she said she feels its like a schedule and she has hinted at having a break from me but I'm not sure if she wants that, recently it seems its been cleared up slightly but its not the same and all this talk of her ex, she's going to a house party of only 20ish she did not invite me and her ex is going to be there, I kind of trust her but its all this talk and they'll be drunk anything can happen that's got me a bit suspicious what can I do?
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    May 1, 2009, 04:25 PM

    I have a feeling she's not totally over her ex. She may not want to get back with him. But she is definitely having problems getting over him. I would ask her why she doesn't want you to attend the party with her.
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    May 2, 2009, 12:17 AM
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    what can i do?
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