It's OK to be pissed... just don't let that control your actions.

OK everyone... here is the update:

I contacted a mutual friend of ours and went out to have a beer and talk about her. She's been friends with this guy since elementary school and knows all about our drama etc...

He tells me that when he talked to her yesterday, she said that she was upset with me and that she will call me when she isn't. He told her to stop being angry and just to contact me but she is stubborn and doesn't want to at this time...

So, I tell our friend that I understand but that she is losing me. And that if she doesn't make up her mind if she wants me or not, then I will be out of the picture. I told him that I will no longer email, text or call her and that it is now up to her to contact me. "either she wants me or she doesnt" is what I told him

He said that she loves me but she just doesn't know if she wants to spend her life with me or start "fresh"...

I say fine... that I'm not playing any more games and that if she's upset with me then, she needs to let me know and if she doesn't want to talk to me for a certain amount of time, then cool... but she needs to let me know one way or antoher instead of me texting with no response from her.

Long story short, he is going to relay the message to her and that she is losing me with her childish behavior...

Comments please!! Now what??

Stay NC. Life is not about waiting for other people to "decide" if they want to be with you. She knows the answer... you just keep up the NC, and build a life that doesn't revolve around her

All right... ill stay NC...

Ill keep you posted!

Stop talking to common friends, going on Facebook or whatever, man. Leave her alone.

Here's the thing, don't keep us posted about her life. We here do not care about her. We care about you. And so should you. Keep us posted about yours.

Oh OK... will do.

Thanks

Aaaaaaaahhhhhhhh!!

All right... I have tried doing things to take my mind off her. Gym, shopping, drinking... all that and I still want to text her and email her.. really just to ask:?

Gimme a yes or a no but tell me what is going on. Whatever she says is OK by me... but this not knowing is killing me.

What do I do? Do I write her off completely as of now - even though I still love her and she me? OR do I "wait" for her to make up her mind? I want to get on with my life and to meeting other people but this is preventing me from doing so!

I have a chance to go out tomorrow with the guys and they say that there are TONS of available women there... but, if she finds out that I was talking to one, shed leave me for sure! I love her but I DO NOT like to be ALONE!!

HELP!

Go out and have fun... no one said you need to get another woman. That clearly wouldn't be ideal for you right now anyway... HAVE FUN!! There is nothing wrong with that.

Help me out people..!

I sooooo want to text my girlfriend. I know ill get some heartache from what I'm about to say but here goes... maybe someone can relate:

I have been NC and the thing is that it has been 2 full weeks... 14 days since I last had sex. :( I was used to it every day.

If I text her, then maybe shed tell me to go over tonight and then we'd make up. Anyway... I haven't texted or emailed her yet but I was looking for some moral support...

Your thinking is so irrational I don't know where to being... you think she will just have sex with you out of nowhere?? Use your hand... it is less drama, and less heartache.

Moral support in your booty call??

Stick to masturbation, you won't feel guilty in the morning.

These are crazy times for me... thankx for the reality check.

Update... just got word from our mutual friend who called me...

He said that he talked to my girlfriend and that she is "very surprised" that I have not had ANY contact with her! She is starting to wonder why?

:)

Good! Stay strong.

Tell your friends to stop calling you with updates. They are your friends and as much as possible you should try not to get or hear updates as it will always set you back or get you wondering, making excuses for contact.

Well, here's the deal... went out last night and had a GREAT time... :)

BUT>>>>> as I have said before, this guy is a mutual friend of me and my girlfriend... while we were at the clubs.. she texted him and he talked to her telling her about us hanging out.

She told him to tell me that she is sad and the she loves me but she just doesn't know if she can love me AND "live" with me long term, because supposedly she gets annoyed at my behavior?? Seriously... whatever, she's the one who has some issues...

Anyway, what I'm I supposed to do? Its not like I can just let her go but at the same time I don't want to wait for her decision. You know? So, I figure ill continue to go out and if I meet someone then so be it. If my girlfriend decides to "wise up" then I have the choice of getting back with her...

Comments please...

Quit talking about "meeting" someone... is that all you go out for? Just have fun, and see what happens. You have NO business getting involved with another woman right now... NONE. Meeting someone shouldn't even be on your agenda...

Just to refresh your memory

Oh... ok... I won't get involved with anyone... ill just go out and have fun. Thankx for your comments. And justwantfair... its not that I'm asking for updates but my friend tells me them anyway!

I understand you aren't asking, but you need to be telling, I don't want to hear about her... they are your friend, they should be considerate of your feelings. If they know it bothers you, because you tell them, then they will keep you off the update list.