Thank you for your advice everyone!

OK>... im going to do the NC today. And I won't send emails or texts as much I want to...

Ill keep you posted as to what happens!

One last thing... I know you are going to break NC.

Whenever you get the feeling like you want to text, email, call... whatever... post it on this thread! We have been there, and I promise you will feel better venting to us rather than breaking down to her.

OK... thanx for your suppport... when I want to text or email her... ill talk on here first!

Everyone help me out here... I am mad as hell... >:

I can't believe that my GF is ignoring me for a week... after my nice "good morning baby" texts and good night too.

I want to send her an email that I wrote, basically saying that I'm not going to "beg her for her love anymore"... what do you think?

I just can't believe she's this freaking cold to me after ALL we've been through!!

How can she do this? What kind of person does this to one she just said : "i love you soooo much"... last WED night!! As we made love all night long!! $#$%#

The best way to do this is through your actions... DO NOT send her that email... regardless of your message, she will still win if you contact her.

Damn it... ok

Ill do what you say but I'm really pissed.

And hurt. :(

Okay well look I haven't been dating my boyfriend for nearly as long as you, but after the first 6 months I felt as thought my feelings were gone... I figured our through help and LOTS of tears that it was normal. After a while the strong emotions settle into more stabilized feelings. The transition into this thought might scare you. I've been talking about it with my bg and I told him what would annoy me in the relationship, and his being clingy really did it. He would say I love you every 5 minutes and kiss me every two. This weekend thought we hung out with his family so he couldn't act as he usually would and I swear I felt 20 billion times better and way calmer. So maybe what she needs is a bit of time to just be by herself and cool off. She has been with you for 5 years and I'm sure your love is strong, she won't let go that easily. Also if you seem really secure about your relationship and your feeling for her that'll guide her but don't overdue it cause it might just annoy her... girls are SO hard to understand and handle... we really really are.
Also, this might be happening: People change. When they change they don't fit with you as well... and they just need to move on and let you go. Although I REALLY hope this is not the case for you, prepare for the worst and hope for the best. Don't accept it as a reality, but don't totally exclude this as one of the possible outcomes of this relationship.
Also, you NEED self respect to make this relationship work. If you want her, you must regain it. I'm studying psychology and I've learned that if you don't respect yourself you can't respect your love and she can't respect you as you pointed out yourself. Also, don't fore her into coming back to you, you want to make sure that's what she really wants or you will spend your time fighting or she'll pretend all the while. I know she's important to you, but if you love her don't guilt trip her into coming back.
Goodluck!

Wait... so are you saying to have NC with her? Or are you saying to text her every week?

Are you saying I should have some contact with her then??

You breakup and make up... this is not healty. One day you will get tired of being treated badly! When will it be enough for you? My former fiancée and I broke up a few times and tried to stay together... in the end we got the same results.. a broken relationship! Just because your GF is beautiful from the outside... based on your post she is ugly on the inside... she is the one running the show! The golden rule is to treat people how you want to be treated! Man pick yourself up and live life and not wait for your GF. She knows that you are there in waiting...

Well, I DID get tired of her being mean to me the other night and while she was doing all that I thought to myself: "i dont need this from her...shes really unhealthy for me to be around"...

But then a new day and then my love for her comes back... do you know what I mean?

You can love and care about someone and not continue to be subjected to such disrespect! No one said that your feelings will change for a person over night! I am currently going through a bad break up that is bound to get worse! I love my former fiancée however the way things ended and the way that I am currently being treated has me running for the hills... I am not in love with my EX, even though we have memories... I am not looking back at the would have could have... I will celebrate when my whole mess is over! Now it is all about ME! I wish you the best...

I'm saying to give her time off for a bit. Don't go after her, wait for her to come to you.

Look at this way, if you ever want to have any kind of relationship with her you have no choice to go no contact. That is the only way to see if she really loves you and respect you enough to come to you and admit her wrongs. If you keep going back then you will never know.

If after some time she comes back and says she is sorry then she still cares for you. If you never hear from her again that tells you all you need to know.

If she does come back you can't just take her back and act like nothing ever happened. If this sorry excuse for a relationship has any chance you need to get to the bottom of why she treats you like that. The easy answer is because you have let her, and that is were your blame is. However she does not know how to act in a relationship as well. The tantrums, acting like you are mean when you call her on her B.S. is all part of something bigger.

Ask yourself this... do I want to live this life forever? If you end up marring her and having a family you will be taking a huge risk. Can you take the risk of her changing her spots. Is that a risk worth taking.

Walking away is the hardest thing to do. I had to come to that spot in my life as well. Trust me you will never feel better about yourself once you decide to stop being a door mat and be a man.

Thank you for your honesty and comments... it is hard being a man.

I can't BELIEVE THIS xITCH!! $#

Help everyone...

I took everyone's advice to go NC with my GF. But before I did, 2 nights ago, I emailed her just to say "good night" and that I love you and miss you...

I also wrote an email to her saying that I wasn't going to be her doormat anymore... I DID NOT send it - based upon everyone's advice.

BUT here's the deal: she has gone NC with me!. I don't even get the satisfaction of going NC with HER??

What do I do... I feel like she has the upper hand on everything and she doesn't care about me even MORE!! Although she said last week... that I'm her whole world!?

Simple answer... stay NC. This isn't a game...

Dude. Stop right now. Take a deep breath.

Now stay NC. It's only two days! Grow some balls, will you? You know why NC is a show of strength? Because it's f***ing hard! It's harder to do NC than to keep showing your love.

There's a reason why she treats you like a doormat - you behave like that. Also, there is no upper hand or lower hand. You are not playing against her. You are trying to get your life back in control, making yourself happy without her.

Take one day at a time. And for God's sake stop thinking about her. It's hard but it seems you are not making any effort.

I didn't know you were playing a game. Maybe she saw this forum and is actually using the advice the people give her. Listen to me, go and run head first into a brick wall, you will get farther.

No I'm not playing any games but I KNOW from her past behavior that she does, and that's why its BS for her to do this.

Anyway... guess I just wanted to vent. NO I'm not going to break NC...

You all are the ones that are giving me the strengh I need to do so!

Thanks.

But, I'm still pissed. Fyi.