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  • Nov 6, 2010, 06:19 PM
    My ex boyfriend is now back with his ex girlfriend
    Before we dated my ex boyfriend and I were semi close friends. He had gone out with a girl who he LOVED but I didn't know it was that serious. When him and I became closer we began to grow feelings for each other so then we started dating. Once we were together I slowly started finding out how serious his feelings were for his ex. 6 months into our relationship he cheated on me with her but I ended up forgiving him. He told me he didn't like her anymore blah blah and we were good for months but then all of a sudden we started having problems and we both could tell it was coming to an end. I broke up with him but we still talked but then one day he just stopped calling and texting me. Turns out he had been hanging out with his ex girlfriend. This made me feel horrible because I kind of always knew we always loved her when he was with me. Now 4 months after our break up they are together again. I don't know how to feel. How do I get over this? I want to hate him but I can't but it sucks seeing them together. YES, I've seen them together several times and they just act like I'm not even there. This hurts. How can a guy that I dated for almost a year do this to me? What we had obviously never meant anything :/ but now how do I get over this? How do I move on when I think about them together everyday.. HELP! ADVICE!
  • Nov 6, 2010, 06:36 PM

    The attitude you should be having is... why do I care? He's my ex?

    I know you once had feelings for him and you still might but there is nothing you can do about it but actually get on with your life.

    You get over it by no contacting him forever and get on with what you have to do in your life. Simple as that. Well its not that simple but I know how it feels I was in the same position as you.
  • Nov 6, 2010, 10:36 PM

    6 months into our relationship he cheated on me with her
    Sounds like he was never over her to begin with.


    I broke up with him
    You ended it for a reason. For one he cheated you and lost your trust. Stick by your decision.


    How can a guy that I dated for almost a year do this to me?
    As I said before it sounds like he was never really over her. And unfortunately for you it sounds like you may have been just been a rebound at the time.
    Id say let this one go and find someone who is more deserving of your love and attention. I'm sorry you've had to go through this. I hope things get better for you. If you ever need a place to vent feel free to use this site.
  • Nov 7, 2010, 01:15 AM

    He was Lost and confused That time , he didn't want to be lonely , and when he notice you guys are getting closer together, he liked you , but let me explain for you between liking some one and loving some one , Love you already know what it's it's to be with that person for ever , and liking it's the first look but if that feeling stayed trust me it can change any min , with love heart beats for it , and with liking heart won't beat , it's just he wants to stay with you , some people take secondes to fall in love and some people mix it up love with liking , but it's two different words and different feelings too , first of all I'm proud of you of one thing you said it here , that you forgived him when you find out he is cheating on you, it's rare to find good women like you really forgiven their lover ones if they cheat on them, I'm proud of you , and you are good person who was faithful and commitment for relationship, and that guy was alone and you moved away his lonleynes , he was stupid enough to go back to his ex , but didn't under stand you was there for him , you are better then him and better then his ex too , you are stronger , and I really want you to be proud of yoruself and move on , you helped that jerk , and type people like him are a lot in this world , if it was female or male , any way I want you to countinue what you was doing , and don't regrate about nothing , you did good and I'm proud of you , just think about that you helped him , and you are better then him too , he was so attached to his ex , and you break up with him in perfect time , you have to under stand at that time you break up with him , he won't even stay as friend like before , I want you to stay cool and relax and let it go , and be strong , and act like nothing happened , even if you see them together pertend every thing is all right and smile for them , you will find a better guy who will under stand you.:)
  • Nov 7, 2010, 07:02 AM

    He cheated with her on you once, and you forgave him, but he obviously he kept it up, so he wasn't worth it any way it seems. You are hurt now, and can't see that its you that dodged a bullet because chances are he would have hurt you again. You will heal, and be glad you dumped him TWICE.
  • Nov 8, 2010, 03:47 PM
    Thanks for all the great advice! :) I'm strong & know I can move on..
  • Nov 8, 2010, 05:39 PM

    He's not worth another thought. Go find happiness. You deserve it.
  • Jul 10, 2012, 08:57 PM
    Hi I am in a similar situation my boyfriend moved me 150 miles to get a house with him after seeing him for 6 months I lived with him for 4 months then he ended it and I found out today that he is seeing his ex again I am heartbroken his ex used to hit him and abuse him and all I have ever done is be good to him so please don't think you are on your own xxx

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