Excellent Excon, I liked the way you explained this. Thank you!

I think it really depends on the person, as to whether it will lead to cheating.

But... Please consider this: if there is something that feels wrong about him looking at porn to you (and despite what people say, porn is NOT just "a womans romance novel"... When you read a romance novel, are you touching yourself, being sexually gratified, by an imaginary character? Probably not... ) then maybe it's not you. Maybe it's not your fault that you're feeling bad.

It's awful to have to think that someone you love who you want FULL commitment from is whacking one off to the images of another girl. Maybe HE needs to RESPECT your feelings, instead of making you feel like you're in the wrong. No matter what the feminists say, we're still living in a male dominated society and were taught that a woman's emotions are wrong. That's not the case. Listen to your heart. If him watching porn is hurting you, then he has a part to do in this as well. This is not something you alone need to fix. This is something you both need to work on together, even if it means he has to give up porn, and you have to give up your romance novels (seriously, that comparison is so ridiculous to me).

I'm tired of people indicating that a woman has to fix her emotions to be "right" like a man. We need to start meeting somewhere in the middle, people.