Married but still have feelings for EX?
I am married and have feelings for ex. I have no idea why this is occurring now, I am starting to catch feelings. Why is this? It has been yrs since we broken up and think the reason we broke up is because I was moving at the time and I figured that it wasn't going to work with having a long distance relationship with him. Of course I didn't tell my ex that at the time. I just kind of blew him off. Well I met someone before I moved and that person is now my husband. We did the long distance relationship for a few months and during those months he moved me back up. Anyway Well I am married with 2 kids and so is he with one on the way but he contacts me on aim occassionly. Why?
How does he feel?
Here was our last conversation:

Ok it started as hi how are you etc...
Him: Do my tax
Me: you can do it!
Me:Why choose me to do it?
Me: I guess I am special
Him:yes you are :)
---Next day
He im's me of course
Him: yo
Me: hey :)
Me: miss me?
Him: of course I miss you lol
Him: but you don't miss me lol
Me: Actually I do can't believe I just said that
Him: wow you do with smilyface
Me:told him I was mad at hubby
Him: you can talk to me
Me: I can't talk to someone I feelings for. Whew! Got that off my chest. Don't know why but I do
Him: lol wow
Him: you feel like that
Him; I didn't know you still feel like that
Him: BRB time for work
(then he signs off

So did I Just get dissed.. lol

A few days ago he asked so when are you going to cook for me? I said are you serious and he says lol could be

I really do love my husband and I would never cheat. Trust me on that. I like to be friends with him but nothing more. One thing about chatting with him online is that I never will im-contact him he is always contacting me. So should I just stop talking to him period? Why do exes want to stay in contact anyway?

So let me get this straight, you tell your ex, that you have feelings for him - your considering spending time with him, but you won't cheat on your husband? This to me sounds exactly how cheating starts.
Tho it looks to me that he's a big charmer, and may consider you his booty-call.

Perhaps he's bored, or maybe he still loves you. Only he can really say if he is or isent..

No I am not considering spending time with him at all whatsoever. I know that is out of the question

This looks like a path to disaster. Like the above poster said, he is a charmer. He'll get to you, you'll find yourself thinking about him more and more and what could have been with him and less about your husband. The last thing you'd want is for this to go so far as to ruin marriages with innocent kids involved.

If you love your husband and would never cheat, what is the point in telling your ex you still have feelings for him? And asking him if he misses you? What exactly do you want to happen with this situation? The only thing I can see coming out of this situation is just that- cheating!

He probably keeps contacting you because it's obvious that you're interested in him still. I'm sure he still has some lingering feelings for you and he probably wouldn't mind a hook up here and there. I would agree that you should not tell him about problems with you and your husband. He WILL tell you what you want to hear, which will complicate your feelings even more. Some occasional casual small talk just to catch up with each other is one thing, but this is borderline innapropriate, especially since you are both married with children!

Just my opinion, but I'd stay clear of this situation and stop talking to him!

Don't respond anymore. That way you won't "catch" anything. Nip this in the bud.

You are treading on a dangerous path.
You are both married with kids.

Exs are exs. Nuff said.

Look forward not in the past.

You are doing nothing but stirring up old feelings in yourself, that can only distract you from reality, and wondering about fantasy. Doesn't matter what he feels about you. You are married with two kids, HEL-LO!

I fantasize all the time. But never forget what's real.

Does your fantasy include ruining 2 relationships?

Ask your husband what he thinks of your post. Your conversation w/him. Include the smiley faces.
How you are in touch & flirting with your ex.

What was the question again?