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    May 10, 2012, 07:29 PM
    Confused about girl situation
    It's kind of a weird situation that will take some explaining, but I'll do my best..

    So it started me meeting this one girl (girl A), and I liked her for a while but she didn't feel the same way. Turns out she was just leading me on for a long time and was seeing some other guy most of the time.
    However, while she was doing this, one of her friends (girl B) liked me, and so girl A was telling her friend, girl B, to pursue me.
    Girl B had been in a relationship for 2 years or so, but that had ended a few months prior. We started texting each other every day and things like that, when eventually it started to heat up a bit and she was sending me photos of her in her underwear and things like that. I was in the process of moving to the city where she'd also recently moved, and she suggested we be sex buddies.
    Meanwhile the whole time I was still into girl A, but found out she really didn't like me the same way and was messing with me and girl B. Eventually everything got figured out, and me and girl B were both mad at girl A for while. She really helped me get through the situation and eventually we started hanging out and fooling around.
    For a few weeks I would go to her house, or her to mine and we'd cuddle and kiss for hours. A few times it went a bit further then that, and we almost had sex one time but decided against it at the last minute.

    After a few weeks pass, I find myself really liking girl B, but then she decides to call it all off.
    It turns out that her ex (who was a friend of a friend of mine, but who I wasn't really friends with) and her had almost got back together a few times while she was texting me and sending the photos of herself, so he was upset about that. But the whole time she would always complain about how he'd make her life hell and was just a terrible person.

    Anyway her reasoning for not wanting to get together anymore was that she didn't want ex to be mad at her. Even though she didn't love him anymore, if he hated her she would be sad.

    I still like her a bunch, and she's told me that there's no real chance of anything happening, but I don't want to give up just yet.

    Sorry for the long-winded post, but I'd be grateful for any advice.
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    May 10, 2012, 07:31 PM
    Yes, don't mess around with friends of current girl friends.

    And start looking for girl C.
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    May 10, 2012, 08:00 PM
    Neither of them was my girlfriend. I liked the first one but she didn't like me, then the second one liked me and eventually I liked her too but then she stopped it so sh didn't further upset her ex, who none of her friends or family like because he was such a jerk.
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    May 11, 2012, 03:36 AM
    I know where you're coming from.

    I'm in that girls situation at the moment too. Perhaps she doesn't know who to choose, or perhaps she really does like this guy.

    If you think this guy she likes will mess it up soon then you should wait or just stay single but have fun.

    If you're not prepared to wait for her then move on and get girl C.

    Hope this helped.
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    May 11, 2012, 07:49 AM
    Yeah I guess. I don't really fall for girls very often, but when I do, it's hard.
    So it kind of sucks I guess.
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    May 11, 2012, 08:19 AM
    There's always another girl out there for you. Let yourself have some fun for now and see what happens.
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    May 11, 2012, 10:05 AM
    I think maybe try looking around for someone else... I mean, I hope I don't offend but she made it clear that nothing will ever happen between you too so... I'm sure you'll find someone else! Just keep an open mind :)
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    May 12, 2012, 06:17 PM
    So last night I got really drunk, and she started texting me, so I said a bunch of stuff, and she said she likes me but it doesn't matter. Girls are weird
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    May 13, 2012, 01:32 PM
    Especially when you are drunk!
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    May 13, 2012, 11:37 PM
    That's true, but I hadn't even thought about contacting her, and then just out of no where she sends me a message about a funny situation that came up one night we spent together. I can't find a way in, but I can't get out either.
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    Jun 6, 2012, 11:40 PM
    So one night we were both out at separate places with different people, and she messages me and asks if I was coming to where she was (I had planned to go before I knew she was going, but then I changed my plans).
    I told her I was heading home, and she started saying how she would like to come home with me. I told her she was just drunk and to drop it, but she insisted, but said she had no way to get to my house, so I just went to sleep. Then in the morning I get another message saying how much she regretted not coming over and stuff like that.

    So later that night I ask her if she wants to come over and she fell back on the " nothing can ever happen" thing, and that she just wants to be friends without all of this. So I told her I don't want to deal with that, so we shouldn't talk anymore.

    Did I handle this (somewhat) okay?
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    Jun 6, 2012, 11:46 PM
    Reasonably well, but you should have completely ignored her and never got back in touch with her. Now you know.

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