I've like this guy for 8 - 10 months his name was lets say Scott. Scott and I never actually went out but we liked each other. Said ' I love you' and held hands did what normal couples would do. He didn't ask because he wanted to be 100% sure if out relationship would last. I liked him a lot though.. there would be times where he hurt me he would take me for granted and not really consider my feelings and every time I wanted to tell him something he would say that's enough or shh -- shhh. One day I decided to bring it up with him and we had this big fight. So that was the end of that. While me and scott has a thing there would be other girls who flirt with him and seemed like he flirt back but he said never to doubt it so I didn't and never did.

Well after a few months this other guy liked me. Im not sure if I went out with him to forget about scott or not or I just want to move on. But me and my new boyfriend are going okay.. so - so He apologised for being a bad boyfriend but his caring at times.
Anyway after scott found out I've been dating we've been just friends
We bumped into each other on boxing day but didn't have enough time to take a good look at each other or exchange words. When I was home we talked a bit and the next day we met up me him another 2 friends. We went out and about and ended up at a park near my house. We were talking about things and he said he still loved me and I cried. Because it felt so right being with him and we had this big talked.. I saw him again. And I kissed him I feel unfaithful and bad for my boyfriend I was going to end it with my boyfriend but I couldn't. I don't know what to do whether to let go for my feelings for my ex (let bygones be bygones) or should I tell my boyfriend what I did and see how he responds. Or some other way.. I don't know what to do

Please don't fall for that. Your ex is trying to break you up, since he didn't care before, did he? Actually, you should leave them both alone, because you care nothing for the new guy, and the old guy is playing games. Your choice, just try to do what you think is right.

Well first thing you need to do is break up with your current boyfriend, regardless of whether you get back with your ex or not. Bc its clear your not really in love with him and leading someone on and the longer things go on only causes more pain and heartache in the end. If you really wanted to be with your current boyfriend you would have said more about him than he likes me and things are going OK so staying with him is not fair to him, give him the chance to move on and find someone else...

For your ex, on again off again relationships very rarely work out because he will always keep himself open to the idea of moving on to someone else. When they are not willing to acknowledge the relationship 100% its because they already believe it won't work out so they're waiting for the failure to happen. And they are usually willing to cheat if they happen to meet someone else. Unfortunately this comes from experience. The only way that relationship is going to work is if he is willing to give himself 100% to your relationship, and acknowledge it as bf/gf. If he is hesitant or distant in any way then its not going to work out.

I had a friend/boyfriend like that. It went on for years. We could go months without talking then pick up just like that. When we were together it was the best times ever, and I will never forget them. But then he would just kind of give me the cold shoulder, and we wouldn't talk again for a while. One day I just confronted him about it. I told him exactly how I felt, and he said he really did care for me, and maybe even love me, but we were so close, and it it scared him. He told me he was terrified of commitment, and that the only way he could commit to anyone would be if he didn't have any feelings for them. So I guess it was more a fear of sepparation, of losing someone he cared for. He wanted to keep the happy memories of us, and not ruin it by being a jerk, like he has always done in the past. We both agreed to part ways for a while.
A year later, I got an email from him appologising for jerking me around, and he wished he could have made a good honest go of an actual relationship.


So anyway... I guess my point is, it's an emotional rollercoaster. At some point you have to decide when enough is enough. When you don't want your heart jerked around anymore, you call it quits. Find a guy who's worth your time and who you actually want to be around and who is not afraid to give himself to you as well. Relationships are give and take. Don't settle for one sided.