Broken friendship or depression?
I have a friend who two years ago stopped talking to me for four months because she was suffering from clinical depression, and withdrew. During that time, she would not respond to letters, emails, etc. We had been inseparable before that. Since then, our friendship was more distant.
However, during our friendship, she's seen me do a lot of stupid and unkind things.
A year and a half ago, she changed jobs, and I have not been able to spend much time with her. I have invited her to several things this year, mostly related to holidays. Every time, she has declined OR something has come up. I asked her whether she was dropping hints, and she said that she was just busy. She said she didn't have time for her own kid. In fact two months ago, she said she wanted to see me, that things would get less crazy at work. However, a month passed and she didn't call me. She politely declined to attend a small party at my house earlier this month.
I reacted badly, sending a text "So what else is new?" I also sent snail mail saying "It looks like you no longer want to be my friend. I'd love it if you changed your mind." I let her know that I didn't believe in discarding friends, so I would welcome her becoming friends later. Some emails and texts, however, took a more bullying tone, "I knew you didn't like me." "I see you've finally decided to be honest with me," etc. Another letter told my feelings of regret for not giving her the benefit of the doubt, fear that she didn't like me, and uncertainty about what was going on. I received no response. The only thing she has done is blocked invitations from MyPunchBowl.com (like eVite). I sent a reply asking why, and she did not reply. I have received no other communication from her, whatsoever. It's been about a month and a half.
Is it more likely that she's decided that she no longer wants to be my friend or that she's depressed again?