My partner won't have sex with me no more(possibly because of problems)
Hi people
I am only 19 and my boyfriend is 23. We have been together nearly 18 months now. Hes the perfect hubby, cooks my meals, wakes me up with a cup of tea and a fag in the morning, only he works, he makes the bed etc. I clean, do the washing, the dishes, feed and walk our dogs, ironing etc. So why am I so unhappy just because our sex has dwindled to about once every 2 weeks? I know it happens but am 19, not 90 for gods sake. I feel so frustrated and I carn't help but aim my frustration at him. I don't want to have to lower myself to begging my hubby for sex, no woman should!
Oh, I hear it all "I'm tired, I've got a bad head, I've got work......" etc etc etc. Guess what! If I'm tired, ill, got a headache etc etc etc - I still put the effort in! So why carn't he? When we met for the first 8 months it was sex at least once every two days. And now I just carn't help but rant and rave and generally take it all out on him. I'm sorry I do, but I feel so unwanted, miserable, depressed and angry ( yes, there is a lot of anger) and spend the night crying away and then sleeping all day. And what does he say? "Shut up, I'm trying to sleep, can you give it a rest, just calm down darlin' and go to sleep" CALM DOWN!! CALM DOWN!?
WHY, do they always want you to calm down? Don't they understand women will calm down when they don't feel unwanted, secondhand, useless unattractive little whimpering, whining dogs? Cause men seem to do this without even realising it. One thing I do know for sure is; he isn't cheating on me. I just wish he would stop acting little a little old biddy. And I am worried because He is seriously making me violent, he winds me up so much. I threw a mug at his head months ago and guess what? It was a good shot! He was really asking for it because he had the nerve to accuse me of cheating on HIM and then wouldn't listen to my answer.
Yeh, get real.
On the bright side of life - We are like best friends, we do get on 90% of the time and are generally seen as a nice polite young couple who love each other deeply. I am currently under a load of pressure trying to rent private with a staffordshire bull terrier and, just what any landlord doesn't want, a Rottweiler. I have been counting the number of rejections, they are currently 59. He carn't do much because he's got his job to focus on and I have told him so. As it is though, we are also living with my bit of a nightmare mother who lies in bed all day, expecting me and him to care for all her house for her, look after a braindamaged child ( my step-brother) and her dog and cook all her meals and bring them up to her with cups of tea. As if we didn't have enough to do. And the best bit.
Carn't say no. Even though we are paying her rent, its not official so she can basically just chuck us out if it suits her, which if we push our luck, she may and she's said so. She expects everything from us both and is literally draining our lives!
We are on the council housing list for a home because I think that they will be the only homes that will let us take the pets, I won't get rid of them because they were my responsibility from the day I bought them, and I would not simply throw them into a shelter. Yes, you could say I'm keeping myself down the pit, but to myself and him they are extremely precious and the only time I would get rid of them would be if I couldn't care for them. Why should we be leniant because Landlords aren't?
And to top it off, he wants children, but for me that's a big NO! NO! In our current situation and would not be a pleasant pregnancy for me still living with mummy dear. Thankfully, he agrees.
Comment on Cat1864's post
It would help if he came home at night, 20 past 2am and I'm still waiting for him to come in when I was up all last night as well. (sigh) I think he's at his mates home
Comment on simoneaugie's post
I am with GPM properties in ellesmere port, which is were I wish to live in the uk. I haven't seen a search criteria for dogs on the letting agencies websearches, and the port is a medium town with not many homes available anyway, our bad luck.