I am the ex-wife (10 years), with 2 children to the deceased, aged 15 and 19. I would like to sit with my children, but am told I can't. The deceased's ex-facto is to sit in the front row with my children, the mother of the deceased and his brother and brother's family. I have offered to sit immediately behind the family with my children, but this has been refused. What is the protocol in this situation?