Custodial parent being deployed
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My ex-husband and I have been divorced since 2002. We have a 8 yr old son. Our son lives with his dad, who was just stationed out in California. Our son visits me in MI every summer, over major holidays and even lived with me for the entire school year 2 years ago. My ex is remarried as am I. I am under the impression that my ex is about to be shipped out to Iraq in the next few months. He is active duty, 1st Lt. in the USMC. A few months ago I asked my ex if it was a possibility that he would be getting shipped out, as he has moved from FL to OK and now CA, in a years time. He told me that he would not be getting shipped out soon, but if and when he did that himself and his wife have already discussed the fact that our son would have to stay in CA to finish the school year. That it wouldn't be in our sons best interest if he were to move back to MI in the middle of the school year.
Naturally I feel this is wrong... I feel that it would be better for our son to move back with me while his dad is gone, instead of staying in CA with his step-mother.
What can I do to make sure that our son comes back to live with me while his dad is gone, which could be more than a year.
We share joint custody, the divorce took place in CA in 2002 and I have lived in MI ever since.
I do not have a lawyer, as we have been able to resolve issues ourselves over the years. But I can tell that he is not ready to budge on this one.
Please help...