After thirty years of marriage I found out my husband cheated while we were engaged
I found out my husband of thirty years was sleeping with someone for many weeks while we were engaged. Things are finally making sense now. When he gave me my ring he told me "we aren't going to tell people we are engaged". During the months following I got pregnant. He gave me no choice but to have an abortion. I never understood how he couldn't agree to get married. I've lived with the guilt of that for years. Now I wonder if he was sleeping with her while this happened. I feel like a fool. Like I was deceived. The only info he gave me was that he stopped after realizing she was willing to sleep with anyone. He wouldn't give me a name. No specifics, claiming he couldn't remember her name. Yet he admitted to seeing her in a drugstore about fifteen years ago. So clearly she left an impression. I am so angry. I can't stand this... I told him I wouldn't ever bring it up. I gagged myself! And when I make any reference to that sort of thing he totally ignores it. I want to scream at him! My sister says he was young and stupid. Everyone tells me to get over it, it was a lifetime ago.