i really like a girl who has a boyfriend.. just don't know where i stand, advice?
Hi all,
sorry about the huge block of text..
Basically I'm crazy about a girl I work with, but she has a boyfriend. They have been going out for around 3 years but they are in a really weak relationship, as in they don't see each other much, she's really really nice and he's abit of a nob, as in he doesn't make the effort to go see her and he takes some sort of drug although she never said which. They where basically broken up at one point about a month ago but a few days ago they started saying love you etc on facbeook. Her friends don't like him much and everyone at work who knows him says he's abit of a moron.
Anyway I've worked with her for about a year now but never really felt this way until about 4-5 months ago, when at work we email each other all the time and outside of work we text as well, she's never said she likes me anymore than a friend, I just felt abit lead on at times, but she's such a nice person she wouldn't do it on purpose, so I don't know if its just her being really nice or there's something there.. about a month ago we where both out on a Friday night, and about 10pm I got a text asking me to come see her etc, so I went to see her and her best friends.. boyfriend told me that her boyfriend is a **** and he thinks she likes me... as she waited apprently quite along time for me to arrive, we had a good night etc and I walked her home after. She lived bloddy miles away so was along walk and we talked for along time, I refused to make a move that night as she's still officially in a relationship so it wouldn't be right, that's all that happened then. After that we kept emailing and texting and last night we went out together, technically her closet friend invited me out (I hardly know her so obv something was said) so I went out and we had a really good night, went to a club and few pubs and I got abit drunk but still had control of myself.. so afterwards I got a lift back into town for a drink just the 2 of us, and aftewards I walked her home, and I decided I would tell her everything as I don't want to regret not knowing where I stand, so I told her I liked her and that I'm crazy about her but won't do anything about it as she's in a relationship, just wanted her to know. She seemed pleased or flattered that I like her, she didn't say she didn't like me but she also didn't say she wanted anything to happen.. was more me just telling her, she said "its complicated" and I suggested that we're both loyal, as in I wouldn't want her to cheat and she hadn't ended it with her boyfriend, after that we kept making each other laugh and joked about etc, I was drunk and sort of said I love her loads and kissed her (cheek), hugged and walked home... (nerly finished). I text her in the morning saying thanks for inviting me out had a great time, and I said I meant everything I said.. so she didn't just think it was drunken jubberish, and she replied saying : okay but we're just going to have to be good friends, and we will be great friends... which is sort of the ultra doomed kiss of death, I'm just confused if she means at this point in time we're just going to have to be good friends as I'm still technically in a relationship.. or if she just meant in general I'm not interested :S, there definitely seems to be something between us, what confuses me though is if she does like me but wants to at least try with this guy or if I'm just taking all her messages the wrong way, she does speak to me diff to her other friends, but she's never said she likes me, she just seems to hint in, just don't know if its on pupose lol. Like at work she is really shy near me, she will walk straight past without saying hi or anything, and sometimes she will walk out the opposite door to not walk past me.. and if we do happen to bump into each other we get on really well. But she will still email me, if I don't send her any messages she sends some to me, and then when we leave work we often text each other, even though she replys reaaalllyy slow, like its 2 hours imbetween each text.. HEELLPPP lol :S
big love, thanks =)