Hello everyone! I am in need o serious advice. This guy I am ( guessing) seeing is MAD CONFUSING! Okay, first of all I have always been told to look into someone's eyes, for they NEVER LIE, so here's the issue. He and I work together, were real cool, friends, you know? Then one day he gathered the courage to give me his phone number. I was elated, cause I was always diggin him anyway, but because I didn't want to make an a&& of myself, I never told him, for he has this like sarcastic sense of humor, and I didn't want to embarrass myself. Anyway, on our first phone conversation he asked me if I was the type of female that feels like she could take a dude's money or paycheck. I told him no and asked if I gave off that type of character. He said no, but because I'm so pretty, many dudes on the wing that he works all be in awe over me. Anyway, 3 days later, he came over my house and we talked for hours, then, all of a sudden, we kissed, made out, then had sex(I hadn't had sex in four in a half months!oh god was it good!) afterwards, he was all giddy, trying to hide his, I don't know, happiness to get some smiles! 2 days later, he was like, man you sucked! I was really disappointed in the sex, but after a while, he was like I'm just playing, and we got a lot closer. I asked him how he felt about me, and if he just wanted to... you know bump uglies, and he said maybe... but everyday at work, when I come to that wing, he comes racing around the corner, follows me around, and openly plays with me. Then, one day last week he tells everyone I got some fire... ( sex, but he didn't say that my sex was fire to them, he told me) then as usual, things were going so beautifully, he was calling me every other day or so, cause I told him that we don't need to smother each other with daily calls, but if he felt like calling me, he could. Like I said, things were approaching the good relationship... well almost status, until last Tuesday. All of a sudden, when he came over my house, he was like, I've got feelings, yanno... I want to get married, someday. I told him that marriage scares me, but before I could finish my sentence he began talking again,saying nobody likes him, I said I like you, what's the deal? He said you don't count. I'm talking about my family. Then he sat down and I told him that I am really feeling him and enjoy his conversation, sense of humor and time we spend together. Again, before I could finish my sentence, he started in... and was like: you don't know enough about me to like me, there is a lot about me that you don't know and if you find it out,how do you know you'll still like me? I was going to answer him, but I saw pain on his face when he spoke to me... he continued: I've got a lot of bagage, and I'm just saying, people be like why would somebody like that like him, and I think to myself, dang, why does this person like me? Or does this person like me for real? I almost started crying because I never waste my feelings,time or play with ones feelings... but he started saying that we aren't on the same levels, and that I'm out of his league... and its hard for him to start a relationship after the sex happens so soon... I cried myself to sleep, woke up numb, and went to work the next day, only to go on the wing he works to find him standing there waiting for me, smiling, and playing like usual. I was still very hurt, but I brushed my bruises off and went on. When he sat down though, I saw the same look of hurt on his face as if he's still trying to figure out if I'm going to play him out like his ex did( broke up 19mnths ago) she dumped him for a guy with a lot of money... I told one of my guy friends about our conversation and he said that the guy is afraid that I'm going to play him, take his feelings for granted, you know all the things loosers do to people. I have called him yesterday and today, and gotten no response. Usually my gut would tell me if I'm wasting my feelings and I should move on, but this time is not the case... my gut is saying take it slow and see what happens next... what would you do?. misswannabewithhim :confused:
