I have a three year old, I am to be married Saturday, July 7, 2007. My soon to be husband wants to adopt my son. My sons father lives in MD and I live in FL, he does pay child support (court ordered) and because he is in the reserves they require him to. For the three years my son has been in my life his father has had very limited visitation, he moved to MD to be with his new wife and her family and now only wants to see my son one week every 4 or 5 months. This is very damaging to my son, I am made to feel like I have to force him to go with this man who is a stranger to my son. After a few days my son becomes depressed and cries not at all his normal self. When his father calls every few days, my son refuses to talk to him, crying and screaming running into a different room. My soon to be husband is the only man my son knows as daddy, not for lack of trying. We spent a long time trying to get him to understand that this was "Jon" not daddy, but how to do explain to a three year old that the man he sees every day is not daddy.
Do I have a case, or a possibility of doing something about this? Or do the courts care that the relationship with his true father is only damaging my son emotional status?? Please help with whatever advice you have... thanks!