Daughter won't talk to me
About 3 years ago my daughter moved away to college. Myself and her step mom sacrificed and save to be able to help her for 15 years. Working extra late nights etc. We told her how much we had saved for her (20k) and told her she had to manage that with her goals. I wanted to site down with her and get a good solid plan together but she always told me she is taking care of it and I shouldn't worry. So myself and her step mom flew her to school, got her setup in the dorm then as an extra gift offered to help her even more with a monthly allowance of $175 for necessities. She agreed and I said only things you need and that we will do the monthly thing as long as we can afford it and just think of as extra. The day we took her she told me what a great father I was and just how much she cared and admired me. As time went on I noticed the tuition payments were large and her 20k wasn't going to go much further. She called me for extra money from time to time and I would fold and give it to her. I went and checked one day after I sent her an extra 40 cause she said she had no groceries and the next day on the card I noticed she went out and bought indian cuisine for 38 bucks. I called and asked her why she lied and she said a friend gave her the money so she did that to pay her back. A couple months later I again found a charge that was questionable so I researched it and found out it was an Adult book store. Once again I called her and she said she had to get some special moisturizer for her skin. Then a month or 2 later I found out she bought a cat. Finally I called her and said can you please only use the money for necessities I have worked hard and sacrificed for this and you are buying pets? She then said well if you are going to "hold money over my head" I don't want it. I said if that is how you feel then that is fine. I didn't hear from her in a couple weeks and was calling and calling finally I got an email about how she does not agree how I spend my money and how I use to abuse her by calling her names. I called her financially illiterate in one conversation she said which I acknowledged and she said she couldn't remember the others and no one would know because I did this in "Secret". She won't see me it's been about 18 months she won't talk to me even when I was in the hospital for emergency surgery. I send her care packages and leave her voice mails telling her I love her about once a week but nothing. The last thing she told me was to go to a councilor which I did and took the advice of them but she still won't even talk to me. I am very depressed over this and not sure what to do.