How do I tell my family I'm moving
Hi,
I'm a 26 year old woman in England and I recently got into a relationship with a 27 year old woman in Scotland; I live in a village of about 280 people 2 hours away from my girlfriend and I have a lot of family here including my parents and grandparents who have both tried their best to control every single aspect of my life and made me feel like utter crap (And made me cry) if I ever did something they didn't like (go to university, go on holiday, date a girl, get a cat, gained weight, was too loud, read too much, swallowed a drink too loud etc).
But I love them, despite all that; I'm very close with my mam and my grandma.
I'm not happy here, I never have been, I've tried to get out over and over and the only reason I stayed was because a really good career option came up that had the potential to get me out in around 2 years.
I don't have any friends here, I missed out on making any by going to Uni far away, and before that I just didn't socialize.
My family aren't supportive of anything I do.
I'm not earning enough to live; my rent is ridiculous and my electric company is trying to wring me dry.
Some of my colleagues use me as a scapegoat and it got so bad I was signed off for a week by the Dr for depression and suicidal thoughts.
However in Scotland I have friends from university, I can transfer my job up there, and my girlfriend and her flatmate have told me to move in with them to save on bills - and I've got nothing to lose by doing that, so I'm going to.
But I don't know how to tell my family; this relationship is only 3 months old so I know they're going to freak out about me moving in with her, but what's the point of getting a flat myself if I'm just going to move in with her in another few months?
Plus they don't like the fact I'm dating another woman, so I've already got that against me.
I was thinking I could tell them I got a new job up there and I'm moving in with my girlfriend to save money. But I'm not sure that will work, and I'm worried that I'll only be able to give them 2 weeks warning from getting a job.
I won't move until I have a job lined up for sure, so it could be months down the line, or it could be mid Jan, who knows?
I'm just scared they're going to hate me for it. I've already messed things up with them by getting a girlfriend, this will just run salt in their wounds.
I know it's their problem if they don't like it but I still feel horribly guilty about it; they're my family and I don't want to hurt them.
Any advice?