Does the girlfriend of my guyfriend want to be friends or only nice because of him?
My guy friend ( of around 8 years we wrestled on the same team gr 6-12,he was the team captain of the high school wrestling team I wrestled on, now he’s a university wrestler and I’m a female middle school wrestling coach) has a girlfriend he’s been dating for around 4 years. I think of her as also being my friend and she’s always been friendly towards me but when I see her with him its like she’s a good friend of mine and I enjoy hanging out with both of them but when he’s not around it’s like she’s a friend of a friend.
So lately it’s seemed like she isn’t actually my friend but is just nice to me because I’m friends with her boyfriend. Which is annoying because I don’t have very many girlfriends ( I am a bit shy and she’s really outgoing) and I think of her boyfriend as a good friend ( and like an older brother to me,even though he’s the same age as me). Also after high school most of my friends moved away ( and he’s away at university, home during holidays, some weekends, and summer) but her and I both still live in our small hometown so we see each other often. ( the 3 of us are age 20, turning 21 this year).
So do you think we are friends, how do I become better friends with her, is she jealous of my friendship with her boyfriend?