Please help.. she is so confused!
Hello guys.. Just been having a problem since few months..
I met this girl about 6 months back. We smsed each other. She told me on day 1 that she had a boyfriend.. and asked me not to flirt with her.. but I was taken aback when she started flirting the next day and used to tell me then that I din't know how to flirt. I enjoyed her company and started flirting with her.. with no other intention in mind. We use to only sms each other the first month. But we use to share thousands of smses everymonth with her boyfriend having no idea about it. We came very close to each other by exchanging these smses. She use to tell her boyfriend that she's going to sleep and talk to me over sms till 6 in the morning. I wasn't complaining. Cause I was enjoying her company and started liking her too.
One day, her boyfriend came to know about her sharing so many smses and our friendship.. and he was very uncomfortable with it.. felt very jealous. We use to still talk a lot and she use to lie to him most of the time.
They were in a serious relationship for more than 2 and half yrs.. and things weren't going good in the last 6 months cause of future instability.
But they still loved each other.
It had been almost 3 months and we came close to each other.. met couple of times.. spoke endlessly on the phone. Her boyfriend had a problem and he asked her to stop talking to me. But she negated and told him that he has to accept his friends. Finally one day he broke up. She says the main reason was that he couldn't take our friendship.
We were close but were never physical. After her breakup she was very very sad. Cause she really loved him a lot. Meanwhile we came even closer. Got physical.
I was really happy with ''us'' I was really thinking long term with her. Thought when she'd get over him, We could commit. We became so close we use to say love you many times and share everything.
I used to ask her whether she misses her boyfriend.. and she used to say no no.. And I found out one day that she was cheating on me now.
When I'd gone out of state, she met her ex cause he still loved her and she too. She met him couple of times and spoke to her on the phone slyly. For the entire month and never told me all that. When I used to ask, she just faked it, always. She even kissed her ex when I was out of state.
Then her ex came to know somehow that she use to tell me I love you and tell him I love you too. Clearly she was double timing. Agreed, she was pretty disturbed that month. Her ex got my number and told me about that. I was shocked to know. How can she hide? I was so good to her. I always asked her whether she missed him or not.. everything.
I was planning to leave her. I called her that night.. just to ask why did she cheat? Why did she back (She told her ex I was a big fighter cock... she told him that SHE WOULD NEVER COMMIT TO ME)
( I CAME TO KNOW ALL THAT CAUSE HER EX AND I HAD A LONG CONVERSATION ABT WHT SHE USED TO TELL EACH OTHER)
She started crying. Anytime I ask her direct questions, she always.. always starts crying. She did it that night too. She said that I always used to fight when she mentioned her missing her ex and she din't want to lose me. But at the same time she still had feeling for her ex. So she said I'm sorry I was a selfish. She said that she was very disturbed and she was planning to tell me in few days.
I hate people who fake and hide things. I couldn't believe the person whom I loved so much, hid and faked things. That night when I was out of town.. she switched off her phone, just so that I can't contact her and spoke to her ex for hours.
She cried a lot that night and said sorry. She said that she has realized her mistake. And she was this new person now who would never hide or fake.
Since I loved her so much and since she was really very important to me.. I accepted her apology.. but from inside it killed me that in my absence she hid, faked and kissed her ex and called him slyly all month long. That night she said she doesn't know whom she loves more. Me or her ex.
Then next day, I asked her.. do you think of getting back to her ex. She said that there is a 40% chance. ( Few days before she promised me she'll never ever commit back to her ex)
Now she says.. that she wants to get over her ex and commit to me in the future but has no surity. She said there might be a chance she might get back with her ex. I got angry and then she said give me 3 months and I'll let you know whether I can be with you.
I'm really confused with this girl. She says she wants to get over her ex and at the same time says in future there might be a chance that she might want to commit to her ex but tells me there is a 90% chance that she might commite to me in the future.
ACCORDING TO HER SHE can't COMMIT TO ME RIGHT NOW CAUSE SHE ISN'T 100% OVER HER EX.
I love this girl. But now its taking a toll on me. I don't know what to do. Please help!
Can't trust her at all after what she did to me.